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How do you get over the feeling that people are laughing at you?

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Last Updated: 11/26/2020 at 4:58pm
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
June 5th, 2016 12:38pm
Laugh at yourself too. Scroll out your perspective and switch into third-view camera mode. Works wonder.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 9:58am
If you have a feeling people are laughing at you. You can either start laughing with people, laughing at people or laughing at yourself. If you have a feeling people are laughing at you do you think their laughter is justified ? Are you a funny person? Do you have a quirk? If you want over the feeling people are laughing at you embrace being laughed at. Own the fact that your funny. Own your character. Take ownership of your life instead of seeing the laughter as a bad thing.
dreamingCat7474
June 17th, 2016 9:43pm
I find the best way to help or "get over" people laughing at you is to laugh with them. It releases your energy and disarms them
Anonymous
September 17th, 2016 5:06pm
I don't know if you actually can. I think that you should focus on gaining more confidence so that even if they are actually laughing at you, you are also having fun. What works for me is that i try to ignore them. Normally i feel so self concious.
Chipoltleh
October 2nd, 2016 6:07pm
You don't always have to know what other people are thinking of you. If you feel that someone is laughing at you, force your mind to think that they're laughing with you, and not at you.
thatawkwardgirlnamedbri
October 26th, 2016 4:54pm
What i did was just know that there probably also worried about being laughed at too. And remember you are strong and can do anything you put your mind to.
olivejar
December 23rd, 2016 9:40am
One solution to managing this quite stressful feeling would be to acknowledge that others are probably more concerned just as much with themselves as you are with yourself. Another would be to accept that as their choice and realise that it doesn't make them correct in doing so or reflect badly on you.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2017 8:38pm
Try to think rationally. Search for the reasons you think they would be and challenge them. For example, "they are laughing at me because im dumb." A challenging thought to this would be "how do they know that? And even if they do think so, why should this effect me?"
hershygwd
March 9th, 2017 4:14pm
I act more goofy and do ridiculous things, that makes me feel I'm in control of the situation. By doing that I know that now they laughing because I'm making them laugh. Also I start to feel better when I think about the positive side of doing that, I'm making people around me forget about their worries and troubles for those few minutes.
Nasrz8
December 6th, 2017 7:42am
by building self confidence. Read a lot about how to have self confidence. Workout, look buffed and confident. eat right and healthy. The point is to get yourself to have this feeling that you're doing the right thing, so people won't have to laugh at you, and if they did, you know deep down in yourself that you're better than them.
usefulLight67
December 8th, 2017 8:30am
Simply by not caring about them or their naive acts. Continue to be you, make sure to be at your best version of yourself and slowly you will be the one laughing at them
Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 1:34am
That's life. Everyone finds reasons to laugh at someone. We cannot control how others behave but we can take control of how we respond to the situations. If we love ourselves and are confident about who we are as an individual, no pity critique or gossip/treatment by others will effect us.
KenzieCorn
December 23rd, 2017 5:30am
I normally just laugh it off if it's something silly I did, but if they're laughing at me for no reason I get a little frustrated and embarrassed. However I realize what they think doesn't really matter and I'll get over it.
awksolli
February 2nd, 2018 11:32am
It depends what they are laughing at. For example, if you did something silly then they are probably laughing at you because you actually did something funny. They are laughing with you not at you. However, if you are just being you or you are not intentionally trying to be funny and they are laughing at you then just think to yourself: they are immature. Thats it. If they find you funny then they clearly have a very sad and uneventful life if they believe thats "funny". Or, something I do, is I just go along with it. I know this can be hard for some people to do as some are not as confident as others but often playing cool or even just giving them a weird look like "wtf you looking at mate" will make them think they are the stupid ones for laughing at something that is clearly not something to be laughed at. Hope this helped :)
fruityOcean41
February 3rd, 2018 3:24pm
You close your eyes and you isolate your mind from the outside world , and you say to yourself that people's opinions don't matter , you did nothing wrong, get up and defend yourself , you're strong.
Lanadelilah
February 16th, 2018 2:00am
You can't control it? Let it go. Keep calm and stop caring. When you stop caring what people think you have reached a dangerously new level of freedom.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2018 2:18am
Remember they are only human too. Not any less and certainly not any more than you. We are all equal in flesh - if we allowed them to get us down by feeling like their entertainment then that would be defeating the purpose of equality because even if you feel they are laughing at you, that says more about them then about you. Kind human beings don't go around destroying others for no reason.
artsickprince
March 1st, 2018 5:27am
You look around, everything is much more at peace than your mind makes it out to be. Take a deep breath and reassure yourself that you haven't done anything to gain a reaction.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 8:52am
You should ask them about it. Like ask if they are talking about you. If not maybe is something else that is making you feel this type of way
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 4:34pm
Just do something that distracts you from the thoughts such as walking away, going to the toilet or listening to music.
D0ncella
April 4th, 2018 8:31pm
We need to laught about ourselfs sometimes. Don't get so seriously everything and remenber about the most important is our own view of ourselfs. People can hurt but only us can choose between taking for us the damage or letting go.
MadHatter56
April 19th, 2018 7:43pm
People often laugh at me and the best way that I have found to get over this is to build my self confidence by owning all of my flaws and using them as my advantages. Everyone is unique, own what makes you special!
wonderfulEyes78
April 22nd, 2018 8:08pm
Just know they will forget about it and they will not think about it anymore. Everyone gets laughed at so no worries.
Poinka16
April 25th, 2018 11:08pm
be conscious that they are not. remind yourself everytime. trace the root of the issue with some soul searching.
Allears247
July 25th, 2018 8:58am
When you make up your mind that you just don't give a f$%& either way. Trust me you'll be 100% better.
serpentsxspell
August 2nd, 2018 11:49am
You must find hard evidence that people are laughing at you before accepting your emotional response. If you cannot find this evidence, then this 'feeling' is unreliable, and in my opinion, a bully.
GEMINIALDRIDGE8D
October 13th, 2018 9:53pm
You must look for reasons to love yourself, or surround yourself with people who make you feel positive about yourself. You will -possibly (it’s true for me)- only believe people are laughing at you if you yourself see a reason why try would be laughing at you. An example of this would be, if you are embarrassed of something that happened and everyone around you seems be laughing or acting slightly different when you’re around, you may blame that embarrassing moment for why they’re laughing at you. But at the end of the day, whether others are laughing at you or not shouldn’t matter. Your own opinion on yourself and how you feel about yourself should be all that matters.
SaraHoffman
December 6th, 2018 11:12pm
I know it's easier said then done but let it roll off your back. People will laugh and be mean but in the end if they see it's not bothering you they will get board with it and leave you alone. So act like you could care a less and it won't be fun for them anymore.
heretohelp940
January 16th, 2019 11:12pm
You have to come to a place within yourself where you see yourself as somebody that is worthy of respect. A good thing to do is to write a list of the things you a good at and are proud of yourself for. When you realize that you are of value, you will notice that people are not laughing at you. Love yourself and others will love you also. This is sometimes very hard and it takes practice to get to the place where you are looking at others for approval. However, when you get there it will be worth the journey!!
compassionateLily19
April 12th, 2019 11:27am
If you feel like other people are laughing at you it might be due to negative self image.To be honest people are so preoccupied with themselves they barely can pay attention to others.To get over that feeling you need to change the way you talk to yourself in your head. Focus on all your positive qualities.For example look at the mirror and say 10 things you love about yourself.Be very mindful about what's going on in your head and don't let negative thoughts take over in social situations.You do not need that in your life. Good luck and stay blessed!