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How do you get over the feeling that people are laughing at you?

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Last Updated: 04/10/2020 at 7:27pm
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Top Rated Answers
Youareberrybeautiful
October 9th, 2016 5:07am
I tilt my head up smile and walk by to my own beat not a care in the world. Listening to music helps me block out the world around me as well, instrumental is the best!
charmingDaisy65
October 15th, 2016 8:45am
I know it's easy to say, but when you decide to care only what you and your closest think of you you will stop worrying what others are thinking are doing inn regards to you
Thehonesthelpergoose
October 20th, 2016 4:49am
Don't give in to what they want. and that is to get to you. keep your head up even though sometimes that can be tough ....its worth it in the end.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2017 8:16am
Spend more time with people who care about you ,close to you and truly respect you, it's important to feel loved and respected, then self suggest that every human on earth can't be like those encouraging people around you, doing anything as a small effort for yourself, works. It will take its own time, but any effort to get over that feeling is worth it, your will to overcome it will beat any negativity, trust in yourself,
Relaxedflower93
March 5th, 2017 4:00pm
You lift up your head and walk past them. do not pay attention to them. Tell yourself everyday that you are beautiful, you are unique. Build up your confidence and no one will be able to make you feel that you are being laughed at.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2017 5:11am
Talk to someone about it or do something that makes me feel better and try to think of positive things instead of negative things
JD821
March 24th, 2017 7:59pm
You should learn to celebrate your strengths and laugh at your weaknesses, only then do you have control and can get past it. If others are laughing at you at your expense, chances are they need to make fun of you to make themselves feel better. As hard as it is, just ignore it and focus on yourself. At the end of the day, you don't need anyone's approval but your own.
bouncyVision80
April 27th, 2017 7:29am
One should learn to laugh at themselves. Try to know the reason why people laugh at you and taking it sportingly and correcting those things. Will eventually make you a better person and make you get over the feeling.
LittleCarol
May 12th, 2017 1:42pm
It's uncomfortable to feel as though you are being laughed at. Remind yourself that you are a valuable person and that you have the right to feel safe and supported.
fantasticLove52
June 24th, 2017 5:30am
You should totally ignore them, and you keep your head high and chin up. Don't let people get to you.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2017 6:46pm
Realize what they think, say or do should not matter to you. Let them do what they want to do. You continue to live and be successful.
GivingstonTreegull
August 16th, 2017 3:28am
Try not to take things so seriously. Whether people are actually laughing at you or you just think they are laughing at you.. Try to remember that that doesn't mean it's bad! Laughing at you could be a good thing. If you are certain that it is not a positive laughter and it is making you uncomfortable feel free to walk away from the situation. You don't have to put yourself in a circumstance that makes you uncomfortable with people who don't care about your feelings. BUT other than that? Just lighten up. Maybe you could laugh along with them!
SchrodingersCat00
September 17th, 2017 4:00pm
I have struggled with the notion that people are either internally or communally laughing at me on and off throughout my life. Fretting about it drives me up the wall. When I sense that people may be laughing, I try to remember how vast the universe is, and find their laughter gets lost in my appreciation of the world for what it is, as well as appreciation for myself and even for them. We all fit here, laughter or no, we are all amazing, and laughter is only one aspect of all this.
xItsDeex
November 1st, 2017 8:37pm
Honestly I just ignore them. When I was younger it bugged me a lot. I got the urge to have a comeback at them but I was too weak and scared to say something back so I just stayed quiet and kept it in. Somedays I did talked back to them but when that’s the case they enjoy seeing you being bothered with it. They make you question yourself and the thing they’re laughing about. It doesn’t really matter it’s either not true or none of their businesses. When you give people a vibe that might make them think that you’re a “potential victim” they'll naturally aim for you they look for the weakest that’s simply the whole math. When you ignore them or keep your head high no matter what they won’t bug you and they even can find you cooler believe it or not. Keep your head straight, shoulders back and if they try to annoy you, hurt you or laugh at you try to laugh along or even better ignore the f out of them.
