In my experience, there is no one definite way to handle someone being a bully, but i would suggest that the first thing is to empower yourself - do something that doesn't involve them that makes you happy; listen to some powerful music, take up fit-boxing, or hang out with a best friend. The second thing would be to give yourself the power of knowledge - look on forums and talk to others about how they deal with it, or google bullying and learn some tactics. The next step is how you deal with it at the time: some people say it can be good to ignore bad behaviour, because it takes away their attention. I've also heard people say that you should smile, and act like it isn't affecting you, because they don't get the reaction they are looking for. Although this might work for some, it won't work every time, and i think it can be equally important to actually let the bully know that you're not okay with how they are treating you, and that you won't stand for it. In the end, bullies are bullies for a reason; usually it's because they think you are a threat, because they want attention, or because they are so insecure themselves that they want to try and gain control over situations by hurting others. If you can remember that, then you will remember that sometimes a bully will always be a bully, but it isn't your fault. It isn't your personality that is the problem, it's theirs. Your personality is created by your brain, and so is theirs. Unfortunately, their brain has been learning that being hurtful is a way to keep control over how they feel. You don't have to be that way. Boost your own confidence by being kind to others, even to those who aren't kind to you. Retaliating to bullying in a negative way is often tempting, but not conducive to the situation. Create a support network of people like you, and people you trust. Your network will keep you strong; there is strength in numbers. If you ever see someone else being bullied, stick up for them! Confidence is key, and if you can be strong enough to say "I'm not going to stoop to your level, but i'm not going to let you belittle me, either" then you are on the right path.