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I tried to stand up to my bully and it didn't go well, what other things can I do to cope?

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Last Updated: 08/11/2020 at 11:29pm
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Pali
June 30th, 2015 3:23am
You can talk to friends and family for support, surround yourself with positive thoughts and people and remember you don't deserve to be bullied. If you're in school reaching out for an authority is great as they can help you and keep you safe. You're wonderful!
BeautifulAngels97
October 26th, 2015 8:06pm
Try avoiding it and not let it bother you so much the bully will get bored and end up moving on but don't be scared to go seek help with bulling
dkotabarrios
April 4th, 2015 6:58pm
First off, I would suggest telling a parent or guardian so they can seek help for you. Another person I would turn to would be your counselor at school. School authorities are usually really good with dealing with bullies.
Anonymous
May 24th, 2015 6:44pm
Tell your parents, your teacher or your friends. If this all does not help, ask the Police for help. Bullying is illegal!
Anonymous
July 27th, 2015 4:36pm
Ok, well telling an adult about it is important. And some bullies bully because they want attention, so instead of standing up to them, maybe you can try and ignore them. But telling an adult is the best thing to do because they can help you more and probably help stop it.
Anonymous
September 18th, 2015 6:05pm
When possible, ignore the bully. Ignoring can be helpful, particularly for one-time cases. Bullies are looking for a reaction from you and often lose interest if they aren’t given the satisfaction of making you upset.Besides,telling him or her to leave you alone may get a bully off your back;Ever heard of the phrase “kill them with kindness”? Being nice to a bully may throw him or her off;Using humor can also throw a bully off track; Use positive self-talk. Try saying to yourself something like I know I am better than that. I’m not like that. I don’t have to pick on other people to know that I am good;Remember that your friends accept you for who you are.Futhermore,It might be easier if you talk to someone you know well and trust. This person can give you much needed support and might have suggestions for dealing with the situation that you might not have considered.I hope my advice help you.Have a nice day.
JordanArchuleta812
September 18th, 2015 6:15pm
When possible, ignore the bully. Ignoring can be helpful, particularly for one-time cases. Bullies are looking for a reaction from you and often lose interest if they aren’t given the satisfaction of making you upset.Besides,telling him or her to leave you alone may get a bully off your back;Ever heard of the phrase “kill them with kindness”? Being nice to a bully may throw him or her off;Using humor can also throw a bully off track; Use positive self-talk. Try saying to yourself something like I know I am better than that. I’m not like that. I don’t have to pick on other people to know that I am good;Remember that your friends accept you for who you are.Futhermore,It might be easier if you talk to someone you know well and trust. This person can give you much needed support and might have suggestions for dealing with the situation that you might not have considered.I hope my advice help you.Have a nice day.
HereForYou001
November 23rd, 2015 3:42pm
Keep trying. Maybe very very difficult but once she/he knows you won't back down, they'll leave you alone. You survive.
FaithGreen16
January 26th, 2016 11:58am
As well as standing up to your bully, you can speak to teachers, family members and counsellor about how to deal with the situation in the best way possible. Some times getting advice from someone older can help you decide on the best action for you to take.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2016 1:14am
You can try to become more direct and have more confidence.Avoid looking down and walk confidentially
PositiveAura
April 25th, 2016 7:44pm
i find that standing up to yourself is just as important as standing up to a bully you need to at one with you before doing such task with the bully
starryDreamer93
October 4th, 2016 11:42am
Ignore them. Laugh with them, I just used to laugh along with what's they said and they would look at me like I'm not normal but it soon got them off my back.
friendlyIcicle64
January 16th, 2017 11:23pm
If you can't stand up to your bully you can always talk to someone about it and they would probably attempt to help you out with the problem. You can also try to ignore the bully as much as possible and give the bully no reaction to what they do to you so you can take away the power they think they have over you. If you are not comfortable with reporting the bully then try to be confident in yourself and be the stronger person than they are.
samlovenothate
June 27th, 2017 3:14am
Report it. You don't deserve to be treated that way. Be confident in yourself. Talk with someone you trust. The only way to beat a bully is to be stronger mentally than they are. Dont let their words get to you.
dancer19
September 25th, 2017 11:21pm
Standing up to bullies is really hard, and props to you for standing up for yourself! Never ever forget how to do that, it will come in handy for the rest of your life. One thing you can do is think about how everything the bully says is false. That person is just trying to distract from their own insecurities, and isn't that sad?
Anonymous
September 26th, 2017 11:05pm
Based on personal experience, I found that just talking to friends and family helped a ton. They showed me the light of the situation and now I don't let others affect me negatively.
SarahTheCarer
November 14th, 2017 1:27pm
Talk to someone you trust about what is happening. They may be able to help! Also we have a wide range of self-care and self growth techniques right here on 7 cups that will help you become a stronger person.
charmingShoulder
December 5th, 2017 5:46pm
I would say, try to ignore the bully and use your friend system. Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully. You can also talk to someone about bullying.
Anonymous
March 13th, 2018 10:57am
Be brave,confident and atleast you tried remember not a lot of people can do that so well done for your braveness and at least now your bully knows that you can stand up for yourself and who knows you could inspire people
anansispider95
May 28th, 2018 10:22pm
Based on the subject manner, I am assuming this is a teen question. If that is the case, I suggest taking it to a teacher or an adult. You are not being a "tattle-tale" for telling them. You are taking your problems to someone who has the power to fix them. You couldn't "change" the bully by telling him to stop, and you aren't expected to either. As for coping with it, I will say to NOT go the avoidance route by staying away from the bully whenever possible. By doing so, you are inadvertently telling the bully that his tactics have worked and that you are afraid. In my line of work, we "plan ignore" when a child is cursing at us or making threats. Don't look at this bully in the eye when he talks to you. Don't say a word to him. Don't even acknowledge his existence in conversations: "[Bully] who?" However, for the larger picture, please, please, PLEASE, speak with an adult.
Sisterkeeper7
July 10th, 2018 11:22pm
First of all never hide a bully they should always be exposed don't worry about what other kids will think what other people would think specially what that bully thinks if you tried standing up and they still didn't stop tell a parent a teacher or the principal
Anonymous
August 11th, 2020 11:29pm
Tell your family, any teacher or any staff in the school at all, and tell the bully to stop of course. It's not always easy to stand up to a bully, but you have to tell them to stop, then if they don't, you have to tell your family or staff in the school. But if you don't feel like doing this, you can always try getting away from the bully and getting other friends, even if its hard too get friends, you have to try atleast. But my advice isn't good advice, so you might not wanna take my advice for it.