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Is it normal for you to be mentally scarred from bullying?

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August 24th, 2015 8:19am
Yes its is very normal. Bullying is a very hard thing to go through and a lot of the time it changes the way you think about things and how you think about yourself. Sometimes the mental scars it leaves last forever.
April 7th, 2015 12:41am
Absolutely- and its okay not to be able to forget things or find yourself getting hitched on them. But its always possible to heal, though the mark may remain. Just remember that just because those words or actions hurt you, doesn't mean that they were true or at all justified. Pain is not validation for cruelty.
July 2nd, 2015 11:09pm
It is completely normal to be mentally scarred from bullying. Bullying is just like a traumatic event, once it happens, it can never be forgotten. Sometimes you may even be scared that it may happen again, whether it's by the same person or not. After a person is bullied, it (most of the time) lowers their self-esteem, and makes them feel unwanted, like they are useless. In some cases, it can sometimes eventually lead to self harming, even suicide, all because of a bully.
July 21st, 2015 8:40pm
Bullying is often a traumatic experience for the victim and can leave the person feeling ashamed, weak, and vulnerable. These feelings can continue long after the bullying has stopped. When you say 'mentally scarred', it sounds as if you may be referring to recurring thoughts or feelings around the times when a person was bullied. If so, yes it is absolutely possible to have recurring thoughts about the events that have taken place. This is a form of post-traumatic stress; essentially this means that after a traumatic experience (post-trauma) the person experiences stress. This can come in many forms, including nightmares, recurring thoughts or fears of being bullied again, feelings of weakness or helplessness, and even guilt or shame. If you or someone you know is being, or have been, bullied, speak out to someone. Talk to a parent, a school counsellor, or someone here at 7 Cups. You are not alone. There is help available to work through these emotions and feelings.
August 10th, 2015 11:56pm
Yes. I was bullied all throughout middle school and high school, and didn't realize its impact on me until later in college. I wound up having trouble forming friendships with other women (mostly girls were the ones that bullied me), maintaining trusting relationships, and eventually started therapy for anxiety and depression. Even though things aren't perfect now (I am currently almost 24), I have learned to address this issue and work through the residual feelings I have associated with my past. In short, yes, it is normal to experience a variety of feelings in the years to come after having been bullied. You are not alone.
July 28th, 2015 10:10pm
Absolutely. It is completely normal and sometimes it can make us feel as though we deserve it. However, we DON'T!
February 8th, 2016 5:05pm
Absolutely. Bullying is a form of pattern, and acts like classical conditioning. Classical conditioning is basically like if you always open a closet to access the pet food, and so now your pet runs over to you whenever you open the closet. Bullying conditions you in several ways, most negative. They harm your self esteem, and make you doubt yourself. It is ABSOLUTELY ok to feel mentally scarred after having been bullied, There is nothing about that that is weird. :)
June 6th, 2016 4:52am
Absolutely, this is completely normal. When you are bullied you feel alone and scared but then you come out of your shell and show those bullies who is scared now. It is normal but don't be normal, step out of your comfort zone ! :)
December 5th, 2017 2:16pm
I would have to say normal is a bit of a dangerous word, it's certainly common for people to be deeply hurt by mental abuse, and scars that no one can see.
May 2nd, 2018 5:44am
Yes, it is not uncommon for one to be mentally scarred from bullying. Bullying is extremely tough to go through and can not only mentally, but physically hurt you. Those scars can last the rest of your life...
March 16th, 2015 4:38am
yes, anything that happens that hurt you in the past it's normal to be scared it will happen again. having fears that everyone thinks whatever the bullies said is normal.
April 11th, 2015 9:13pm
Yes, bullying, especially depending on the severity, can leave long lasting mental and emotional effects on the person bullied. A good way to cope with this is to talk to a therapist or counselor about your feeling, and try and get help with your emotions.
May 6th, 2015 4:05pm
Yes it is completely normal. Its normal to be scared of practically anything. You are not the one who decides what to be scared and what not to be. If that was in ones control no one would had ever been scared of anything. But yes it depends on you, how you take your fear. You could try to work something for it, fight against the fear and emerge victoriously and make it go away, that's pretty much in ones hand. Or else can loose yourself without fighting against it. Not something I or anyone would like the thought of.
