Is it normal for older kids to push me around and tell me what to do and make me do stuff for them?
Last Updated: 07/02/2018 at 2:54pm
Paola Giordani, Psychoanalyst
I have helped and am helping people cope with loss, divorce, anguish and parenting. Depression is also a major issue that comes up.
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The definition of normality is blurred. If you feel that this is making you uncomfortable then you do not need to tolerate this.
Some kids might feel entitled to boss you around because they are older, but that is no reason for them to make you do something or push you around. No one has any right to push you around, and you should do something because you want to do it; no one has a right to make you do something against your will. If they are doing these things, you might want to talk to a trusted adult or friend about it to see how you can responsibly deal with this situation. If you let this continue happen, not only will you continue being hurt emotionally probably and maybe even physically, but these bullies will think that it is okay to do this to others. By speaking to someone about this, you'll hopefully find a way to deal with the situation so you aren't bothered anymore, and maybe come up with a way to let these people know that it isn't okay for them to do this to others.
yes. Alot of kids pick on kids smaller than them just to "show them whose older". This is normal, however you do not have to stand for this. you can tell them to stop or if you arent comfortable with that you can tell an adult.
NO, it is not normal. For older kids to push you and to make you do stuff for them. So, you have to fight for your self.
No, is not normal and you dont have to obey them. They are no one to tell you what to do. EVeryone is free its style.
Society would claim it as normal but it is morally wrong. It's wrong for anyone to do these things to you. The acceptance of "that's just life" is diminishing and people are realising that bullying shouldn't just be another part of life. With each passing day, more and more people are realising how bullying can affect someone mentally and physically and it is becoming socially unacceptable.
A lot of times this can be true for older kids and teenagers because they want to feel powerful maybe because in their homes they get pushed around a lot.
Normal, yes. Right, no. You don't have to do anything they tell you to, and if they're upsetting you, you have the right to tell an adult.
It is not normal for anyone to order you around unless that person is your mum or siblings and mean well. If you are being pushed around by seniors in your schools or classmates, it can be considered bullying.
No. It's not normal to be the only kid getting bullied or bossed around. Even if everyone's like, "It's just a joke" or "We didn't mean any harm," it's not okay if you feel like you're being hurt or taken advantage of. You can always say no, you can always walk away, you can always ask for help from an adult.
It is fairly common but not always right depending on the situation. Ask yourself if doing their request has value to you, will you learn something from it for example? If so then why not do it and gain the experience? If they are just being a bully then it is never right and you should talk to someone close to you about it.
No, Don't let People handle you that way, even if your younger. You are still the same worth as they and everyone else is and are.
No. Stand your ground and do not let others bully you around into doing things for them. You are not a slave. You are not a butler/maid/servant. You do not work for them for a pay check or for favors. Stand your ground, this is the best thing you can learn in life on the road to success in your pursuits.
Of course not, every one is on the same level, no matter what age. To achieve serenity we must show respect to elders and those in the younger years. No one should be treated differently based on ages.
Yes. It's normal for siblings especially from what I know. Normal doesn't mean okay though. Being violent or mean and using them just because someone might be younger is wrong, and though it may be normal, it shouldn't be put aside.
nope not at all. you need to stand up for yourself they are bullying you
Yes- I think that it's normal if you are getting paid by them. If you don't think it's normal you can speak up.
No, it's not normal. You can try talking to someone who you know that can help you with that, those kids have no right to do that to you.
Normal is a tricky word. Does it happen often? Yes. Should it? Probably not. Most children who are younger tend to watch their parents, teachers, and other caregivers who give rules to them. Since it's no surprise that what we do is mirrored by children, they will tend to create a leadership role, which can result in bossiness.
No it is the opposite of normal. It is in fact bullying and abuse and if you can find an adult be it a teacher, guardian or parent that you can talk to about whats happening then please do so. You do NOT have to do anything you don't wish to do. You are your own person, unique beautiful and equal to everyone else older/younger etc. whether you feel you are or not. Reach out for help its there ready and waiting.
Yes, the older kids are trying to show their superiority on you. Just because they are older doesn't mean you have to do what they do if it makes you feel uncomfortable or agitated.
It is not that normal but you have to defend yourself and show them that even if they’re older than you they can’t oblige you to do stuff for them
It depends on how old you and they are and if they know that can get you to do stuff. If they tell you to so something and you don't do it, then they'll get angry but after a while they'll stop asking. And if they don't then keep saying no. You don't have to do things for them if you don't want to.
No. Talk to your guardians or a trusted adult or a teacher. Stand up for yourself and dont let others tell you what to do.
It’s not necessarily normal. I would seek some help, talk to someone. Perhaps an adult and tell them what’s going on. Sometimes you can’t do it alone.
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