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People i don't know are bullying me, what can i do to make myself more confident?

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Last Updated: 07/21/2020 at 10:06pm
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PhoenixAsh
November 12th, 2017 10:29am
I'm sorry to hear that people are bullying you - especially people who you don't know. My first point is: they don't know you either - even if they know who you are, they can't really know you if you don't know them, and therefore they don't know all the wonderful things about you! As for improving your own confidence, there are a few things you could try. It's up to you to figure out what works for you! You could point out one good thing about yourself in a mirror every day (it doesn't have to be a physical quality, but it can help to say it to yourself), challenge yourself to push your boundaries when you can and overcome things you may not like about yourself, or do something that makes you feel good!
Anonymous
February 20th, 2018 3:40am
Just believe in yourself. Don't think of others thoughts about you. Just do what you love and be yourself.
Anonymous
November 14th, 2017 8:29pm
You just should ignore them, they are nothing in your life, and everyone who knows you, know about you , and what is fake, and what is not
Anonymous
December 12th, 2017 8:16pm
I can talk to people who have been through the same thing before, I could give myself pep talks, or I could ask for advice
naturalStrawberry348
July 2nd, 2019 8:47pm
My first step in becoming more confident in my past is asking supportive peers what they see in me as good qualities. Once I had a list of these good qualities, I made them into a poster that I hung on my wall. Everyday I would look at this poster and choose two to focus on that day. I would use these as my affirmation for the day and focus on how I show these qualities during that day. I also sought out professional therapy that helped me to deal with trauma issues from my past that played into my self-esteem.
bubblingForever78
August 20th, 2019 6:01pm
Hi there, the first thing you should do is report the bullying to the proper authorities as bullying is never acceptable. As for making yourself for confident, one of the things I can suggest is finding a way to outwardly express yourself, and do things that make you feel good. Confidence is a thing that does take a while to build and it will always be a constant thing to work on and maintain but if you can find some safe ways to express yourself and surround yourself with like minded people, the confidence will also come through. Hope this has helped a bit, have a good rest of your day/night.
Anonymous
June 9th, 2020 4:21pm
Sport is great way to build up confidence in oneself, because it'll show that you CAN; no matter what others say, you CAN, you did that yourself, with your own strenght and will. Martial arts in particular, like Judo or Jiu-Jitsu are especially helpful because not only give you confidence in your skills but also teach you a mentality based on respect, for yourself and others. Also more often than not you will find a community of good, helpful people, both teachers and practitioners, who's different perspective can be hugely beneficial in looking at things from a different angle.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2020 10:06pm
Confidence has to come with within. Try looking in the mirror everyday and telling yourself an equal amount of physical and personality traits you admire about yourself. This can start with one or two and maybe even consider writing them down. This can help greatly to build confidence. If youre being bullied it might be helpful to address this in a professional manner or with a third party. This may be a teacher or colleague. Writing down the problem or bullying targets may also make it easier to reason them out and make them realistic. One should realise their own truths.