Is it normal for my friends to always insult me?
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That is not normal no. I would honestly think about your relationship with these friends of yours bc that is not helpful to always put someone down.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2015 5:16am
it's not a healthy thing for them to constantly insult you and I think they'll stop if you tell them that it makes you feel uncomfortable. However, the question is.. are they insulting you maliciously or just teasing you? I think when you find the answer to that, it'll be easier for you to know how to deal with it :)
No. They are you're friends they should be supportive, loving, and caring. If the things that they say don't fit into any of those categories, then they are not your real friends.
It is definitely not normal. Friendly teasing is one thing, outright insulting or making fun of is not a a character trait anyone would want in a real friend. If they are outright insulting you, it may not even be that different from downright bullying. Consider communicating to your friends that it isn't okay to mistreat you like that, nobody deserves to be insulted. If that doesn't work, it might be time to find some new friends who will support and respect you. Keep in mind that this goes both ways. Supporting and respecting each other must be mutual. All parties in the friendship or any kind of relationship for that matter have to do it or else it doesn't work.
Me and my friends always crack jokes that can be hurtful but if it really does hurt you simply let them know and they will stop
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2015 11:29pm
No, not really, unless that is how you and your friends communicate on a daily basis. I'd suggest perhaps speaking to your friends and asking why it is that they do this, explain that it upsets you and you are unhappy with their behaviour.
Anonymous
December 4th, 2017 3:27am
No. When you have a friend, they build you up not break you down. If you’re friends don’t make you fell good, they aren’t your friends.
It depends on the friendship group. Some people and friendship groups show compassion and love to eachother in different ways, if you feel that they take jokes too far or repeatedly make you the focal point of a joke have a talk with them. Sometimes the best thing you can do is be open and honest with people you hold close to yourself! If after stating you don’t enjoy it and it makes you feel uncomfortable then maybe it’s time to seek a new friend group that is more understanding of your feelings and needs, a change of company isn’t always a bad thing!
Anonymous
May 11th, 2020 2:31am
No! It is normal for some friends to sometimes tease each other, but if someone is genuinely feeling insulted, then a good friend would stop immediately. Failure of one party to respect the emotions and feelings of the other is a sign of a toxic friendship. The best thing to do in this situation is to talk to your friends and convey that you feel offended by their words. If they continue to disregard your feelings, then this is not normal and should be addressed. In certain situations, the best thing to do can be to leave the relationship for your mental health, and that is perfectly okay. Remember: do what is best for you!
Anonymous
December 4th, 2017 2:31am
No, thats not normal. Friends yes something insulting each other but not always. That kind of friends that doesnt respect you is not something worth to call a friend
No it is not normal for your friends to always insult you, those aren't your friends, unless their just joking.. If that happens you should find another group of friends that make you feel good about yourself.
I guess that depends on the severity or the impact that the insult has on you. If you feel as though it is harmful or inappropriate to you, then it would be best to talk to your friends about how you feel.
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