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How do I prevent myself from being bullied by others?

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Last Updated: 10/29/2019 at 5:28am
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Top Rated Answers
interestingLove66
May 26th, 2015 6:24am
sadly, silence is often mistaken for cowardice, when the water rises above your comfort level- speak up........thats what i did!
Anonymous
January 25th, 2015 6:51am
Bullying is something that sometimes, we cannot hide from. If you are being bullied by somebody, no matter the circumstance, you have to stand up for yourself and let the person bullying you know that you don't want to put up with the bullying any longer
caringLily85
July 25th, 2016 8:53pm
Stand up for yourself and don't let others bother you. They aren't worth it in the long run and they'll wish they never bothered you.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2015 11:58pm
Don't be an easy target. If you are bullied, find a way to make it clear that it wasn't okay, and do your best to defend yourself. Bullies won't risk their reputations on somebody who might challenge them or make them look bad.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2015 6:43am
Go speak with an adult you trust, or just walk away, no one is as strong as someone who walks away from a bully.
positiveSummer89
July 6th, 2015 5:47pm
Don't hang out with people that you have seen being the bully hang out with the people that are getting bullied and comfort them make them feel safe.
Daretoberare91
September 22nd, 2015 1:40am
There is no way to prevent bullying, but there are still ways to help lower the risk. The best way is to always have someone else around. That way you always have a witness and won't be their word against yours.
ImLittleM
November 16th, 2015 9:42am
Bullying can sometimes not be prevented. Some people are just not nice, and act improperly. I would never blame yourself for being bullied, or stop being you to prevent yourself from being bullied. If you experience bullying, just remember to tell people and seek help!
Dreamergirl2016
March 8th, 2016 8:15pm
Try to keep your head out of trouble and make sure that you do not talk about other people badly behind their back. Because they may not see your point.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2016 6:47pm
There isn't a right recipe for this. Unfortunately, there are mean people out there, and they probably have their own problems but instead of working on that they taunt others. You can do some stuff, though. Working on your confidence so any mean remark doesn't affect you is a great way. Eventually, you'll get to a point that you are not being bullied, yes, you still are a target for comments but you no longer feel intimidate or hurt.
HopieRemi
July 5th, 2016 3:17am
First you have to realize people who bully are probably going through something and it's NOT your fault. You can prevent it from affecting you by trying to ignore it or if it is severe, tell someone about it. You don't have to stand there and take it!
BasilAngel
August 2nd, 2016 12:49am
Don't change yourself to fit in with a certain crowd, whose standards will not matter in a few years. It's challenging to try and not care about what others think of you, but in the long run if you were to try and change or care what they think, you will regret it later.
CompassionVigilante
August 1st, 2017 5:14pm
It depends how old you are. Under the age of 14, I remember that pretty much everyone dealt with bullying at some point, it can't really be prevented. You can reduce it by being careful of how you use social media and who you associate with. As you get older, bullying tends to fade out as being begin to focus on themselves rather than attacking others. If you find yourself still being bullied later in life, ie in late school or work, the problem is most likely something you are doing that is encouraging the bullying behavior. This doesn't mean it is your fault, but you should analyse your behavior and maybe ask friends what they think may be making people pick on you.
loreleimercurius
September 4th, 2017 7:25pm
You can try to be more assertive. Assertiveness shows strength, so it reduces the frequency of getting bullied.
Amicus9
December 4th, 2017 10:35pm
Bullying is hard to prevent. Sometimes bullies pick on you for reasons out of your control. Generally, bullies are looking for reactions. It can be difficult, but not engaging will usually save you from trouble down the road.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2017 8:13pm
I make sure to prevent tension between me and anyone else, if I don't like how someone treats me I would stand up to them or tell someone that I trust about the problem
Anonymous
May 7th, 2018 8:39pm
Most of the time, being bullied isn't something you can predict. All you can control is your reaction to bullying if it does happen.
zeta2
December 24th, 2018 6:44am
Bullying is a serious problem, no matter your age, size, intellect levels, or background it can affect you. It may seem hard, but you can prevent being bullied by others. To start with, access the situation. Is it verbal, physical, or online abuse? Each one of these types of bullying has a different solution. For cyber bullying, it’s usually best to record the incident, whether it be a screenshot or telling a trusted adult or anything of that nature. Your next step would be to report them. Most social media sites have a way you can report and then later block the user. If it is verbal abuse, the best method would most likely be to ignore the bully. Bullies prey on weakness and letting them know they got to you will only make it worse. If it is physical abuse, let someone know as soon as possible! If someone says you’ll be “snitching”, ignore them and report is immediately.
Anonymous
October 8th, 2019 2:06am
I have learned that people who bully are generally asking for help. They may be going through something and not know how to handle it. I just listen if they want to talk about it and if they don't at the time I offer to listen in the future. Most of the time they come back and thank me for not adding to their despair. I don't believe the bully actually wants to hurt others but that they don't know how to ask for help in most situations. I remember my times and help any way
Anonymous
October 29th, 2019 5:28am
Work on your confidence, face your fears, stand up for yourself. Do not be defensive, be calm and know that you are in control. They have control only when you give them control. Talk to those in authority like parents and teachers and do not keep your bullying a secret. Educate yourself about how to tackle bullies. Team up with others who are getting bullied as well as there is strength in numbers. Make yourself stronger physically (if possible) and emotionally. You are not alone so don’t suffer alone. Expose the bullies’ actions, if that’s necessary to stop them.