My friend is always negative towards me. What do I do?

It can be overwhelming when your friend is negative towards you and I completely understand how you are feeling because of that. In today's world, things can sometimes bring folks down and we're not sure how or why it is happening. I cannot provide any advice however I'm an expert listener and am here for you. Here at 7 Cups, we have a variety of resources that can help you when dealing with circumstances regarding negativity with your friend. I'm happy to be here in listening to you. Would you like to discuss more about how you're feeling?

Have a serious discussion with your friend. Let them know how what they are saying makes you feel. When my friends are behaving in a way I disagree with, I am up-front with them. I am honest with them. I let them clearly know how I feel about what they are doing so they can stop. If a discussion does not work, I find it best to distance myself. If you surround yourself with friends that are consistently negative, you may find yourself in a toxic situation. It is best to remove yourself from this toxicity, even if it is at the cost of a friendship.

It can be hard when the people we consider friends are negative towards us. Since we feel close to them, it is natural for us to want them to feel warmly towards us, too. If your friend is consistently negative towards you, you have a few options that you might consider. Option 1: You could ask them why they are acting the way they are acting towards you. (It's best to ask in private, in a space that's not noisy or chaotic, and to have a kind and gentle demeanor when doing so.) Option 2: You could let them know the way they are acting is upsetting to you using an "I feel" statement. For example, "I feel like you don't value our friendship when you are consistently negative towards me." Option 3: You don't have to spend as much time with them. Sometimes, we have to be our own gatekeepers, and recognize that not everyone deserves to be our friend, and that's okay. It's okay to have standards when those standards are in place to protect us and surround us with good, caring people.

A friend is someone who loves and support you, and if they're being negative everytime, they're not your friend. Try asking them if anything is bothering them (there might be something bad happened to them). And if they remain being negative, I'd suggest you to break up the friendship. Don't hesitate or feel like there's something wrong in you, you always deserve to be around people who love you, and if they don't, they have to be let go. In life we'll have to be a strong person, who tack stand for themselves and believe in them. I hope it helped u

It's time to leave I think. Negativity is like Judgement too. Its also not showing acceptance to you, so why stay? I have same situation. I really have a friend who is negative about me, and being mentally ill its very hard but I am stupid to stay and still care about him. I hope you won't be like me. Give yourself freedom and invest on healthy friendships rather. And if we keep staying in toxic relationships what's the sense? Think firstly if it's worth to try and maybe sit down and talk to your friend about this and tell what you feel if your friend doesn't care its time to leave. You should make yourself matter first.

friends are here to help us and love us and support us. if your friend is being negitive and snobby towards you and not anyone else then chances are theyre the problem and not you. negativity stems from plenty of different things none which are good. hate, jelousy, envy, ect. find a new friend who enjoys your company. time is non replaceable to be carful who you give your time to. spending time with negitive people can change you into bad habits. you start being negitive towards your friends all because of this one person

Ignorance is bliss the best way forward here. Friends are for advice and comfort, if they are always negative, they aren't someone who should be kept in your life. I would personally avoid conflict, though confrontation is sometimes helpful - ignoring the issue is completely and absolutely fine in a situation like this. Friends have the ability to critique us, however if they are always negative - they can't truly be our friends, it is more suggestive that they may even be an enemy. However, I wouldn't describe them as this, they are most probably envious or even having trouble themselves.

You need to address this question with your friend because they might not think that they are being negative and there could be a possibility of misunderstanding. It would be helpful if you sit down with your friend and talk about this issue and how it is affecting you in a bad way. However if you feel like you are unable to talk to them alone, you can get another friend to help support you and be there for you since friends are supposed to be supportive and understanding. If the negative things are hurting you badly, you should remember that you shouldn't let other peoples' negativity bring you down.

I can really hear that you feel that your friend is not supporting you in the way you want to be supported. A respectful conversation and negotiating the terms of that friendship goes a long way if both parties decide to make it work. There are of course patterns and behavior’s that are toxic or hurtful and where a more strong-footed, clear-cut conversation can clear any misunderstandings. The main questions you can reflect on can be as follows: What do behavior’s and actions hurt you? What are your boundaries? Are you putting other people’s needs before your own too often? How in general do you resolve conflict? Are you wanting to give your friend another chance? Are you no longer wanting to be this person’s friend? You may want to reflect on your idea of what gaslighting is to you in terms of your relationship with your friend. Are you made to feel that you are too sensitive? Too stupid? Like what you say represents fantasy and not reality? If things have happened to the degree of gas-lighting slowly siphoning them out of your close circles may be something to consider. If keeping them out of your close circle is something you are unsure of or fear because you are worried about the reaction you will get ask yourself whether or not this friend has a positive influence on your mental health. If wanting further support please do not hesitate to communicate with one of our listeners or therapists online. Know that you have control over the decisions you make and it’s ok to tell people how you feel!

