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Is it my fault that others bully me?

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ZaraSmiles
September 24th, 2015 8:34pm
It is never ever ever ever your fault that you're being bullied, angel. You are such a wonderful, brilliant person and I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. But it is not you to blame in any way ever and no matter what people may try to convince you otherwise, you are not at fault.
IreKat
June 3rd, 2015 5:08pm
NO. Bullies have personal reasons to bully but you are not one of them. They usually feel insecure or they have low self esteem and they feel good to treat you this way. You are not to blame. It could be anyone in your one place.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2018 4:33pm
it is not true that people are bullied because of themselves. Most of the times it has been noticed that people who bully have deep seated insecurities. They might have an inferiority complex which might force them to act as a bully so that they feel powerful. Other times bullies might have a superiority complex and might therefore feel that they are not getting the due attention and that is why they bully. So it is the bully who has a problem in most cases.
helpfulsam99
July 12th, 2016 5:35am
It's the bully's fault, 100%. When you're the victim, it feels like you're doing something wrong and maybe if you just fix yourself they won't hurt you again, but that's not true. You do NOT have an obligation to change yourself so other people will treat you with respect. You are a wonderful and unique person and if other people don't see that, it's their problem, not yours.
ImLittleM
November 16th, 2015 9:43am
It is never your fault if others are bullying you. Some people do not act properly, and will make you feel as if it is yourself, but it is not. Never stop being yourself. If you are feeling bullied, please seek help.
Talk2Heart
July 1st, 2016 4:02am
It is in no way whatsoever your fault if you are being bullied by others. Bullying is unfair treatment dealt to a individual to put them down. It generally makes a bully feel better about themselves. You should never feel bad about yourself if you are being bullied. Most of the times, the bully's are struggling with their own problems, and have to take their anger out on somebody else to make themselves fee better. Think of a bully as asking for help when they bully you.
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2016 10:33pm
No, it's not. The bullies are trying their best to be popular, and make fun of an innocent person, It's sad how our world is. Stay strong, they're just jealous
Helpyouhi
June 28th, 2016 7:43pm
No, it's not your fault. Some people are sick and they think that by that they are cool and strong but in fact they don't have self confidence so they reflect this on other people to make them like them.
HealingLotus
May 6th, 2015 3:09am
Speaking from experience as a person who has been bullied and abused all my life, you do have a role in it yes. You have characteristics that make you a target. You maybe reactive, you maybe passive, you maybe a people pleaser. General bullying is different than abusive relationships. So it's hard to gauge. However if you see yourself as a victim in any way, that is a key component to contributing yourself to being bullied. Bullies don't walk around bullying strong, confident people, it just doesn't happen. And when it does, it means nothing to the person. It's all about control. Are we giving people power over us? Are we being reactive and letting people influence our emotions? I stopped being as hurt and influenced by hurtful people, the more i took responsibility for my thoughts and emotions. If you see yourself as a victim, that is what you will be, until that view changes.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2016 11:10am
It is never your fault that someone is bullying you. Sometimes bullies have a bad life at home, so they use bullying as a tool that helps them feel better about themselves. It's not your fault!
Anonymous
December 5th, 2014 1:07am
Is it your fault if others bully you? Just please know that it is never your fault. Most of the times bullies are already hurt themselves and so they take out their pain on others. It's all a cycle. It's how the world goes round. What would the world be like without bullies? Now that I think about it I don't think it would be good. Bullies strengthen us. They benefit us. "When people hurt you over and over again, think of them like sandpaper. They may hurt and scratch you a bit, but in the end you end up polished and they end up useless." -Andy Biersack
AstridKingsley
December 5th, 2014 8:52pm
No, it is never your fault that people do not treat you with respect. Although some may say you are "asking for it" by dressing or acting in a certain way, you don't deserve blame for other peoples' lack of tolerance and sensitivity. Many bullies are lashing out because of pain in other areas of their lives that really have nothing to do with you, and chances are they'd always find someone to bully and something to get on your case about. You do you, and stay strong :)
sophiee21
December 5th, 2014 12:24am
No of course not! People that bully other people normally do it because they feel insecure about themselves and want to take it out on other people to make themselves feel better. This is totally wrong and you should definitely not blame yourself for it!
Tanya26
December 5th, 2014 11:56am
No, it is most definitely not! The reason that most children or even adults bully others is because of a lack of something important in their lives. They're feeling down, so they have to bring others down. It's not your fault. You're the victim of this crime because that person is acting out towards something that has not a thing to do with you. Offer friendship and kindness.
naturalRose97
June 15th, 2016 2:21pm
First of all I want to emphasize that any reason behind the action of bullying can't be accepted. Even you have done something unpleasant (for them). They don't know how to deal with their emotions properly and express it in inappropriate way. No one deserves to be bullied, same goes to you. As long you don't do anything that harm other people, it can never be your fault. If you do, introspection is needed but you still don't deserve to be treated that way.
