What do I need to do/be to just fit in?

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Last Updated: 05/08/2018 at 6:55pm
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
April 10th, 2015 3:53pm
find people who fit you. Don't change to be what society says you should be, there are people out there with something in common with you, even if its that they aren't socially praised, you will never be the only one, be true to yourself, and that will attract the right kind of people for you....
SuperMark
April 12th, 2015 4:50am
Nothing, just be yourself. If you don't feel like you fit in you're not with the right people, because when you are with the right people, talking just comes naturally, it doesn't feel like you're in a pressurized environment at all
Malloryduitch
January 30th, 2015 5:17am
Don't focus on fitting in with a certain crowd, rather find people that fit in with your interests and you fit in with theirs. If you meet others who you vibe with, you wont feel the need to fit in with everyone else!
Nisee96
February 16th, 2015 8:53pm
Nothing you need to be yourself you are unique you were born to stand out. Why try to fit in when its clear to you that you are different.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2015 12:32am
You must be yourself, that is the main thing. There's no point being someone your not when your trying to fit in. You have to just be yourself.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2015 4:15am
Be yourself! Never change who you are just to impress or fit in. If you don't feel like you fit in, try to find common interests with people.
espyo
July 13th, 2015 3:53am
You dont have to do nothing at all just be yourself. You do not have to change whom you are just to fit in with people. Be yourself.
bronwyn4456
November 9th, 2015 5:20pm
you shouldnt feel the need to fit in your should be yourself and be who you are comfortable with and who is going to make you happy
Devin0210
March 28th, 2016 11:56pm
This is really a question most people ask themselves when they around big crowds and are wanting to make some new friends. The good thing is that there is an answer for that! The best answer for this particular question would be, "Just be yourself!" If you are being yourself, eventually someone or many people will find you and like your personality and want to become friends, therefore, you fit in. If someone tries to get you to be something that you're not then they aren't really friends, just be yourself and you should fit in just fine.
Iam80Here
May 31st, 2016 3:08pm
You don't need to do anything to fit in and neither you need to be anything. You just have to be yourself, and along your journey, you'll know your worth because you are the controller of your own game while others co-create their ones too.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2016 4:16am
Nothing you are perfect the way you are. People will like you if you just be you, don't pretend to be anyone except yourself.
CaylaCares
July 18th, 2016 10:41pm
be yourself. it's better to have real friends who accept you for you actually are, rather then to have a bunch of fake friends like you for someone you're pretending to be just because you changed yourself. If you're yourself then your true friends will find you.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2016 1:56am
You don't need to do anything , you just do you , be yourself. Just look for friends with similar cases, likes , dislikes and you can fit in perfectly.
Itzreginaz
September 13th, 2016 10:10pm
Don't try to fit in. Be yourself that's what matters to eveyrone. Fitting in is not cool, fitting in means to be fake and sometimes to bully other. Always do you.
animalcaretaker7
November 22nd, 2016 6:28am
Honestly, while sure, sometimes it's nice to fit in, it's not me. I can't tell anyone how I fit in really because most of the time I strive to stand out. I wear crazy accessories, have nerdy stuff that I take pride in wearing, and I love doing wacky makeup. That's who I am and I don't want to fit in if it means changing the person I've become comfortable being. Really just be yourself and they people that will accept you you'll find, that's what I found. That's where I fit, but Im not afraid to make my own place.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2017 6:11am
Yourself. I know it's not exactly what you want to hear, but you need to be yourself, because that is the best you you can be, and you should love that.
LotteEira
June 12th, 2017 6:04am
Just be yourself.. Always and forever. If you need to be someone else in order to blend in, believe me, it's not worth it, cause it means you don't belong there. There are people out there, who loves the way you are, cause you are nice.. more than nice. You, for some reason, don't see it, but others do. Trust them and love yourself. good luck
dancer19
September 25th, 2017 11:06pm
Sometimes, it can seem like fitting in is the most important thing. However, you do not need to give in to peer pressure or do something just because everyone else is doing it. It may seem like fitting in is the most important thing, but eventually people will come to admire your quirks and what makes you different. Be true to you!
Anonymous
January 15th, 2018 3:28pm
Be yourself. :) Someone out there will notice you and join your company, as they feel attracted. If they grow comfort in your company then that's a good sign.
Anonymous
March 19th, 2018 1:02am
To fit in you can just be yourself, doing what you regularly do and some people will accept you for the way you are no matter how different you are.
simplylyn
May 8th, 2018 6:55pm
First I believe you have to observe the culture and norms that you need to conform. Sooner you will realize that you belong. And oh, be a good friend to everyone, makes it easier.