I can relate to this, because I'm that negative friend😃 (I'm not weird I swear :,) And to be honest, I am not negative towards anyone in particular, just because my personality is more emotional and I get negative thoughts quickly. Things I say and do might be weird to others and I understand that feeling. I would say, figure out if they are directly negative at you or their personality just seems like that. They my not be actually negative, there is a chance that they make jokes on negative things or they just come off as negative. I know that is possible because I am like that, I have negative thoughts or jokes that makes the situation less serious or stressful for people around me. But that doesn't mean I'm a negative person, I am actually pretty positive and supportive :)

Negativity from any source will overtake other aspects of your life. It is important to identify how they're being negative. Think of situations where they were negative and think of ways their actions could have been positive. After evaluating their negativity, think about how it has affected other aspects of your life. At this point it may be beneficial to confront your friend about it. Outline ways in which you've felt negativity from them and then try and propose positive ways they could behave towards you instead. If this doesn't work, do what you need to do to ensure you interact with them as little as possible. You don't need that negativity in your life. Surround yourself with positivity and people who live a positive lifestyle and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

I think that the best thing you could do is to tell them that you are bothered by their negative attitude toward you, and maybe talk it out. If the friend in question has issues, lashing out at others is not a healthy outlet, and you are definitely not at fault for any of it. On the other hand, if the friend ignores you and your request, it is safe to say that they are not such a good friend to you, and maybe it would be better to distance yourself, at least for a bit, in order to see how things progress. Take care!

Don't destroy yourself by allowing negative people to affect your positive personality. Negative as a person they may be, it is paramount – if not only for our own healthy and sanity – to resolve the situation in an intelligent and healthy way. First, don't let them get to you. Don't take anything they say personally. Create your own positive environment.The problem with taking things personally with a negative person is that it doesn’t lead anywhere. The only possible outcome is a perceived “victory,” that they’ve managed to “hook” you. Also, be compassionate towards your friend. Not every negative person intentionally acts negatively. For whatever reason, they’ve simply adopted a negative mindset. So you can just give them a compassionate ear and try to instill positivity in them, if they still continue to behave this way, you might as well stay away from them.

You deserve supportive and loving friends so surround yourself with such folks i know it may be hard at first but you need to let go of toxic people but first try consulting this friend try asking them their reasons for such behaviour towards explain them why it hurts you and why should they change it it is possible they do it without realising but once you make them realise and they still continue it its better to walk away from such people. And don't worry about people not liking you or ending up alone you will find people you truly deserve

1. Identify why your friend is behaving that way. 2. If you find out a cause, try to communicate to them about it, 3. If there is no cause or particular reason, it is best you do what will ensure your good well-being. Even if it involves maintaining a distance from your friend, do that. It will help them realize that their behaviour towards you is not justified. I would recommend you to draw boundaries and do not let anybody; be it friend or relative, to invade that. You deserve to be loved, appreciated and valued. People who treat you otherwise do not recognize your worth. Hence, it is better to draw boundaries.

Their behave comes across as toxic . Would you consider talking to them about it and See how they react ? If they are understanding, they might not realize what they are doing. Tell them how you want to be treated. See if they respect you. If they get defensive or start gaslighting you, that could be a sign to keep a bit of a distance. There are some narcissistic people out there, who are very charming but don't care about anyone other than themselves. They use people. If your friend fits this description it might be time to move on. But talk to your friend, they might not know what they are doing is wrong and maybe they would improve. In case they are really being negative, you are probably better off them.

I think that as friends, you should have a level of freedom to express yourselves to each other. You have as much right as they do to express what you feel too. So have a talk with them. Tell them what and why it is annoying you. Maybe they do it without knowing that it affects you. If you feel ignored or looked down upon then it would be time for you to move on, regardless. Your mental well being is of a lot of importance and nobody deserves a jerk for a friend. Cut them off and seek better company.

Tell them how you feel, it is important to let them know that their words can be hurtful even if they are not meant to. If they still keep on doing it, after you told them it is better if you decrease the interactions with that person, it is hard to leave someone you consider your friend, but you should put yourself and your wellness first. I can asure you that you will be able to have better relationships once you have learned how these interactions should be like. People can have hard days sometimes but doesn't give them right to treat other people bad

If then being negative towards you makes you feel something you should tell them. Just simply say hey I don’t like how your always so negative. Along with telling them that you should tell them the exact things you don’t like when their being negative. If they don’t like the fact you said that to them then it would be best to take a break from that person for a while until you feel like you can face them once again. If the situation doesn’t get better and starts to affect you even more try and find a different friend to hang out with more.

Perhaps she is jealous of the person you are! Live your best life and ignore the negativity. If it gets too much you can always be honest and ask her why she does this and how it makes you feel. Personally, I believe she/he is not a true friend if they are constantly putting you down, they should be happy to see you accomplish things in life and love to see you strive, they should also be pushing you to always bring out the best in yourself. You do what you think is best, hope it all works out in the end.

You talk them and ask them why are they having such an attitude towards you, and if they can't give you a proper explanation you cut them off eventually. You need to remove toxic people from your life in order to stay healthy and happy! You deserve better, remind yourself how much you worth. Those who don't make you feel good about yourself aren't good and loyal friends. Would you ever treat a loved one like they're treating you? I bet you wouldn't. That's all you need to know. You wouldn't do what they purposely do. They don't deserve you.

