How to get my parents to stand up for me against bullies instead of apologizing to avoid any confrontation?
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If you know the bully's parents name you could tell it to your parents (they can call them, Message them, or simply meet up to discuss whats going on between there children)
Anonymous
August 5th, 2016 2:58am
I think you should have a sit down explain how these bullies are making you feel and what you think their confrontation would do to stop them.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2016 7:50pm
So, you're feeling like your parents don't stand up for you instead they avoid confrontation at all costs. Starting a discussion letting them know how you feel may help.
You can ask your parents to have a moment for a deep conversation. There, you can share your opinion of bullying and how this action impacts a person lives even can be a reason for someone to commit suicide. How dangerous a bullying can be if nobody takes an action to prevent it. Most importantly, let them know how you feel when somebody bullies you and whether they would just stay and watch their child to be bullied instead of standing out to help.
Anonymous
March 27th, 2018 6:30pm
if it was me i would just ask them for help and explain to them what is going on. you have to believe that your parents will always stick up for you
It depends on the type and severity of the bullying.If it's online bullying, then the best would be to screenshot the conversations and show your parents. If it's at school then you can explain to your parents how you feel when coming to school, and have a few examples of situations where you really felt uncomfortable and threatened.
Tell them how much you are in distress and maybe you should also try standing up for yourself too. Your parents are there for you, hopefully they’ll understand.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 2:01pm
It's always good to talk to your parents if something is bothering you, because after all they are your parents, they raised you and know what's best for you. They love and care about you. You can be sure that if you tell them how you feel and that being bullied is something you cannot deal with (nobody can really), they will listen and do best to try and help you. You can also report this to the Head person or the Principle who will look into the issue to make sure the situations like these don't reoccur. Be confident to ask for help. You are not alone.
This kind of situation can be tricky because as adults, your parents might have a hard time understanding what you're going through. Try sitting down with them and having a serious conversation. Explain exactly how you are feeling and exactly what you are going through with the bullies. Explain to them that you need help. If you still feel like you are not getting the help you need, consider talking with a guidance counselor or another adult you trust.
Your parents should be your back bone no matter what, they should be involved in your life. Tell them how it all makes you feel and they should help you out with your situation
You talk to them and explain how being bullied is affecting your life and how badly you want to change it and need their help.
Honestly, you should sit down with your parents and talk to them. They love you and will want to support you regardless. Some parents don't like confrontation, but if you explain to them that the bullying getting worse or that them not standing up to help you is hurting you more, they'll understand and more than likely try to change :)
Anonymous
August 10th, 2017 2:40pm
Having an honest conversation with your parents explaining the situation and asking them to behave a specific way when dealing with your bullies next time.
You could tell your parents, and have them talk to the principal or someone in charge, and have them talk to the others parents/guardians.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2017 4:35am
Well your parents should stand up for you anyways because they are your parents and shouldn't care about confrontation. Just tell them that you are their child and they should stand up for you no matter what because that's what they are suppose to do.
Ultimately you are going to need to learn how to be self sufficient. Your parents enabling you isn't going to solve your problem against these bullies. You need to form solutions as to how to confront these situations and deal with them yourself. Seeking professional support is a great option to putting yourself on the pathway to learning how to deal with bullies.
When you think about how hard it is for you to change yourself, you understand how much harder it is to change others. Sometimes, especially when our parents don't seem to understand or more interested in holding onto their own ideas, or when they are willing but unable, then, we might have to study self care against bullies.
Sometimes your parents can't fix things. I know when I was getting picked on at school I would tell my older sister and she never really got the chance to do anything and then one day she went on the bus and just yelled at everyone and things were fine. The bottom line is, sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself, or sometimes you just have to show those who are bullying you is nothing you need to stoop to. You'll be okay and no matter what, you are strong and going to an adult isn't a bad thing either, you're not alone unless you don't tell someone.
You can tell your parents that you have not done anything wrong to make those people behave like that towards you. Besides, you can tell your parents that you really need their support to stand up against and protect yourself from those people. You can also tell them that if they apologize to avoid confrontations, the situation will most likely get worse for you, because those bullies are going to think that your parents are at their side.
I can relate to that... I think the most important thing is to be honest with them. Let them know how you really feel and how much it hurts to be bullied. Avoiding confrontation is always the easiest path, but it takes understanding and empathy to someone's pain to find the strength to back them up.
You can talk to them about how you dont lile what they're doing. If not talk then you can write to them that they should complain rather than apologise.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2017 5:09am
Tell them how I feel getting bullied and telling them to speak to the school or getting me out of the school
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