SerenRIC21
November 8th, 2017 12:14am
I'll accept the situation, the fact I'm feeling down by some incident of people laughing at me. But I'll let myself know it's not a all time with all person situation. Even who're laughing if I can, I'll approach them politely sometimes. I'll try to know them above the laughed at me feeling. I'll let them know myself better and sometimes it changes view point. Any situation like this I try to use my hobby or any strength to fill me with positivity. It helps me to give a confidence boost. No matter what I respect myself and be ready to cope with things. I don't hesitate to right myself and be a better person if I'm wrong in something. That helps a lot.
thapi
November 10th, 2017 4:11pm
asking people of what they think of you might end up creating some awkward moments which are not necessary one of the best ways is to do self evaluation and if you don't see a problem with yourself then lift your heard up and not think about others because there is not person who can motivate you better than yourself.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 7:32pm
I remind myself when someone in class did something embarassing. Then I remember, that in most cases nobody will remember the embarassing situation longer than one day :D
naycopax
November 17th, 2017 1:35am
by thinking that sometimes people have a problem within them and I may have something that triggers that issue, the best way for them to deal with their issue is by laughing at me
fictionfreak09
November 18th, 2017 4:02am
Well, sometimes our friends and family laugh at us just for fun without actually intending any harm to us. But sometimes we are a target for bullying that often comes in the form of mockery. i think the best way to deal with such mockeries is by ignoring them, and not letting any of such words get to us. We need to believe in who we are, and not on someone else's words.
newcounsellor
December 7th, 2017 3:30am
Cognitive behavioural techniques are helpful. Feelings are not always accurate, but if we monitor our thoughts, beliefs or assumptions - and then challenge if they are true (with evidence to support it) then more often than not we find that we cannot always rely on the validity of our mind. We can challenge these thoughts, with new behaviours, or, we can simply be aware of them and let them pass though without causing too much damage to our lives.
GrizzlyGummyBear
December 13th, 2017 3:25am
It's always best to assume a joke or rumour isn't about you until someone has confirmed that is it about you. You'll be much happier giving others the benefit of the doubt.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2017 3:53pm
I try to divert my attention to something else. Also i keep repeating to myself that people are not laughing.
straightasaflexibleruler
February 24th, 2018 12:33am
I try not to put too much importance on the opinion's of others. It doesn't matter if they are laughing at you or if they're not, don't care about it. It's them Not you. They have the problem.
WinterCallsHereo
February 28th, 2018 4:24am
Ask them if they are laughing at you, the best way to solve this one is to confront it, if they were laughing tell them you don't appreciate it and wish for it to stop.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 1:42am
They can laugh all they want. In the end, you're who you are, you're not who people think you are. Don't let them bring you down because they won't be successful in life but you will.
SquidHighlight
May 10th, 2018 3:26am
Pretend to like yourself and fake confidence. Try to laugh at yourself when appropriate and you will feel that no one laughs at you, but with you.
Seen07
June 6th, 2018 7:18pm
It can be hard to get over the feeling that people are laughing at you. Something that I would do in those situations would be: 1) shake it off. Literally shake my body out of that feeling, and that helps me feel better. 2) talk to few of those people in a casual way and ask them to fill you in on the joke as you feel you could use a laugh. Most likely it would turn out that they were not laughing at you. (Hope it helps)
Isavvvela123
June 9th, 2018 7:54pm
In this situation I would tell my self to focus on something or move from that place that makes me uncomfortable
TKPool
June 20th, 2018 9:52pm
Hey there, that's a really good question! Mostly because it's something quite a few people struggle with, including myself. Often in public when we feel anxious the sound of laughter not coming from yourself can be the absolute worst sound there is, and with it brings the questions. "Are they laughing at me?" "What's so funny?" "Do I look funny?"...etc. However, 9 times out of 10 this is not the case! More often than not, it's just all in your head and it's the thoughts that get you. We've all got a little voice in our head that doesn't always help us out. That negative voice needs to be quieted down, and one way we can do that is through positive actions/thoughts. Think to yourself, "oh, they're just laughing about something funny that happened to them over the weekend" or "It's not about me, I'm not even in their social circle at the moment. It's got nothing to do with me." Never forget the power of self compliments either! Tell yourself that there is nothing to be laughed at about yourself, you are a strong, independent and beautiful being. Smile and keep your head up high, you've got this! Let the positives over-run the negatives in your life. Peaceful wishes xx
neverendingApple26
July 12th, 2018 2:38pm
I used to have that idea in my head. Then I started doing drama and I improved my social anxiety. Now when I hear a laugh, I’ll sometimes think about it and then think “why would they be laughing at me?”