If you consider her as a good friend and a caring one and i Know that you know the answer of this question because you just need one minute to answer it than tell her that if she is doing that without her awareness than she should stop because you don't like that... so if she is a real friend she will understand you and you will have a nice conversation with her about that ....but if she is not a friend you deserve than the situation gonna be different. Anyway from my personal experience with friends i know that being with someone negative is something really toxic that's will drain your energy and your positivity and it's better be alone than being with someone eating your personality alive .

I truly believe that a genuine friend is someone that makes you feel comfortable and uplifts you as an individual. I also have a similar experience as what you are having, and it took me a long time to walk away from negative people I use to consider as friends. I know that its very hard to just walk away and put aside all of the memories and friendships you have found with that friend of yours. But I would like to remind you that, in the long term run, it would heavily drain and you may risk losing yourself and your positiveness as an individual. I would just like to remind you that this life of ours is so precious and there is more to life than we think there is and I firmly believe that being alone in your positiveness is more ideal for your mental health instead of being with people who brings you down and makes your feel unwanted.

Nobody deserves to be treated in a negative way and when it comes to friends, they are the ones with whom you share some bond and their negative behavior could really affect you. The first step is always about acknowledging and though it's sad to find your own friend behaving in such a way, it's good that you at least recognized that something's wrong. There are a variety of steps you could take further. Maybe thinking about the situations again and acknowledging what exactly makes it seem negative could help? Maybe asking the person about the reasons that caused them to behave in that way and then taking steps further could be another thing? Maybe talking it out with the person could help you understand their behavior in a better way and maybe that could make it clear if it's a misunderstanding? Other than that a lot of people consider taking a step back and recognizing whom they need most, this could also be called ending the friendship if you find it toxic but in some cases you may not want to lose contact with the person and want to understand their side as well which is a good thing but if it's affecting you a bit much then there's nothing wrong in taking a break and talking to the person once you feel it's alright to do so. Also to add on, make sure that it's not your fault that they are behaving in such manner with you so please make sure to not to blame yourself for anything and to take care of yourself while marking your steps ahead!

That's definitely not a good way to act towards your friend! I am sorry that your friend's attitude towards you has been negative. I can understand that at your place, it might even feel a bit wrong to bring it up because you might not want to come on too strong or say something that hurts your friend. Even so, I want you to know that you deserve respect, care and support from those close to you. There's nothing wrong with wanting basic respect from a friend and for asking support/positive comments from them. Communication goes a long way - communicating how something the other person does/is doing affects you and what you'd like them to do instead. I'd also say you might benefit from seeing if establishing some boundaries with this person would help. Know that you matter and whatever you have to share, deserves to be taken and listened to, not always criticized. We are here to support you!

If my friend is always being negative towards me, I try to address the issue by talking to them. First, I go to my friend and tell them how I am feeling using I-statements. By not making them feel defensive, the conversation is more likely to be successful. After sharing my feelings, we can hopefully discuss changes in behavior that can make the relationship feel more positive (maybe giving more compliments, keeping negative thoughts to ourselves). If behavior doesn’t change after our discussion, I would gently point it out in the moment: “Linda, your words feel very negative and I’m hurt. Can you try rephrasing that please?” If that doesn’t work, then it may be time to reevaluate the friendship.

Sometimes people get themselves into a negative pattern and sometimes I think if things aren't going well for them they start to take it out on you. I do sometimes think that being positive can attract the negative in people and I am not really sure why. This day and age it feels that people thrive on negative things. One reason I think people can be negative all the time is, well it sounds funny but humans are naturally problem solvers and when everything is positive and going well, there is no problem to solve. But I do also think that people don't always realize they are being negative.

Sit down together and discuss how he or she is making you feel tell them that this is becoming an issue maybe bring it into conversation when you feel that the time is right. I am sorry that your going through this though. Maybe do something go out somewhere or even sit down and have a cup of tea and discuss how your feeling if there a good friend to you and you mean something to them then I do not think it will be a problem. I can understand how your friend being negative all the time could effect you it cant be easy I do hope that you get this issue sorted.

setting boundaries is the best thing to learn when it comes to negative people. It can be hard at first and takes a couple tries but after you get it it is great. sometimes if the friend doesnt understand, They will be a little shocked unfortuantly if that is the case then they were more then likely never a friend to begin with. also telling them how you feel is a great way to overcome fear. fear can sometimes be driven when we dont want to hurt the other persons feelings. at the end of the day we want to make sure that we come first

We all have different personalities and therefore our perceptions of events and behaviours may vary. Your friend may not be aware of the effect of their behaviour on you. If this relationship is really important to you try explaining how you feel to them. If you notice an improvement then you can use that to decide where your friendship stands. If this person continues to treat you badly then you may have to consider if their presence in your life as a friend is offering you what you are really looking for. You can get some advice on how best to approach the situation by speaking to a professional.