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How do I stop about caring what others say?

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Last Updated: 12/31/2019 at 7:00pm
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Top Rated Answers
March 4th, 2015 1:43pm
Love yourself. Remind yourself about all the great things that you do, and so when other people say negative things about you you can rationally think "They don't know the positives about me" or "They're being irrational and judgmental".
April 16th, 2015 7:17pm
You have to be a strong person and don't let others get to u you know that u are a beautiful and ur awsome
September 10th, 2015 10:46pm
Try to be self-confident. Remind yourself that what they say isn't true, and that if other people believe it then they aren't people who are worth your time.
September 22nd, 2015 4:12am
By simply thinking that they're all just trying to drown you in a pool when you have a life jacket on :)
March 18th, 2015 2:23pm
To stop caring about what others say you need to learn to be happy and content with your inner self and be 100% confident in yourself.
June 3rd, 2015 7:37am
Keep in mind that eventually as you move on in life, those who speak negatively of you can be left behind. They won't matter anymore and you'll have many others who will respect and care for you. You are extremely unique.
July 21st, 2015 9:34am
This is an answer that's going to sound a bit "Odd". But let's re-word this question. Why should you care what other people think? The only person you should ever have to worry about making happy and/or pleasing is yourself. What other people say, it's all just opinions. If someone thinks negatively of you, Then that's their opinion. That doesn't make it true. Happiness is a choice. Life isn't about pleasing everyone else.
November 7th, 2016 1:33pm
The best advice I have for this is fake it until you make it! Fake the confidence and act like nothing anyone says bothers you until it really doesn't bother you. Also, just remember that your opinion of yourself is all that matters. I know it's easier said than done, but it is true. Love yourself, and don't let anyone get in the way of that.
May 26th, 2015 1:05pm
Well if it hurts you in any type of way you ignore them. people sometimes dont know when they need to chill out. but try walking away if they say something or just realizing its stupid to care
August 11th, 2015 5:44am
People say what they feel..they may say something which me might not accept it or maybe we don't like it but that's fine..respect them coz we learn everyday from everyone..sometimes it is something good..which we are ought to do too..and sometimes we learn what we shouldn't do.! ;)Hope you got me.!
November 9th, 2015 4:48am
You have to build up a strong personal mindset that doesn't let yourself give up or fall into anu traps.
November 30th, 2015 8:24pm
You just need to remember that you are your own person. How other people perceive you isn't as important as you being comfortable in yourself. If you worry about finding friends or people liking you, remember that when you are yourself, the kind of people who are drawn to you like you as a person. As friends should.
January 4th, 2016 10:47am
For me, doing a mantra and thinking of positive thoughts would help me mind my own space. For example. I would say to myself, "They are not important, they are not important, do not mind them." Also, I would thinking of the good things that happened in my life to thwart those thoughts.
January 18th, 2016 8:15am
all you need to do is remind yourself that your better then them because your not putting others down beneath you and just let it go
January 25th, 2016 8:36am
When you're completely sure of yourself and if you have faith in what you do & what you stand for, you'll learn to not care about what others say.
February 29th, 2016 2:47pm
Caring is a natural human feeling. No matter what, everyone cares what others say. You can chose how to react, and act as if you do not care. However, everyone always cares.
March 29th, 2016 11:48am
Believe in yourself! There's no other better believer of what you can and cannot do than yourself. You are what makes your life beautiful and exciting. Believe in what your can do and you'll find yourself wondering why did I even let them dictate what I can and cannot do when all I have to do is believe and be content.
April 26th, 2016 4:31am
It's all up to you on when you stop caring about what other people think! It's something you discover in your inner self and learn to do. You shouldn't care what others think because life's too short to try and please others. Stay true to yourself and be who you wanna be; don't let anyone stop you from doing so.
May 23rd, 2016 2:32am
As kids we're often told to not care about what others say, but it's hard to not care when those comments hit our insecurities. One thing that has worked for me is doing some reflection on why I'm sensitive to such remarks. Is it because I'm "overweight", have a "big nose", or speak with a "stutter"? If so, why are any of those qualities targets of laughter, mocking, w/e. There isn't anything inherently wrong with any of those traits. They just are. Anyone who makes fun of others clearly has their own issues, so next time someone says something mean, pause, let it slide, say yea thanks, or just ignore them. Eventually they'll stop. In the meantime further self-exploration can help boost your self-esteem and build your immunity towards what others say or think about you.
July 12th, 2016 1:05pm
That's a tough question, but it starts with a simple changing of the mind that you will do what's best for you because know one knows you better. Also knowing that whatever that person is saying probably cares just as much or more about what other people say to them
March 20th, 2017 9:29pm
You care about what matters to you and what you believe. It's your life, not theirs. You know what you know and their opinions should never matter.
September 4th, 2017 7:17pm
It's extremely difficult to not let what people say get to you. It takes time, and it isn't easy. You have to realize that the only opinion that matters is yours. As long as you are 100% happy, that's all that matters.
November 7th, 2017 10:05am
Well, I usually have a firm belief and understanding of who I am as a person, thus what everyone else says about me is completely irrelevant.
January 8th, 2018 8:01pm
Don't take thing seriously about what they say. Just keep positive. Remember we your friends are.
April 9th, 2018 4:05am
You can stop caring what others say by ignoring what others say if they're wrong and understand you know what you're limits are and things you can do than what others judgements are upon.
April 16th, 2018 2:42pm
What others says can have huge impacts on our lives, we need to look deep within ourselves to truly understand what makes us care about what’s others think in the first place. If in fact something someone says truly bothers you just ask yourself, will what this person said have an effect on my life ten years from now? Chances are it won’t.
May 7th, 2019 6:40pm
in my opinion, you can start by realizing your own value. You have to understand yourself first and know how important self love is. By doing that, every time people talks bad about you or trying to degrade you, you'll know that's not true. You are who you are. You know yourself best so you know what's the best for you. I'm not saying that other people doesn't know you best but at the end of the day you'll be the one who live your life choices. Know yourself, love yourself, and do not let other people degrade you.
December 31st, 2019 7:00pm
In order to stop caring about what others say, you need to know your self-worth. Talk positively to yourself everyday, even if it's just one word or a phrase you say over and over to yourself everyday! After a while this will become a habit. When you know who you truly are and know your own worth, you will no longer care about what others say. Listen to the words said to you, evaluate it against who you define yourself to be and ask yourself: Does it match who I am? If not, let it go. Love yourself and know your true value!