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My friend is always negative towards me. What do I do?

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My friend is always negative towards me. What do I do?
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Top Rated Answers
Lizzenah1
November 17th, 2016 5:05am
If they are indeed your friend let them know how you feel about that neagtivity. Friends tend to be harsh towards other friends they care about but you can still express to them how it makes you feel.
sidekicking
November 26th, 2016 7:57am
Try getting a new friend, or maybe (if you really want to be in a friendship w/ them) try figuring out why they might be behaving towards you in a negative way.
sereneBlue2121
November 26th, 2016 9:53pm
Try talking to your friend. See why they're doing that, and express how it makes you feel. If it gets too bad, then maybe that friendship isn't healthy anymore for you, and it might be time to look more towards other friends rather than keep someone like that in your life and give them so much power over you.
IsabelClairee
January 14th, 2017 12:34am
Talk to him or her. Chances are that they are dealing with stresses in life that are affecting their mood and attitude towards other things in their life. Be a friend for them. If they prove that they are not worth it, then remove the friendship from your life.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2017 8:33am
People always have opinions. They will judge you no matter what. Even if you are friends with them or stranger. So negativity is always there. You can stop your friends at some point, But when they simply can not stop being negative towards you then be positive yourself. Try ignoring their negative thoughts, If you can not then give your positive thought.
NoNameTwo
January 27th, 2017 4:14pm
If your friend is making you feel negative and acting negatively towards you, you may want to reconsider if this person is REALLY your friend. A friend is someone who will support you and make you feel happy, someone who you can turn to for help and advice and chill out with, not someone who will spread negative vibes and put you down!
Anonymous
February 16th, 2017 6:14pm
I try to ignore certain moments and see all that the person did good for me. But all has a limit. If they repeat it more times, I would try to stay distant and let them understand alone. And if they ask for explanations I would give it to them kindly.
SinclairB
March 11th, 2017 11:44pm
Communication is always the best option. Tell them how you feel and if they continuously return to being negative then you ought to consider whether their friendship really means that much to you that you're willing to take that negativity on board.
incredible86
March 15th, 2017 4:27pm
Ignore him. Because if you friend thinks wrong about you, you will feel bad. Feeling bad because of someone else is not helpful.
SpecialKae24
March 17th, 2017 5:07pm
Maybe you should talk to your friend in private, ask if there is anything wrong, and ask if there is anything you can do to make things better?
Leenient
March 22nd, 2017 5:26am
You can try telling them how they're making you feel. Tell them as it is a problem you want to get rid of rather than as a personal attack towards your friend.
Louisa982
April 8th, 2017 1:31pm
Your friend may be struggling with an issue their self. Try asking your friend if anything is wrong and if they need some help.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2017 1:19am
Sometimes people act out in ways that they don't necessarily identify as being unhealthy or negative or don't realize they are acting out in such ways. Your friend needs support, compassion and to know that you will be there when he or she is ready to open up about what is causing this behavior towards you.
furrylittlefox
April 22nd, 2017 8:04pm
Sometimes when others are negative towards you, it's because something within them is not sitting right. The best way to go about such a situation is to talk about it with them.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2017 3:39am
I think that you should take her aside and ask her what's bothering her. It could be something at home that's making her act negatively. Perhaps she just needs somebody to talk to.
MarvoliartyListens
May 4th, 2017 1:33am
Tell them that it bothers you. If they continue to discredit your feelings after expressing them VERY clearly, I'd stop being their friend. You don't need negativity in your life when you run into enough on your own.
CrownOfStars
May 8th, 2017 8:59pm
Talk to them. Seems like a useless answer, but that's honestly the best thing you can do. It's possible that they don't even realize that they're being negative, or they don't realize that it's hurting you. Talk to them, and if that doesn't work, figure out a way to reduce the negativity, whether it be spending less time with that friend, or just being ridiculously positive whenever you talk to them, or something else.
Dana13
May 17th, 2017 12:37am
You do not need negative people surrounding you or negativity overall. This 'friend' is not really your friend. Warn this friend about their behavior and if it is repeated then it is time for getting a new friend who will bring you up instead of being negative towards you.
AthulRJ
May 17th, 2017 11:07am
Negative and positive depends on how you perceive things in your mind. Accept whatever he says and take a look at it from a different perspective. Always challenge yourself to be positive towards you and others around you. Always stay clear with a positive mindset and you will attract positive things in to your life. Do not try to correct him or point out that he is always negative towards you but changing your mindset and perspective is what you got to do. This will work.
warmCandy62
May 20th, 2017 3:46am
If your friend is being negative, Sit down and have a talk with you friend on how you feel when they become negative around you. Figure out what is bothering them, if nothing is bothering them, be respectful and kindly say that you dislike how they are being towards you! If they get upset, let them get upset, but stay calm and have a calm tone that your not wanting to cause an Argument your just wondering why your friend is being like that towards you. If that doesn't work, then they obviously don't care about how you feel as a person.
GillianfromScotland
June 8th, 2017 4:59pm
It can be difficult knowing why a friend is negative towards you, you may never know. They may be going through something difficult and find themselves taking it out on you, or they may be subconsciously reflecting how you feel. There is no right or wrong answer in how to deal with this but it is not something that should be left to fester. Explore how you feel and explore the options on how to move forward.
PeaaarlL
June 15th, 2017 9:25pm
It is important to communicate this issue with your friend, approaching them with curiosity rather than accusation. Allow them a chance to hear what you have been experiencing from them, and see if any resolutions can be made. If not, it may be time to re-evaluate the friendships in your life and see who falls into a category of toxic and healthy in the friend category.
LilSun
June 23rd, 2017 9:57am
Talk to them. Ask them why are they always so negative and find out if there's a particular reason or if they have something bothering them and they don't know another way to cope with it. You can also ask them to be more positive because negativity is never a good thing. If they disregard all of that and your request for them to be more positive then you can consider stopping the friendship.
lamerbleue
July 5th, 2017 2:05am
I think the best way is to try and talk to them. Being straight-forward avoids misunderstanding and confusion. It may not be you- it could also be something going on in their life. Talking to them could deepen your friendship and help your friend to open up more on what's going on.
cheerfulSnow78
July 8th, 2017 7:21pm
Try to sit and talk with your friend, tell her how you feel about what she does. How her actions make you feel a time of way.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2017 5:00pm
Confront them about how you feel with their behavior towards you. If they don't accept, leave them.
Norffiebear
July 23rd, 2017 4:42pm
Well start by telling them that their negative behavior towards you is unacceptable & is causing you a lot upsets, If you cant confront them directly perhaps write them a letter if either options don't work sadly its probably best to say your Goodbyes to your friend & move onto to friends that really respect & encourage you rather acting negative towards you!
exquisiteWaterfall67
July 29th, 2017 11:43am
Try to talk to them about their negativity and why they're doing it. Listen and don't speak while they're talking to you. Tell them you understand why they're negative, and try to change for the better.
pantspants
August 18th, 2017 9:35pm
Friends who are always negative to us, may have some things affecting them in their life, and could want some help or are looking for an escape, we can always try to talk to them about this situation and see if their is anything we can do or fix the relationship.
Anonymous
September 3rd, 2017 10:19pm
Have a conversation and ask that person for a reason. Consider your friendship. Is there a reason why this person treats you that way? Maybe that person is stressed or not feeling good. Try to understand your friend.