How do you cope with someone who goes out of their way to start rumours about you and negatively affect your reputation?

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kindMoment44
October 27th, 2015 11:41am
You don't cope. You have no reason to cope or to put up with negative people in your life. If anything, you should get rid of them from your life, and not think much of the rumours, because eventually, the truth will always come forwards. You are better than what the rumours make you out to be, so don't put up with or try to cope with it, because it is wrong, and you don't deserve to be put down, nor your reputation.
CourageousPal26
January 20th, 2015 5:42pm
Wow. That person sure has a lot of spare time on their hands that they're wasting away. Basically, you don't cope with negative people like these. Ignoring these people's comments is the way to go. It'll be difficult, especially if you consider them your friend (but seriously, un-friend them). Stick your head up high! Confident people are people who doesn't care what other's think of them. If you keep acting the way that contradicts the rumours, people will realize who's speaking the truth in the end.
joyfulPomegranate52
May 11th, 2015 4:47pm
Ignore them... they're just trying to get a rise out of you. Walk with your head held high and ignore it. Once they see that you're not going to tolerate that, they'll stop.
TayAR
May 13th, 2015 9:34pm
I trust that people who know me well enough will not believe those rumors. Anyone else who spreads rumors about me or believes in them are not worth my time. I ignore it and move on.
Emily619
July 27th, 2015 1:17pm
You can cope with someone who goes out of their way to start rumours about you and negatively affect your reputation by spreading the word out that it is not true. Tell some close friends, and they can help you do that.
zimpyro
August 3rd, 2015 4:56am
The best thing you can do is prove the rumors wrong. They hurt, and you feel like you can't "just ignore them", so prove them wrong. They are calling you dumb? Study hard and ace your next test. The rumor isn't something you can prove wrong? The best thing to do is to just be as nice as possible to everyone. If they can't look past the rumor, then they aren't worth your time.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2015 8:06pm
Just brush it off, don't act by doing the same that is not the right thing Don't fight fire with fire you just get burnd. Just be yourself and don't worry so much about others opinions.
lovelyPrincess09
September 21st, 2015 9:16pm
I will contact the person who started the rumors, to try and understand the cause of why they are doing something like this. If there is a reason, I will try to work it out with them but If they are just doing this for fun, I will ignore them as I feel the more reaction we provide to false rumors the more believable they become for others.
dalya123
December 29th, 2015 2:03am
Confront them, ask them the reason they are doing this, talking is really helpful and you can know a lot about why that person is spreading rumors about you by talking to them
comfortingPeace80
April 4th, 2016 7:30am
Ignore them and focus on bettering yourself, and whatever it is that you do. When you focus on bettering yourself, people's opinions and rumors will mean less to you.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2016 12:34pm
First, I'll have to ignore it. Maybe that someone would stop. If he doesn't, I'll report it to someone like our school principal or something. :)
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 1:45am
You can ask them why they are starting rumours that are effecting you negatively or be vengeful. I find that both methods both have cons. You must decide what your end goal is and work backwards to find the best solution for you.
scotty4947
August 23rd, 2016 1:48am
Let my actions speak louder than those rumors that are being passed. Not letting those rumors, also, not affect me and not get into my head to make me feel down or upset.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2018 2:13pm
I dont care, because rumors are rumors, if you show that you care, people might actually think its teue, because you showed so muc intrest in it, if you simply ignore it, people will too, your reputation is in your hands not theirs, so if they started a rumor, trust me , people will know its a rumor, you just need to feel confident about yourself and not care