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No, it is not. You are not at fault. Bullying can happen with everyone. Most likely, there are various factors and personal reasons of the bully due to which he indulges in bullying.
Please read the Bullying Self Help Guide on 7 Cups of Tea for more information.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2018 2:42pm
No. Absolutely not. They decide to pick on you, it's their fault. Maybe they're hurt inside and try to hide it by bullying, but that doesn't make it any less their fault.
It is very easy to feel embarrassed, ashamed and blame yourself when you are being bullied. Most victims of bullying feel this way. But in short, no. It is not your fault that you are being bullied, it is nobody's fault - except for the bully. You cannot blame yourself for being bullied, but equally you should not blame the bully. Forgiveness is the key to healing and self-growth. Bullying is not your fault, no matter the reason that you are being bullied, the amount of people that are bullying you, the length of time that you are bullied for, or the type of bullying that you are a victim of. Bullying is not your fault, so please do not blame yourself.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2020 7:54pm
No it is not your fault, people usually bully because they have something going on at home or maybe they are being bullied themselves. Sometimes it does not matter what you do or who are, what does matter though is who you talk to about it and to get help. It is very important to talk to a trusted adult about how you feel and what is going on so that they can help you out. The adult can help you figure out how to confront the person/ and or deal with the situation if it happens again.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2015 7:37am
Of course not. Often bullies do bully people because of their home lif, they might be experience worse then you
It is never your fault that someone is bullying you. Most bullies are dealing with low self-esteem and have problems within their own household. A lot of bullies are abused themselves (Mentally, emotionally, and physically) by someone inside their household. They often bring their aggression to school and take it out on the kids that may reflect the kind of life that they wished they had. Bullying is built upon anger, envy, and jealousy. So no, it is not your fault. Remember that there are adult bullies too. Continue being fabulous, but wish your bullies well inside your head at night.
No,people who bully are incomplete and generally unhappy. They vent out their anger on anyone who they think wouldn't react.
No, if someones bullies you it's not your fault at all. If somebody's messing with you about anything it's just because she's a narrow minded person that cannot accept anyone that is different from them.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2014 8:24pm
It is absolutely not your fault. No one asks to be bullied. It is your bully's own insecurities and problems that are causing you to receive this, not you.
It is never your fault that others bully you. The problem often lies with the bully rather than the victim
Anonymous
April 16th, 2015 2:37am
It's never the victims fault when people bully them. Victims tend to feel it is there fault because of there emotions and question themselves "why me? There must be a reason!" There most likely is a reason and it's probably they are jealous that the victim is going much farther in life than they are.
NO it's not. Regardless of any "reasons", bullying is one of the most cruel things on this earth. Often it has more to do with the person who feels the need to bully others than with the victim - however wrong it is, they might want to win confidence or a feeling of power by putting another person, who is a wonderful human being, down.
well its neither your fault nor theirs because a bully is a person who himself feels insecure and so to get over that feeling of insecurity they bully you.they bully only those who seem weak to them and who seem that they have less confidence.
Of course it is not your fault and there are many people in bulling situations! Many times bulling is a form of self loathing and these people were once bullied themselves. Regardless of why bullies like to bully, try focusing on the positive people and events in your life. Also, if you are really down about yourself, try to write down some things you do like about yourself which includes positive things about your appearance as well as personality. And of course, if the bullying is physical or out of control, reach out for help!
It is never your fault. NEVER. Bullying is cause by anxiety/stress by them. They are having problems about themselves. Thats why they target those who are weaker than them, just to make them feel good about themselves.
This looks like an automatic thought: Labelling - faulty - Assigning labels to ourselves - Challenge yourself as from now :)
Let me start by saying that you are beautiful and wonderful. It is not your fault. I have learned that bullies are only looking to hide their pain as well. We have other ways; video games, sex, porn, talking, etc. but they choose violence. Either physically or mentally. They get off on it. It is not your fault dear. I promise.
Anonymous
February 16th, 2016 3:09pm
I have always found that jealousy is the precursor to bullying. At school I was bullied for being well behaved and doing my homework, My mum always told me that they were jealous of me and that they didn't know how to deal with what they were going through so they could only think to be horrible to me. I think that's the same for many cases of bullying.
NO NO NO NO! Bullies have their own issues, and it's because of those that they bully. You need to remember that you're not at fault in this situation, you didn't do anything wrong!
Anonymous
September 7th, 2015 1:04am
No. The bully's pick people they choose. If your being bullied, tell someone because no one deserves to be bullied.
Anonymous
September 14th, 2015 4:26am
Of course not! It never will be your fault! It's the bullies fault. They are taking out their insecurities and problems.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2015 4:35am
of course not! no matter who you are or how you behave, no one deserves to be targeted for who they are.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2015 12:19am
It's not the victims fault when bullies decide to bully the victim. Bullies often have something negative going on with their lives, but don't know how to deal with it, thus they project their anger onto a usually weaker victim.
they bully you because they see a desirable feature that you have which they want themselves this means they will do anything to try and take it from you
Is not, never it never your fault, people needs to hate other people to feel better with themselves and well ever if you do something embarrasing thats not an excuse, they bully you because your hobbies, your apareance or just for anything, its ridiculous and if you know someone is getting bullied, be brave and help him or help her, you can save their life, dont be indifferent they need you.
This is your fault. They are also hurting from the inside and this is how they are showing their pain. I am always here for you if you ever need to talk about this cause it can it challenging and really hard at times.
NEVER
no it's not. they are mean and insecure that's why they go around bullying people to feel better about themselves. you are great
No. Absolutely not in any case. You might be a little different, had a slip up, or just purely too awesome, but violence of a majority towards a minority can never, under any circumstances, be justified.
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