How to deal with people that are bad mouthing me?
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First try to calmly approach the situation humbly and tell the person how it makes you feel and politely explain how you find some truth in what they are saying and ask them for ideas or help understanding how to be better.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 5:51am
treat them politely and ask about their problems. greet them in loud voice and warmly shake hands.i have experienced that it works .
You can try to talk to them like a mature adult and tell them that you do not like it when they bad mouth you. You can try to ignore it by walking away.
To be honest, the most straightforward way would be to ignore them. However, one should not just ignore them if they are spreading things which are way too malicious. One good way to deal with people badmouthing you would be to directly confront them, and trash out any possible misunderstandings there might be on both sides.
It's easier said than done, but ignore them. People's impressions of you are their problem, not yours. As long as you know who you are, and you're confident in that, nothing people say can hurt you.
It depends, if it is not directed at me, I will try to be understanding and try to direct their attention to something more positive or constructive. If it is directed at me, I will try to explain that I am only trying to help and their behaviour will make them lose me and my help. If they keep things directed at me, I will politely show sympathy and end the conversation.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2016 12:23pm
There are many ways to deal with those type of people, the best choice is to ignore them and show them that you're not faded a bit.
know they might be having bad day and let it go. don't do the same. and confront them if it gets worse.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 7:44am
Just don't react.. Such people need drama feed them class and also that ensures everyone knows you aren't bad albeit these people were gossip mongers
Anonymous
August 21st, 2016 3:27am
The most reasonable way is to tell them to stop, they know nothing about you and are not in whatsoever place to talk that way about you
Stay calm, focus on something positive. Think of ways to impact the other person in such a positive way they get stop being upset.
Anonymous
September 2nd, 2016 10:51am
Many people would tell you to ignore them but I'll open two choices for you.
You can ignore them, acting like you don't care. Sooner or later, they'll leave you alone, hopefully.
Or you could fight back, telling them how you feel. It's time to shine. Let them know you won't be pushed down.
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2016 1:53am
Simply shut down the conversation. You don't need to take that kind of treatment. If things are really bad then you can report the person. Always shut down conversations that become sexual.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 12:26am
You can only be the best you that you can be, stand your ground, be honest, open, and civil. If other people behave otherwise, that is their choice; ultimately it is a choice you cannot control or take blame for. Some people are mean people: they are struggling with their own things in poor, unhealthy ways. Eventually these people will be a figment of your memories. Perseverence may be the game. If they are interfering with your day-to-day well-being and causing you ongoing anxiety, depression, or fear, it's okay to reach out to a friend, superior, or even a counsellor for help or advise.
Depends on if you're doing the right thing. If they are wrong then you should try fighting back. Stand up for yourself if it doesnt stop then just ignore them.
If it is in a work setting, tell your manager. Also, remember to not let it get to you! Know the person is wrong and most likely has no clue who you truly are!
Anonymous
October 29th, 2016 2:46am
The best solution is generally to just ignore them. Once they see you refuse to stoop to their level, they will eventually get bored and stop.
Be patient and polite, ask why they're doing so, and if they could refrain from it. If not, just clear up any misconceptions and try to ignore them.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 3:41am
Report them, block them, ask them to stop in a nice way. Bad mouthing may not always be the user's fault however, as some simply have been raised in such a family where activities like these become accustomed.
Anonymous
November 11th, 2016 5:58pm
Don't bad mouth them back. Ignore it if you can, or confront them in a respectful manner rather than lashing out at them in the midst of anger.
Block 'em! I know it's short but it's the first step. If they're bad mouthing you in real life, just walk away. It'll fade away. Show them that you're so cool you don't care what they say!
Instead of trying to fight back I just ignore them. The people hat badmouth are just jealous of you and probably trying to draw attention to themselves. If you don't react they'll get tired of you and move on.
I believe that you should always surround yourself with loving and caring people. That said, there is no point in even spending time on people that do not respect you. Ignore them and block them, so you can spend more time with friends and people that do respect you, and you like hanging out with. Time spent on disrespectful people is time wasted.
The best solution for this in my experience is to ignore it. You can't give fire to something that's not true
Turn the other cheek and ignore it. Don't sink to their level. Say nice things about them in return.
I find that the issue is usually the person I am talking with is agrivated. I tell them that I don't want to talk to them now and will continue the conversation later.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2017 12:06pm
Either confront them and tell them how you feel or report this to someone in authority if you're younger such as a teacher or parents. If you are going to confront them, ask them how they'd feel in your situation. If that doesn't work, just ignore them. It's hard to do but when they see that they have no impact on you, they'll stop.
In my experience, the best way to deal with people bad mouthing you is to simply remember that any way others see you is completely down to them. Their own actions and words are not a reflection on yourself at all. Remember you can't always control how people view you but you can control how you choose to react to their negativity.
Act professional, don't take it personally. If its a way of them dealing with their emotions it is ok, we all have different ways of expressing how we feel. But if they are only negative towards me, its just a way of them dealing with their own insecurities. If I cannot do anything about that, I will end the conversation in a nice manner and help the next person.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2017 6:07am
Ignore them. Most of the times, the people bad mouthing you are only creating a bad reputation for themselves. The fact that they are bad mouthing others is only a reflection of themselves and their characters and not of the ones they intend to affect.
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