July 6th, 2015 5:48pm
Yea it is normal because now one wants to now what it feels like to be bullied no one wants to be in the situation anyways.
August 4th, 2015 4:49pm
Yes it is normal because bullying does affect people mentally and physically. But if you are seriously scarred mentally then you should probably speak to someone like a therapist or someone else that can help you deal with it.
January 25th, 2016 1:31pm
Yes, even if people don't bully you anymore, you will always remeber it. It won't help if the bullying lasted a long time
May 16th, 2016 10:47pm
I feel that this is completely normal, bullying is an awful thing and cave have a real affect on a person. Sometimes speaking about it, and talking through experiences can help a person get through it and move forward.
July 25th, 2016 6:19pm
Of course, it is! Bullies sometimes make you feel small and scared and that's what I hate about them!
July 26th, 2016 5:34am
I would hate to say that it is a "normal" thing, but sadly, it is. People can get scarred sometimes, but there is ways to cope and over come the issue though.
August 9th, 2016 11:58pm
Yes it is, I was bullied all my school life & still to this day I have flashbacks & memories it's horrible
August 30th, 2016 12:50am
Yes! It is completely normal to be mentally scarred from bullying. It is a traumatic experience.....
September 26th, 2016 1:29am
Lots of people do have long term effects from bullying as it is a prolonged abuse which us likey to cause some damage. The best way to deal with this is to find small things that help you overcome it and to talk to people about it as you dont have to be scarred forever
October 10th, 2016 7:25pm
Bullying can be very traumatic and therefore this is a very normal reaction due to how negative it can make you feel.
November 15th, 2016 1:17am
It's absolutely normal to feel traumatized after being bullied. It's not weak or strange, and as long as you recognize that it has an impact on you, you can work on it and have compassion for yourself, first and foremost. Hope this helped.
November 21st, 2016 3:40pm
Yes absolutely, I believe every event in our lives leaves imprints sometimes physically or mentally. Sadly being a victim of bullying can cause all manor of issues including lack of trust in others, security in oneself esteem and our views on the world. It can be hard to overcome but try to surround yourself by those who love and care for you.
February 27th, 2018 6:26am
It is. In fact, it happens in almost every cases. That is exactly why you should seek help once the bullying happen. sometimes working on it yourself won't bring you the best result.
April 24th, 2018 5:26pm
It is normal, especially if the bullying was for a long period of time and was very traumatic and stressful.
July 3rd, 2018 10:08pm
What is normal is always such a relative term, you are you, and if things happen to or around you, its very logical that they have an effect on you. Whether the bullying is presently happening or happened in the past, it has a tendency to leave scars, if you find that it effects you in your every day life, talking to someone may help to grab control back over your life. Its easy to say they dont deserve it, but they really dont deserve to have such impact on you, and getting the support to get there (which really isnt easy) is your first step! You cannot change the winds but you can adjust the sails
December 18th, 2018 5:36pm
Bullying is bullying. I don't think there is such a thing as normality when it comes to the consequences of the bullying because every victim and situation is different. However, bullying can hurt someone just as mentally as it does physically. Just as physical wounds leaves scars, the hurt and pain you feel when someone mistreats you will leave an emotional scar. This is why many people who've been bullied continue to try to heal their wounds long after the bullying is over. It hurts to be bullied, but its okay to acknowledge what you feel about all of it. If you want to cry then cry. If you want to scream in anger to the sky, go ahead and do that. The thing about mental scars is that you can't stitch them up and move on with your life. You have to face your feelings and know that nobody is going to judge you for being vulnerable because of what you went through.
January 8th, 2019 5:32pm
Yes, I would say so. Bullying is a really hard thing to deal with. People can mentally, and emotionally hurt you which can lead to lifelong damage, trust issues, and more. I wish it didn't happen to people. It happnes to a general majority of the population. Depending on how severe it can result to permanent damage. There has been studies on bullying and how it affects children and even adults, alot said that it can emotionally damage anyone who has been bullied adult or child. Bulying is very tolerated which makes it even worse and not many people stand up to it.