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How do I stand up for myself?

13 Answers
Last Updated: 10/23/2018 at 1:52pm
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Lisa Meighan, BSc Psychology (Honours)


Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.

Top Rated Answers
June 9th, 2015 11:11pm
We've all reached that point where enough is enough. The best way to stand up for yourself is to confront that which tries to knock you down. When you confront it and learn why it is a problem, you can begin to solve the problem.
June 25th, 2015 2:54am
You can begin standing up for yourself by stating your points such as if you are being called names, then tell them how it hurts to have those things said. Even if you getcriticized for it then you know you were right and feel so much better for standing up for yourself.
June 30th, 2015 6:05pm
Look at who ever is saying something you don't like and smile at them and walk away, that's the best thing you can do, or say don't judge me until you absolutely know your perfect.
August 18th, 2015 2:55pm
First you should work on building a great self esteem and confidence system. Then, just go for it. Keep your head held high and don't give up.
October 12th, 2015 3:32pm
Posture can make a huge difference - it gives off a sense of confidence (even if you're internally afraid or unsure), and it can also work backwards to give yourself a sense of security in your actions as well. Good luck! :)
October 15th, 2015 3:12am
Become confident! You haven't done anything wrong. Keep your head high and don't be intimidated by others. They have no right to judge you as you are your own self! Don't be cowered down and be proud of who you are.
October 25th, 2015 6:03pm
show them that you are strong enough. everyone is strong but we have to show it. we all can stand for our selfs, remember that you will only have your self at the end
November 30th, 2015 2:41pm
There's two ways, vocally or physically. While it is not recommended that you go down the physical route, it might end up being the only thing you have when it comes down to a "fight or flight" situation where you have no choice but to take it physical. Keeping anything negative like bullying for example a secret isn't good as if anything does occur between you and the harasser, you have no proof and they can easily blame you so it is recommended you tell at least one person you trust about the situation so that they can state how long it's been going on for and back you up.
December 28th, 2015 12:52pm
Think positive you are just afraid that it would get worse but it won't if you stand up for yourself your confidence will increase especially if you are a shy person
December 6th, 2016 12:58pm
This is a question that has long plagued me, as I was incapable of standing up for myself in conversations or arguments. The first step for me was to accept and actively like who I was. If you are not accepting yourself, it is in my experience practically impossible to stand up for yourself. Ever since I learned to love myself, I have been able to fight for my rights.
February 20th, 2017 1:05am
Take into consideration your self worth, why aren't you standing up for yourself in the first place? It's human nature to defend and protect yourself after all. Often when an individual does not stand up for themselves they are unconsciously giving the indication to whatever is putting them down that they are right. So to answer this question, my thought is to know your worth. You are worth so much, never let anyone tell you otherwise.
October 23rd, 2018 1:52pm
I stand up for myself when I feel I am being attacked or being abused or used by others , the ways I do is first have a talk with them see how that goes and I do try and work things out but if talking doesn't help then I will say I am sorry things didn't work out or I will also stand my ground and say I am not a doormat I am a Human Being and I do have feelings also so Please respect me as I respect you... I believe in Forgiveness and also knowing when you need to steer clear of Negative people that want Drama and only out to hurt others. I am also one who does not tolerate Bullying others I will stand up too a Bully in a safe way . Being our own Advocate is so important.
April 15th, 2015 12:32am
I gain power and tell people to back off and mind there own business. if they don't then I will not be happy and murder them all!!!! no jk