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How to deal with people that are bad mouthing me?

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Last Updated: 06/11/2022 at 4:44am
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Anonymous
April 14th, 2021 10:56am
The best way to deal with people that are badmouthing you is to not give them any attention. If a grown person is taking time out of day day to spend talking about you and that means that they are either jealous or see you as a competitor and do not feel that they are able to compete with you hence why many week people choose the easy route of of talking bad about someone which with them in turn make that person feel and unwelcome so the best way to deal with the situations it's too not be in that vicinity and to just get out and go somewhere else I did listen to some soothing music, for a walk go for a coffee anything to take you out of that situation.
niceRabbit8660
April 15th, 2021 5:03pm
it’ can be easy and hard sometimes but what you need to do is to try to forget about the people that are bad mouthing you and think of yourself you and yourself only go on with your day and remind yourself you are you Try not to think what people say about you you can’t stop the people from bath mouthing you but you can help yourself to not think about it just breathe in and out go on with your day not caring what people say walk pass them and act like you don’t know what they say and you don’t care
scenicShoe3640
May 1st, 2021 4:33pm
People will always badmouth you, if they are not then you are doing something wrong. Everyone is bound to have different opinions about various things and you cannot possibly please everyone. One of my favourite examples is about a man and his son who are stood next to a camel and they walk through a village. The villagers question him for being stupid because why would he not ride the camel if he has one, surely the journey through the village would be easier. A second time, the son is told to sit on the camel and the father walks next to the camel, the villagers call the son ill mannered for not letting the father sit on the camel because it is a sign of disrespect to the dad. The third time, the father is on the camel and the son is walking beside them, the villagers say, how dare he make his poor young child walk and they question him as a father. My point is, that people will bad mouth you whatever you do but you have to learn to ignore what they say and just focus on your happiness and wellbeing!
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2021 4:51pm
It can be extremely hard to deal with people who bad mouth you. Sometimes you don't even know what to do anymore because they keep on saying hurtful things and spreading rumors. That is a problem that doesn't happen often, but when it does, it can cause a lot of hurt and sorrow. The best thing to do would be to tell someone who has a higher authority than they and report them. Also you can ask the person why they are saying such things and ask them if they have anything against you. Try to listen from an objective view, even if it's difficult! And keep strong and brave. We believe in you!
Anonymous
June 4th, 2021 7:01pm
To ignore them and remember that they have problems in their lives. Someone from authority or higher up should be informed but they are sad people and don't have anything to do that is why they should not bother. Also it should be remembered to work on yourself and to set firm boundaries as you should never be a dormat and walked on by other people. Nobody is perfect in this world and it is not worth spending the time thinking why are even bothering to badmouth. Life is too short so best is to live the life and not care what they say.
SkyeWater
June 11th, 2021 6:10pm
I feel that instead of dealing with the people where their reactions are completely out of my control, I like to first ensure that I don't allow their bad mouthing to affect me. After that, I find that it is good to find a group of friends who are on my side to help you out as you deal with those people bad mouthing you. Dealing with them will most definitely not be a simple one-size-fits-all answer, but with people to support you in this journey of figuring out how to effectively deal with them, the task will definitely be less arduous.
millyishere
July 2nd, 2021 2:24am
Hearing that people are bad mouthing you is extremely hurtful, especially when coming from close peers. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can prevent when hearing that people do. The way you can overcome the valid response you get from the news, is growing your mindset and perspective on the recipitants. Bad mouthing usually reflects a deep wound in the perpetrator, which further grants them a sense of entitlement to project their insecurities. This is wrong, however, knowledge is power- and the more you know, the less it'll surprise you. People will bad mouth you especially when they're jealous, and it's not our job to tell them that their actions aren't mature. Wisdom can heavily protect yourself from rumours, as you have the power of insight.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2021 3:09pm
Ignore people who talk bad about you. People talk bad about someone because of their own insecurities. Ignore them and be proud of who you are. Forgive them and walk away from them. Forgiveness heals you and helps you not to be bitter. In this world, there are people who are cruel with their words and we also have kind people. You can stand up for yourself ignore them and walk away. Remember, you are precious and you are important so someone else's negative words about you doesn't matter and sometimes kind words from you also can stop the other person bad mouthing you.
sstarr
November 5th, 2021 11:25am
Oftentimes, the best way to deal with people who are talking about you is to be not a bigger person, but a better person. Ask yourself, would the best version of you stoop to their level or make another level of your own? Everyone’s situation is different, and while I may not know yours completely, I have been through rumors and gossip about me as well. Do what works best for you! :) Keeping your kindness while maintaining a higher maturity level than those speaking down on you is the harder path, but in the long run you’ll be happy you did it.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2021 2:50am
Try to think positive thoughts and tell yourself that you are better than them. It is easier than to just try to ignore the negative words. But repeating nice, positive words to yourself is always helpful. I have met many people on here that have been hurt by other people's words. Some are people that are close to them. It must be hard. Since I am not allowed to give advice, I try to use the positive words they used to describe themselves. I am taking a page out of my own handbook and trying to tell myself that I am a great person too
Anonymous
January 6th, 2022 6:29pm
1. Confront them. Ask them if they have something against you. Politely approach them to talk. Clear misunderstandings if any. 2. If they are doing it for no reason, tell them they are only revealing their toxic character by doing this and leave. If anybody approaches you hearing their comments about you, tell them the same. A sane person would mind their own business. 3. After the above two steps are done and they really are toxic people spreading negativity, tell yourself everyday who you really are and try your best to ignore it. Let time show everyone who you truly are. They may just be a distraction in disguise.
