How you can deal with bullies without reporting them
Last Updated: 04/06/2021 at 9:55am
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I think you have several options in this situation, and a lot would depend on your definition of what reporting them means, exactly. If you are comfortable with it, and depending on your age and situation, you might choose to share what is happening with one or both of your parents, or your legal guardian. You might also ask, if your school has a social worker and/or psychologist, if you could share what is happening without naming nay names of the bullies involved to get some support from them as they would have, hopefully, a pretty good handle on what the culture and dynamics are at your school, if that is where the bullying is occurring. Also, if you have friends that are supportive of you, you might find some safety in numbers. There is also the option of talking to the persons who are bullying you directly, of course, and in this situation I advise you to do so if you thing that is best for you AND you feel safe. AS you have not shared the extent of the bullying, your safety is the #1 concern at this point, in my personal opinion. I do understand that being the target of bullies can be extremely hurtful and painful, and you deserve support as you face this challenge. I would also like to suggest that you might find some hope and/or solace in know that you are now alone in this, and would suggest that you could find information online about what you are facing, and many inspirational stories of others that have faced bullying in their lives as well and overcome it. My personal opinion. Take care
It is a fact that the thing bullies are most afraid of is that the person who they are bullying will stand up to them. So let go of your fear of standing up. Raise your voice. Tell them that you've had enough. You do not expect anything less in life but the best of everything. Don't let anyone treat you differently.
One way to deal with bullies is to simply not pay them any attention. If you don't react, they lost interest. "He who is wise keeps it calm to the last." While it may not always be possible, if you know where the bullies usually hang out, take extra caution to avoid those places. Don't just allow yourself to walk into a situation that looks bad from afar when it comes to bullies. If it looks like trouble is brewing, it probably is! So learn to walk away.
Bullies are human themselves they just have issues and seeking away to take it on others. It's not ok to bully someone else but one way i know works for me is just trying to avoid them and standing grounds , but you have to have high self-esteem. Talk to others and be strong.
Just speak with them about their problems, because no one bully without a reason. Maybe (s)he is jealous, vulnerable has a fear of smt.
You can just not let them get to you if they go up and bug you just tell them to back off and walk away from any dangerous situation you might be put in.
Ignoring them always works best. Delete the comment, don't give them the time of day. If they keep commenting again and again, confront them once about it in a mature, kind way. If they don't listen or just keep bullying, they don't deserve to be on your profile.
Then the only way is to ignore them completely. Avoid eye contact maybe? Try not to end up following them or something.
You be strong and make sure they realize you're not going to put up with it. Once they realize you're not going to let them push you over, they will move on to someone else.
Be brave to take the risk. Be brave and they will stop it theirself because they bullied people "below" them
you need to just ignore them with a smile and not pay much attention to them...dont show your weakside to them.. thats it!
Bullies feed off of a reaction, although it may be hard, the only thing you can do is ignore them and wait until they get bored.
Bullies are always difficult to deal with, because like my mom says they are always going to be there no matter where you go. If you don't want to report them because trust me in some cases that can just make it worse, just try to ignore them and not focus on the things that they are saying because honestly they are just unhappy people who have nothing better to do.
To be honest, talk to an adult, and tell them to keep who told anonymous. It's better to let someone know.
There is not much you can do with bullies without reporting them to someone. But you can always stand up for yourself and be confident about you. Try telling them to stop and that you are not putting up with them or the problems that they bring. If that doesn't make them stop you can always attempt to ignore them, if it gets to problematic to ignore then I really do suggest telling someone about it.
Bullies only keep going by the audiences reactions. It isn't right to get bullied and it doesn't feel good either. I can only share to you that don't react to them no matter what. Leave out and yes doing a report is right. So that the right people can handle the bullies. Be strong and know you are loved
You can ask them to stop as it is really affecting you, or you can react differently (I.e. don't pay attention to them or give them satisfaction). However, if these don't work and you are still being bullied I believe you should report them.
Tell them that they are hurting you.Stand Up, Be Your Own Hero Don't Be Afraid Just tell them straight that stop bullying that's not ok
If you’re being bullied there’s a lot you can do. While different tactics work for different people, the first thing you should do is try to work it out yourself.When you walk away you're taking away the bully's power! Stay Positive It can be hard to remember all your good points when someone is doing their best to be negative. However, try to think of all the things you do well and remember that you are a valuable person. Thinking of how bad the bully must be feeling may also help you to stay positive. Picture Your Bully Like This... Picture your bully standing on their head with their body stretching – almost as if they were standing in front of a distorted mirror like the kind you see at a carnival. Listen to their voice as it comes out all distorted and warbled. And they’ve turned yellow with pink stripes. Now who’s laughing? Build An Armored Shield Around You Visualize a tall armored shield. Build that shield around you and when it’s up, imagine all the things the bully is saying bouncing off that armored shield. Be Confident Bullies usually pick on people that they think are weaker than they are, so stand up to them. You might be scared but if you keep standing up to them they'll stop.
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