Bella20
March 22nd, 2016 2:12pm
No it is NEVER your fault for being bullied. The fault is all theirs. They bully people because they are trying to justify themselves or take their hurt out on someone else. The best thing to do is to show them kindness. But it is NEVER EVER your fault.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2016 5:53pm
not at all some times its a way they make there selves feel better by hurting someone else...try to concentrate on other things for you...
AMomentInTime1830
July 19th, 2021 11:52am
It’s never your fault if someone is bullying you. It’s your choice to allow them to continue! We have no control over how others behave, but we do have control over how we allow it to affect our lives. Never do we have to tolerate hate or cruelty and it’s you who has to demand better. Set your boundaries not only with the bully and others, but within yourself. Decide what you want and when enough is enough. When you set your boundaries people will see your confidence and strength, and will less likely see you as an easy target to attack. Bullies often attack others, not because there is anything wrong with you, but because they feel something negative within themselves. Show kindness, empathy and support towards everyone you meet and if they still feel the need to cross your boundaries you walk away. You are strong and capable, and when you start to outwardly portray this, positive people will start to surround you
AstralShadow
March 7th, 2016 5:20am
Of course not, if you don't actually bother other people. You are in the green field. They just want someONE to be a victim. Tis their fault to bully anyone at all. To even be mean to anyone for that matter. Stay strong and soon things will be all better. Always look for the positives in life as well. There always at least one :)
Anonymous
July 12th, 2016 5:47pm
Of course no! People are like that. But we don't know what's happenin inside them so you can just think about they got problems and nevermind? or talk with them about it?
StudentSeng
July 15th, 2016 1:54pm
Nope, it is not your fault. It lies on the bully, he chooses to bully you. It's sad you have to be bullied! I personally have been bullied before and I don't think it's ever my fault. Bullies bully for their personal pleasure, not because it's your fault or anything like that. Show them that you can stand up for yourself, tell someone trustable and see what they can do about it. Most importantly, don't ever blame it on yourself and don't use violence!
Aprazz
September 16th, 2016 2:47pm
That's question can also have two answers, the first is because you're too antisocial to each other so they think you don't want to go with others. Second is because of the outside factor, probably the person that bullies to you is just want to make fun of you or do something to attract your attention. My advice is don't be introvert or antisocial, go find some friends that are good and right for you.
littlebearfi
October 24th, 2016 2:29pm
Never, it is never your fault. That negative thinking is not okay. Don't put yourself down for them.
ImaginaryPainting
November 1st, 2016 5:28pm
No, it is not your fault. Bullies usually lack empathy and they may think about themselves as 'powerful" if they make others feel bad. Some bullies have their own insecurities and problems.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2017 1:21am
No, it is not at all your fault. Other people who are insecure sometimes feel the need to put other people down to make themselves feel better. If you are being bullied, I suggest you see your school guidance counselor or talk to someone you trust.
royalCupcake84
July 11th, 2017 4:48pm
No, it isn't your fault. Sometimes people are mean because of things they are going through. Bullying is never your fault
Anonymous
August 21st, 2017 12:56am
Definitely not! Bullying is never your fault. Chances are, your aggressor has troubles of their own that they are having a hard time coping with and they don't have a healthy outlet. They will take it out on people who they perceive will have a tough time defending themselves. It isn't your fault and you have to understand that.
aerithium
February 6th, 2018 9:51am
No no and a million times no!!! as an answer..it's definitely not your fault, in return why don't you see the other way round.. In short the people who bully you are at fault!!(they surely don't have any productive thing to do), ..they think that bullying others is amusement to them?they think they are the best?hah! then thats total nonsense, who are they kidding..you are definitely cooler than them in every angle(right angle, 360degree angle whatever you say)..one thing you must remember, if they are really such bullies than they are just 'useless'=waste!!(until they have a kind spot deep inside like the way they show in dramas) So in conclusion fight up!!! :3
gracefulCreature28
February 12th, 2018 10:25pm
Definitely not!! Often, bullies don’t realise the impact they’re creating and so it’s important to tell someone you trust. Bullies often bully someone because they’ve been bullied themselves and so may feel like they need to inflict what it feels like on someone else. But it definitely isn’t your fault
Anonymous
April 10th, 2018 4:43pm
It is not your fault that others are bullying you because you aren't the one who aggravated them to hurt you more as they chose to bully you in the first place.