HappinessIsAFirefly
January 16th, 2022 7:21pm
Emotional control is going to be key here. You don't want to lose your cool and get mad at them, even if they are being infuriating. When people upset me, such as by bad mouthing, I start by taking a step back and reflecting on the situation. Maybe they are saying bad things about me, but is that a reflection of me or of them? Is what they are saying true, or are they just being mean? Likely, they are just being mean, so I try, to the best of my ability, to let their negatively roll off me. I stay calm in spite of it. Next, you may want to confront them, explaining why their actions hurt you and requesting them to stop. I would look up conflict management tactics in advance to ensure your conversation stays productive and emotions stay low. Don't start fighting with them; be the bigger person. If they refuse to stop or don't want to listen to you, remember that they are the unreasonable ones and try to distance yourself from them in the long run.
Wisewomyn66
January 19th, 2022 2:25am
There is no way to 'deal' with people that are bad mouthing you, that is like fighting quicksand, you are trying to deal with something that you simply have no control over. Instead, bring your focus and attention back onto yourself and living your best life. YOU know the truth and anyone that engages in gossip and believes one sided tales from people who tell them, they aren't worth worrying about. Stand in your own power and let that be enough, eventually the truth will come out, as long as you stay well out of the drama someone else is trying to draw you into.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2022 12:30pm
Take a breath and consider why those words hurt you – if it helps, write your thoughts down. Once you've process how you're feeling and *why*, confront the people who are bad-mouthing you, but not in an aggressive way. Start by saying something like "Hey, I've heard you say *this* about me. I want to let you know that was quite hurtful and I'm not okay with that." If it helps you, you can ask them why they said those things about you or you could kindly request them to stop doing so. But you need to also realise that any action that they take after is out of your control and from that point on you have done everything in your power to better the situation. If everything ends positively, then great! But if it does not, that is OK. You did very well to try but if they don't respect you or your feelings, then it may be good to step away from them completely and move on. These people do not deserve a space in your life and you will do much better without them.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2022 7:21pm
I think it is really important to always remember that the person who's talking about you has gone to a very low level to try to hurt you and that you should always be a better person and not get mad or lash out at that person. As long as you ignore the person and the issue, that person will never get the satisfaction of knowing that they "won". Another thing is, to consider the kind of person who's bad-mouthing you. Most of the time, it is someone who has to compete with you somehow. Usually, they are trying to gain something in favour of someone else by talking about you. Remember that most of the time, the person talking about you is only doing so for their own gain, or that they just do not know how to handle their own insecurities and emotions. The next step is to confront the person, in a responsible and calm way. Do not ask them why because that does not matter. Instead, tell them how hurt you are, and that you truly hate that they feel that way about you but you do not appreciate them talking bad about you. Even if they do not stop; I know it sounds easier than done, but honestly, you cannot worry about what people say all the time. Life is short, and your life is not going to be made up of what other people say about you. The next step is to move on. Get new friends, show them that what they say about you is not going to define you. This is what I think is a good way to deal with people bad-mouthing you.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2022 7:58pm
Please try not to take those comments personally. I know they are very hurting and quite frequently mistaken (it's okay to correct them if they are very off), but usually, those comments stem from the negative mindset of the person who is bad-mouthing themselves. Those are not worth your emotion and energy since they don't come from a strong ground. I know it is very difficult when it comes to letting go of things that hurt me, but at the end one who stays happy and resilient goes far not the one who holds on to the negative feelings.
Fradiga
March 23rd, 2022 11:55pm
Maybe you could first deal with your own self. People spreading any rumours about you are most of the time recognizing something important: that you matter. So before you "deal with" them, you might want to give yourself a pep talk. You do not need to argue with these people. Just shrug and go about your tasks and activities. The more outlandish the bad-mouthing, the more hilarious for you. However, if you know who is the source of the bad-mouthing, you ought to go see that person and say: "I need your help. I hear rumours about me, and since you know the crowd, I was wondering if you could make it stop." That way, you make no accusations and that person might well be able to do this for you, just because.... you asked.
calviness
April 9th, 2022 4:27am
People will talk, we bad mouth others sometimes, its a fact. You have to ignore and try to move on, when we hear it from a loved one it is even tougher, but then you realize and revalue your loved ones. It is better to keep it simple throughout, the more we think the more we become conscious of people talking about us. It is not worth the time to be going back to them. I'd say if you trust yourself on what you did, it is better to ignore. Our happiness is more valuable than the people who talk behind us.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2022 1:37pm
Learn to live through with it. People bad mouthing you are everywhere. They wont go away unless you ignore it. You know yourself better than anyone. I have personally experienced this kind of situation, I know it is hard at first. I kept crying whenever someone badmouths me. It is because I am too sensitive, and being sensitive doesnt mean you're weak. You are the real you. So, ignore them and live a good life. Basically, when you learn to live with it, it is nothing for you. It'll be just a small thing, and you'd be the one laughing at them.
listeningskies
June 11th, 2022 4:44am
How do you deal with rains? You watch it, let it do it’s deeds and then it passes away. What matters is that it provides support for further growth. Whether intentionally or unintentionally. You watch, you observe, you let it sink in and then it shall pass. The very fact that they’ve been bad mouthing talks a lot about them. Doesn’t mean it is all true. You believe your truth and never leave kindness. You grow and let go. For this world will not be kind always. But you can. To yourself and to the ones who seek pleasure in the pain of others.