How do you know if you're being bullied?

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hereiskaitlyn
November 26th, 2014 10:44pm
Being bullied comes with variety of disturbing emotions, and disrupted social functioning. One way to identify if you are being bullied is think about how you feel about people around you, especially those whom you encounter each day: what emotions to they evoke in you? Do you think they are giving you fair judgements? Are they being friendly to you, or try to ignore you. These questions can help you come to the answer to this question.
AnnieElen
November 24th, 2014 5:04pm
Constantly feeling depressed, avoiding company are some symptoms of bullying. When you are being bullied, you endlessly feel harassed, alone, and sad.
RubyInTheRough
November 29th, 2014 7:30pm
You most likely are being bullied if you are feeling like you are being pushed down, like someone else is trying to or even not trying to make you feel less of yourself.
heyitsveraxoxo
February 29th, 2016 5:42pm
If you have to ask yourself whether or not you're being bullied, you probably are. Any behavior that you do not enjoy, and is repeated, is bullying. For example, it could be someone nudging you a little everyday. If you've made it known that you'd like them to stop, and they still don't quit, it is considered bullying. This nudging is a way of them attempting to 'get to you'. Remember- bullying is never okay.
HaroldCarrington71
November 30th, 2014 1:47pm
People brush off bullying as just an incident, an event that wont happen again or that was harmless. If someone is making you feel bad their bullying you. Once they realise that they can continue without incident towards them then they will.
thoughtfulDreamer99
December 7th, 2014 1:41pm
If someone is knowingly hurting you physically or emotionally, you are being bullied and you shouldn't allow it to continue.
annalee
December 22nd, 2014 10:35am
If your emotionally mentally or physically being harrased and or being teased to a great extent then you are bullied
Honey
November 25th, 2014 4:10pm
If your feelings are hurt, you should try approaching the person and communicate to them that you do not appreciate their behavior. If this behavior continues, and communication does not improve or change their behavior, they are acting like a bully (intentional or not). I would try to talk to my HR department (or school counselor) about possible solutions to this situation, especially if the bullying is making your mental, emotional, or productivity suffer.
dalya123
December 28th, 2015 8:06am
If the person is naming you and spreading rumors about you and hurting your friends, you are being bullied by that person
Anonymous
November 25th, 2014 11:50am
You know if you are being bullied when you feel intimidated and upset by someone whether it is in person or cyber.
smileitswhit
December 26th, 2014 4:51am
Anyone that is making you uncomfortable for who you are is a bully. This could be through verbal or physical. If you are being bullied you need to seek appropiate help and not try to deal on your own.
LostHorizon
December 29th, 2014 3:17pm
The signs of bullying are quite clear. If you're feeling isolated from the people you used to hang out with, or if you are physically or mentally are hurting can just be a few of the signs to show that you're being bullied.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2015 4:44pm
You will feel victimised by one or more person. If anyone comes across to you as mean then that is a form of bullying - they upset you.
SJA18
November 9th, 2015 1:55am
Bulling doesn't have to be insults it can be anything that another person does that makes you feel uncomfortable/disturbed.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2015 11:31am
Bullying happens every single day. They have been being nasty to you for over weeks and they won't stop. That is bullying.
silverPurple42
January 5th, 2016 1:49pm
because mentally and socialy u will feel upset confused and maybe in harms way also u may feel that people hate u for no reason and are making ur life a misery to make up for it either way bulling is wrong and needs to be stoped
TaintedHaze
March 1st, 2016 6:26pm
If you are questioning if something someone is doing or saying is bullying than it very well might be. If it targets you, brings you down, makes you uncomfortable, or harms you it is bullying, especially if you've told the person what they are doing makes you feel bullied and they do not stop.
Maxwallride
July 24th, 2017 8:11pm
You can always google the definition of bullying as well as search the internet for examples. You can also google the specific type of incidents in question that you think are bullying and see what comes up. There's bullying in schools, bullying in the workplace, bullying in public, bullying by people with power...etc. And then there's physical, verbal, social, and cyberbullying. So you'll probably have to figure out what type of bullying you suspect is going on when you search it up.
4confidenceiskey
August 1st, 2017 1:38pm
For me bullying starts when you think, whatever is done to you hurts you. So if the same people repeadeatly intently try to hurt you (emotionally or physically) that counts as bullying. Regardless of what other's say, if you want it to stop because it hurts you, then it's bullying. Stay strong !
Anonymous
February 21st, 2018 2:39am
You can feel it. Your body just feels uncomfortable, and maybe even upset. Also when someone has crossed the line, like maybe a joke about you
apositivepsych
June 5th, 2018 6:25pm
Bullying takes form in the following ways: Name-calling and other unwanted verbal abuse Being shouted at Ostracizing someone Unwanted physical contact (hitting, poking, dead arming) Spreading of gossip and lies about a person Hiding or destroying belongings Cyber bullying, such as sending threatening emails, instant and text messages, and other uses of the Internet and mobile phones for bullying Unkind, harsh comments by an authority figure aimed at one person to humiliate him or her in front of others Racial taunts or comments Staring at someone (evil eyes, dead eyes) Gestures which are intimidating (sexual, racial, homophobic, or cultural) Gang intimidation (waiting, watching, following, stalking) Writing (notes or poems, scrawling on belongings, graffiti in toilets and other public places) For more info, you can read up the Bullying Self Help Guide. :)