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How do I maintain a strong sense of self-confidence after being bullied?

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Last Updated: 01/07/2019 at 11:54am
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Top Rated Answers
awesomeSnow93
January 7th, 2019 11:54am
Knowing that whatever happened isn’t our fault, knowing that we are special for who we are. Sometimes people that make others feel bad are the first ones having some self issue, and for this reason with time and understanding we should feel compassionate for those others, and maybe ask directly them if are in needing of some help. We should always remember how much worth we are, and understand that sometimes bad things can happen, and we can’t have control on them, and isn’t our fault, but we can try to make it better and don’t let anything bring us down.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2015 7:46am
I would rather be a little nobody, then to be a evil somebody. Nobody would know what its like. When nothing feels all right. To be like me To be hurt To feel lost To be left out in the dark To be kicked around
starryRiver83
January 16th, 2015 1:33am
Bullying can affect people emotionally more than is believed, mainly because we can start to see ourselves as those who bullied us saw us. I would maybe suggest thinking about the aspects about yourself that you are less confident about. Why do you feel less confident about those characteristics? What was said to you to make you feel that way? And how are things really now. Try to balance things out. For example, well one person said this, but others have said this. Which one are you going to believe more, which one do you believe more when you really think about yourself. Also think about characteristics that you like about yourself, regardless of how small or big they may seem. Note them down and stick them on the mirror in your room so you have something to remind you of your positive characteristics.
zoeyglee
April 3rd, 2015 5:21pm
You know what is true about yourself, and you know yourself more than anyone else does. DO YOU!!! Just be yourself. Write positive things on your mirror, put notes on your wall, just remind yourself daily about how strong and amazing you really are. You know you are beautiful/handsome, and nobody can take that away from you:)
Anonymous
April 4th, 2015 1:31pm
My classmates kept on bullying me for almost 3 years becbecause they were just jealous of my grades. Then, I tried participating in stage activities like singing, anchoring shows which gave me self confidence and courage to fight back bullying :)
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2015 5:28am
Know that those bullies are doing what they are to you merely because of their own problems. You have nothing wrong with you, at all.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2015 12:35am
If you can, take a martial arts class and explain that you're being bullied. They should be able to support you and teach you some basic self-defense, and you might make a group of new friends, which could lead to bullies seeing you as less of a target.
hwwof
August 3rd, 2015 7:17pm
In my hand, I had a phone. If one day I got upset and yelled at it and said it was worthless and an elephant, what happens to the phone? I tried to insult it, but it didn't get insulted. Therefore, I did not insult it. I know this example involves an inanimate object, but just try to relate. The words or actions of others can only affect you until the point where you let them.
jess3456s
October 27th, 2015 11:50pm
You stand up for yourself. You remain confident. You don't let the individual know that it bothers you that they're bullying you. You remain positive. Surround yourself with positive people.
blazingwolf
November 27th, 2015 1:20am
A bully will try to bully you again. Make sure that the next time you stop him. You explain yourselves, short, clear, no emtions, just pure grounded people talking. My friend, resurrection is at your reaché
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 11:38am
You just have to forget about it, it is past and probably won't happen again, it will also be really hard for you to forget but you have to stand on your own feet and be strong
brilliantRiver83
June 7th, 2016 2:16am
Find cool and interesting hobbies that make you feel good about yourself and indulge on a regular basis. If it's immersive, it'll take your mind off the bullies. And if it's social or allows you to meet new people, then you'll have the opportunity to make new friends.
ANewSunrise
December 6th, 2016 8:48pm
You have to keep in mind that you're not what they say about you. You know yourself better than anyone and they have no rights to talk about you or ofend you. Show them what you're made of. Show them you are strong and brave enough to stop listening to them. Show them you don't care about what they say anymore.
Pumpkin74
February 27th, 2018 4:22am
First, take the time to learn about yourself. Who are you? What do you like? Its so hard to forget those harsh words or even physical violence that has been done to us but have you thought of those who said good things about you? How many hugs have you had? Remember, each of us at some time has dealt with someone who has put us down or made us feel bad about ourselves but it up to us how we react! Love yourself and be proud of who you are! I guarantee you're a lot cooler than you think :)