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How do you get over the feeling that people are laughing at you?

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Last Updated: 11/26/2020 at 4:58pm
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June 6th, 2018 7:18pm
It can be hard to get over the feeling that people are laughing at you. Something that I would do in those situations would be: 1) shake it off. Literally shake my body out of that feeling, and that helps me feel better. 2) talk to few of those people in a casual way and ask them to fill you in on the joke as you feel you could use a laugh. Most likely it would turn out that they were not laughing at you. (Hope it helps)
June 9th, 2018 7:54pm
In this situation I would tell my self to focus on something or move from that place that makes me uncomfortable
July 12th, 2018 2:38pm
I used to have that idea in my head. Then I started doing drama and I improved my social anxiety. Now when I hear a laugh, I’ll sometimes think about it and then think “why would they be laughing at me?”
July 12th, 2018 7:08pm
I take a deep breath and I think of a happy place in my mind. This allows me to relax and calm down.
July 18th, 2018 3:41pm
When I was younger people would laugh at me, it made me feel better and I would lash out a few years later I see them on the Street, And it dont mean nothing, I wish I new That back then, At the time I wish I knew that it won't matter in a few years
October 3rd, 2018 8:46pm
Think and believe they they are laughing with you. Be proud of yourself and be strong. Those people laugh with others because they are weak. Don't be intimidated by them but stand up to them. Show them that you don't care. You are your own person. You must make yourself happy. Ignore what others think. Imagine they're laughing with you because you are just so amazing. That you are glamerous Be confident and Don t let others stand in your way and break you down. Believe in yourself. Why should you care what others think? You must be happy. Don't let others make you sad.
June 4th, 2015 9:42am
I remind myself that they are not laughing at me, they are laughing at the funny situation. They think it's harmless to laugh, so I laugh as well.
December 9th, 2015 2:15am
2 thoughts... first that you are bringing cheers to others, this is a good thing. Second to listen the joke and improve from there... life is too short to be taking it too seriously
December 9th, 2015 9:18am
I have always been used to people laughing at me because well I am clumsy. I cannot walk straight I am always falling down or breaking things but I always laugh along with them. I could cry or get angry at them but what is the use, besides whenever I do fall or break something I find it funny and laugh before anyone else can :)
December 9th, 2015 8:16pm
You just got to practise your confidence and know that your smarter and better than the person that starts laughing at you, let other people see that your confident too. No one is born dumb and scientists have told us that we are actually ten times prettier than what we see ourselves in the mirror ;)
December 9th, 2015 11:39pm
Well you need to ignore them.. because its certainly not nice to Laugh at someone. Because they have no reason to laugh at You! I had this same situation a couple years back... It was awful, until I had the guts to go up to that person/group and say ¨Why are u laughing at me.. U dont even know me. Just back off¨ and they stopped laughing at me.. and they even apoligized
December 11th, 2015 1:40am
I laugh it off and pretend it doesn't bother me, so they do not win the battle, or I say something to them and ask for them to please stop. If they don't then I would go to someone else and ask for help, because it is a form of bullying
December 11th, 2015 11:56am
Realise that they obviously have nothing better to do than put others down. They also probably have something going on deeper than just what they're showing if they want to take it out on others. Just remember you're better than that :)
December 13th, 2015 3:31am
I went to tell the trusted adult in the area so that they could sought it out. It carried on so I went to student services and it all got fixed writhing the space of a week.
December 13th, 2015 6:37am
Some people laugh because they are afraid if they don't, they too will be laughed at. Learn to find the people who will enjoy the strange things about you.
December 13th, 2015 6:43am
One of the best ways to get over someone who is laughing at you is to ignore them and to laugh at them back. We are all human and from time to time, we may have situations that may cause us the embarrassment of laughter directed towards us. Some people may choose to dwell over the situation and never face the fears of what caused their embarrassment to spark and others may very well mask it by laughing along with others. In both cases, it is important to understand what made you react either way to the situation and how it plays a role in your development in life. If it was a traumatic experience, its best if you talk to someone about it that can help guide you through what your difficulties dealing with this. If it did not affect you much, then it is likely to be a normal and common situation in which it is natural to respond with laughter and embarrassment. If you are in the case of being bullied by people in which they are constantly laughing at you, then it is best you talk to someone about the situation and try to see the different methods to face and approach the situation. But as I said before, it's best to face the enemy with a smile than with the response they want which is anger and embarrassment.
December 13th, 2015 6:01pm
You can get over that feeling because people are not always supposed to laugh at you. They also have something to do other than that.
December 13th, 2015 7:34pm
you don't. You just love yourself and be confident enough not to think what other irrelevant people are doing. If you see what you are doing is good then you do you. Looking behind you to see what others think will only make you trip
December 13th, 2015 8:20pm
Become more confident. It's actually not that hard. Instead of Salinger up in the mirror pointing out "flaws" point out at least 3 things you like about yourself every morning & focus on that throughout the day! Another thing that works is going out buying some clothes! Sometimes wearing new clothes can make you more positive about your look!
December 16th, 2015 3:08pm
Think about your good qualities, Think about how far you have gotten and how far you can still go in life.
December 16th, 2015 3:13pm
Think more that they are laughing WITH you and it makes all the difference in the world. Just make a joke out of everything negative, and learn from that experience. As an actor, when I'm on stage sometimes I think that people are laughing at me personally because I messed up or something. But I just laugh along with them, and it makes everything a lot easier!
December 17th, 2015 7:28am
Discover and reflect on why you have this feeling. What is it that you feel people are laughing at? Accept that what your are experiencing is self doubt--then conquer it. Identify all the positive and beautiful things that make you, simply you! The majority of the time, people are more concerned about their bubble and worrying about the same things you are--so much so they aren't laughing at you, but wondering if you are them. We all have those vulnerabilities. Capitalize on the good and flaunt it--and know the vast majority are in the same boat. The minority are small minded and have other battles they most conquer and grow. Be strong and be proud of magnificent you!
December 26th, 2015 5:11pm
Sometimes, this is always pretty powerful for me as a thought exercise. Sometimes in my life I've told people things like these and they've hit me back with, "Do you think about people that way?" Then I kind of realize that no, I don't; I just go about my own da being very caught up in my own things that I don't waste a whole lot of energy being petty like that. It helps a lot to calm me down and think about it logically.
December 30th, 2015 4:03pm
Try to think, are they laughing at you or laughing with you. Most likely they are laughing with you but maybe you don't realise?
December 31st, 2015 3:33am
What has helped me is realizing that many people carry the same insecurities. That, more often than not, most people are so consumed with worrying about what other people think of them that they don't notice all of OUR insecurities as much as we personally may notice them.
December 31st, 2015 6:18am
I block out bad feelings by concentrating on more imporant things, such as school work or hobbies. Talking to friends also helps me take my mind off of things.
December 31st, 2015 8:35am
That is not a feeling, I know they do. And it is alright. I like when people laugh. All people should be happy!
December 31st, 2015 4:54pm
Here are some options you can laugh along with them,ignore them, walk away, or you can think of happy memories.
January 3rd, 2016 12:09am
This is just my personal way I make them laugh at me and laugh with them when they make fun of me i just come back and say something worse about me I mean if you can't laugh at yourself and all that bull you know and it completely throws of guard too
February 7th, 2016 10:44pm
Laugh at myself. Make up stories about what would cause someone else to act that way. Move out of that situation as soon as possible. Recognize that we all, at some point, think everyone is looking at us and it is largely untrue.