Is it my fault I get bullied?

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AkankshaP
February 22nd, 2015 10:58pm
No bullying isn't your fault, Bullying is a fault of a bully not you. Bullies are people who make fun of others because they like too but they don't realizethat they hurt someone's feeling or in some cases physical pain too. But its defiantly not your fault that your not your fault.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 4:56pm
Of course it isn't your fault! If you are being bullied you should always tell someone and you should know it is never your fault. The bullies are at fault here for putting you down like this. No one deserves to be bullied and it is not your fault, just tell someone about it and it will stop.
Huggler
September 15th, 2015 4:17pm
No. Really, trust me, that's not your fault. People who bully others are the bad guys in this story, they are the ones who are wrong here. You didn't do anything wrong. Believe in yourself, you deserve so much better than what those bullies are telling you. Don't listen to them, they don't know what they're talking about. Stay strong and take care
em1235
April 19th, 2015 4:29pm
No it is not your fault that you get bullied. A bully is just broken down themselves and wants everyone to feel their pain. The bully may choose to pick on you because they no you are to kind, nice, and gentle to do anything in return.
JustLikeaDream
May 20th, 2015 1:46pm
No, it's not your fault at all. You didn't ask for it and you certainly don't like it. You may feel like it's your fault, or even think you deserve it, but it's not.
HappyPlaces
May 27th, 2015 11:28pm
No, you shouldn't feel like its your fault for being bullied. Some people just like to bully people because they are having some of their own problems. or they just like to bully for no reason.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2015 3:46pm
It is not your fault at all. Usually, bullies project onto other people and hurt them because they're hurting too.
GracefulDuck
June 30th, 2015 2:02am
It's never your fault for being bullied. People have a problem handling differences in a positive manner, and sadly, that's how they cope
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 1:15am
No honey, people bully other people because there unhappy in there life and to them your a threst and they ahve to amke you pay for there unhappiness.
Anonymous
August 25th, 2015 8:05pm
No, but are you taking steps to stop yourself from being bullied? Whether you have to stand up to the person. Or get help. Don't let them think they have that power over you.. You don't deserve that treatment. You shouldn't have to live, constantly feeling tense or scared.
YourFutureBestFriend
October 24th, 2015 4:21pm
No! Not at all. It's the bully's fault. They just need someone to pick on to make themselves feel better. Usually because they're home life or something related isn't going well.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 6:12pm
It is definitely not your fault; nobody deserves to be bullied regardless of whom they are. You should consider talking to a professional or someone who can help you through this. You do not have to be a victim always - stand up for yourself and try to get help. All the best!
Anonymous
August 8th, 2016 2:46am
Getting bullied on any occasion is by chance and not be choice. Every person, according to me has the right to dress themselves or do anything about themselves. If it is not accepted by someone else, he or she must learn to accept it.
Lightnessindark3010
November 27th, 2017 11:56am
No it’s not your fault. You should be confident about yourself as the people who bully you, they know you have the power to rise and shine, that’s why they are bringing you down. Just believe in yourself and either stand up for yourself or just simply ignore them. Best of luck and remember I believe in you
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2015 4:31pm
No it is never ever ever your fault. Please dont ever think that, being bullied is a horrible thing and it should not happen to you.
BeautheLobo
April 18th, 2015 6:06pm
It mostly is, yes. You can't control people that bully you but you CAN control whether or not it bothers you.
CasListens
April 25th, 2015 2:17am
Absolutely not! Your job as a human being is to be an individual and express your uniqueness. Anyone who criticizes you for that is merely insecure in their own self. Rock on and be you!
Ginieboops
September 28th, 2015 8:04pm
No. It is never the victims fault, it is never your fault that your right to feel: safe loved and happy are being violated. The only way it is you fault is if you know all that, know you have the courage to change it, but you don't.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 1:19am
No, it would NEVER be your fault. Honestly, you are just being troubled about because you are an extraordinary person, who just so happens to have very significant features that make you the best person you are today, all I am trying to say is : It is NOT your fault for being unique,it is NOT your fault for making your unique features significant! So No, it will never be your fault. :)
KatieWhite
April 19th, 2016 6:15pm
No, it's not your fault. Bullies always exists and they will always find someone to mess with .But there are steps you can take to solve the problem.
ZiggyStardust44
April 23rd, 2016 9:06am
It is never your fault. Dont ever believe anyone who says "you're asking for it". Some people are scumbags, and society likes to abuse people who are different in any way. The worst thing you could do is change yourself to fit in. Be proud of your uniqueness when they're all just sheep following the herd. Be you, and I promise you one day it will all get better... Trust me. :)
JoshLlama
July 19th, 2016 9:55pm
Absolutely not. Bullies typically feel like they are missing something in their own lives and fill that void by trying to bring others down to their level. The best thing you can do is ignore them and move away, hopefully to an area that they can't get to you. If they continue, it's best to bring it up to someone that can deal with it (teacher, principle, supervisor, etc.)
friendly36
July 20th, 2016 12:52pm
It's never your fault. Bullying isn't a sensical act to begin with. There isn't a niche or a single type of people who get bullied. But there's a type of people who tend to unfairly treat people and bully them, and the key word here is unfairly.
TodayIsTomorrowsYesterday
August 8th, 2016 4:07am
It is never your fault that you get bullied. Bullies generally will try to make it seem like your fault even when it is impossible for it to be your fault. It's not your problem that people won't accept who you are
Anonymous
August 29th, 2016 6:30pm
No, the bully is often weak and wants to put others down to feel good or they just abuse their power.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2016 1:50am
It's not your fault, you're fine just the way you are and you don't deserve to be bullied at all, ok?
Anonymous
November 1st, 2016 8:34pm
No. It is never the victims fault that they get bullied, the fault should always lie on the bully. It is their decision to behave how they do.
ListeningOak
December 20th, 2016 8:19am
No, it is never the victims fault. There is no such thing as "Asking for it" or "Brought it upon myself", Bullying is a horrible act that has everything to do with the bullies issues, not yours.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2017 11:16pm
Absolutely not! You're your own person and sometimes people don't like that. Ignore them! people will always do horrible things to hurt you.
bruisedangel
May 16th, 2017 4:25pm
Not at all! Don't ever think that! People normally bully others because they have their own insecurities, and it makes them feel better about themselves when they project those inhibitions onto other people. It's solely about the person who's bullying you, it has nothing to do with you.