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What is holding me back from standing up for myself?

13 Answers
Last Updated: 08/10/2021 at 12:05am
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
April 8th, 2015 5:01pm
Not being confident in yourself. Love yourself and just be who you are. Don't really care about what others think. People who don't appreciate you don't deserve a place in your life.
Anonymous
May 10th, 2015 4:52pm
The feeling of getting made fun of more, this happens a lot. People hold back from what they have to say in worries of worse things happening
Anonymous
June 18th, 2015 1:58pm
Most likely fear. But only you can answer that. Ask yourself why you need to stand up for yourself? Others should never have the power to make you feel weak!
beth95
October 27th, 2015 7:45am
One of the things that sometimes holds me back from standing up for myself or beliefs that I feel strongly about is the fear of being judged and ridiculed. I also feel a lot more comfortable blending into a crowd and not making myself stand out.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2015 6:36pm
Sometimes, it can be intimidating to stand up for yourself alone, so try having a friend stand with you.
blazingwolf
November 27th, 2015 1:16am
You, is the one holding you back. One thing, you have to do it the clean way. You must be short, precise, and very calm. Stay grounded at all times, do your best. Make it, clean, short and strong. Leave an opening to solutions, you must!
Anonymous
January 26th, 2016 8:07am
You just need to build yourself up until you feel like you are ready to take your challenges on. You just need to get a little boost of confidence to make yourself stand up and overcome any of your fears and challenges. You can do this, just believe in yourself
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 10:12am
The fear that others may judge you or not agree with you but if you keep on standing up on your principles and on what you think is right then, you are on your way to nothing but what you deserve.
Anonymous
October 11th, 2016 8:39am
Perhaps you are scared of the outcome of your defense. Nothing is more important than you and how you treat and respect yourself
Anonymous
November 7th, 2016 2:37pm
My lack of self-confidence. If I believed in myself more, I would be more willing to stand up for myself.
Nyssa2506
November 14th, 2017 2:28pm
I understand that the situations that require you to stand up for yourself can be very hard, confusing and frustrating. But, no one is stopping you. And believe me, no one can. It's just you. Only you have the power to impose restrictions on yourself and stop yourself. As the saying goes, "It's mind over matter". I know it's easier for me to say as I don't know the situation you are in, but trust me, only you have the authority over you! By trying a little hard every day, being a little brave & strong every day and by taking one small step every day... you will get there. Hope this helps. Good Luck!
fancySound39
July 16th, 2018 4:12pm
Confidence may be holding you back from standing up for yourself. But no body should be afraid to stand up for themselves.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2021 12:05am
Fear. Fear is one of the strongest emotions. Fear of the unknown can be crippling. However, it can be overcome. Take small steps towards your goal. For example, if your fear is of heights, try climbing a few steps at a time, getting higher and higher. To stand up for yourself, start by writing down the things you are great at. Bring them to your attention. When you are in a situation where you feel you need to stand up for yourself, remember all those great qualities and say to yourself ā€œIā€™m not what they are saying!ā€ When you feel comfortable speak out with confidence.