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What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?

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Last Updated: 07/03/2022 at 5:47am
What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?
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Top Rated Answers
SolangeBerenice
December 8th, 2016 4:04pm
To love yourself. To learn how to love yourself and ignore anyone saying nasty things to you. They don't matter, you do.
OctopusGarden
November 3rd, 2016 2:48am
Don't let them get to you. Someone who calls you names may be someone who selfishly expects more out of you than you can provide. Just remember, while you may be worthless in one person's eyes, you're a treasure to many others.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2016 11:08am
You should never believe those names no matter who is telling you. You know yourself the best and not them. If you think they are not true that I'm most certainly that they are not. You should remind yourself that you are not defined by your bullies.
spectacularPiano55
April 4th, 2016 3:06pm
The best way to get over that is to just ignore them. The reason that they are doing those things is because they want to get a reaction out of you. If you let them see what they want to see they are going to continue to do those things. You can't let it get to you. Talk to someone you trust the most.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 6:48am
The best way to get someone calling nasty names is by simply not letting them affect you so you not
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 4:18pm
I first ignore them in order to give them a chance to back out, and if they didn't, then I would stand up for myself.
Spiderman93
November 21st, 2014 10:06am
Dont let nasty names bother you! The person who calls you nasty names, may be having a hard time with something. You know you are better than anything anyone can call you!
isaetoilerina
May 10th, 2018 12:20am
I laugh, and say, "I know myself." The sting will fade, the words are nothing compared to the strength that lies within you because you are amazing.
SHEisthereforyou
April 11th, 2018 5:23pm
You should realize that you're better than that and try to ignore it. I know it's hard but you can!
Anonymous
September 6th, 2017 1:26am
The best way for me personally is to stay away from them and forgive them for being the way they are. We all face people with negative attitudes in life we just have to be the strong one and move forward.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2016 6:03am
There's many ways to get over name calling. First things first, never lash out, this will only make things worse. You can always just act as if the names don't bother you. You could also make a joke out of it. Or you could talk to someone who could help you through the situation.
thequeen98
February 6th, 2016 7:36am
From personal experience, I would say to realise that the person who is calling you those nasty names may be hurting inside and is taking it out on you so you should just shrug it off and understand that you're better than the things that they are calling you
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2014 10:13pm
The best way of getting over someone calling you nasty names is to try and ignore it. You have to keep in mind that you are not what they make you out to be. You are your own person and you deserve to be treated with respect.
Bubbyduckie
December 16th, 2014 10:29pm
I know nasty names always suck, but just shrug them off and let them call you the names. So what? You're such a better person for putting up with them.
15Kenzi
June 30th, 2019 7:34am
1. You grow up, become mature, and realize you dont care about anyone calling you names. Because, they're just names that have no definition that compares too you. Soo.. who cares.? Why does it matter.? And why are you still worried about it 2. you ignore them (they won’t get any satisfaction without a response) 3. Get 3x5 cards and write nine positive names for yourself and tape them on your clothing. Look at yourself in the mirror. Take a nap. Do the dishes with these new names on you. Do this once a week until you start to believe you are the new names.
blissfullcanary01
August 16th, 2017 4:38pm
Realize that the flaws people tend to see in others usually stem from their own insecurities. Oftentimes, bullies will say mean things to make themselves seem better, or that their own flaws are not as significant. So take it into consideration that calling names might not have much to do with you after all, and see how that can make you stronger. After a while, you might see that they are only calling themselves names subconsciously.
Dorkprincess143
July 14th, 2017 6:23am
The best wat to get over people calling you nasty names it realize they are probably going through things themselves and just taking it out on you.
LovingAlaias
December 18th, 2015 11:57pm
Don't give them the satisfaction they are looking for. Simply smile & show them your happy and not bothered with their negative comments.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2017 1:28pm
Ignore them and don't spend too much time with them. Avoid them as much as possible and don't listen to them.
politeBike14
June 8th, 2017 10:10am
Try to make them undersstand that it is not nice to be called with nasty names. Try to make them walk in your shoes. If it is not possible to communicate with them at all, just ignore them and don't forget that you are who or what you believe that you are. You are not what the other people call you.
SamListensToday
April 26th, 2017 6:05pm
I think the best way is to just ignore it, I know that's such a simple thing to do and it's easier said then done but you shouldn't let a few nasty names ruin your mood. the old saying goes, sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me!
wonderousBeauty87
December 16th, 2015 9:57pm
The best way to ignore name calling is to ignore it. To think about the positive things going on and trash every negative comment, any destructive comment that may come along the way. The person who goes around name calling are people who probably aren't comfortable with their own lives
Sushigirl9
December 15th, 2017 2:58pm
I was very upset when a good friend tried to put me down by calling me names and said some nasty things to me. I’m still trying to get over it by focusing on the things I’m good at. That makes me feel better knowing that I have my strengths.
eliaphant
February 21st, 2018 2:50am
Honestly, talk back! Stand up for yourself and don't shrink down or try to change because of what they said. Stand up for yourself!
LoveGodFirst
April 19th, 2018 5:27am
as my pastor said “Those who hate, need love the most. If someone slaps you across the face, turn the other cheek”
ChronicThugLovin
January 6th, 2016 5:35am
Remember their words do not define who you are and remember the person who you really are. They only attack you because they are insecure about themselves. They need to put you down in order to feel like they are worth something.
Supergirl94
January 26th, 2017 3:12am
Ignore them. Remind yourself that you are not whatever names they are calling you, that you are better than those names and better than the individuals who are calling you them. Often when people bully it is a reflection of themselves, not you
OaklandHarleyCoffee
April 12th, 2017 1:03pm
The best way to get over someone calling you nasty names is really just to remember a few things. The first is that they most likely do not know you enough to call you that or to even say it meaningfully. The second thing to remember is that the things they are calling you are just words, as words can be said in different ways, but can still mean the same thing. Lastly, even though words are words it does not mean, at all, that feeling sad is wrong or that is is 'weak'. That's why listeners are here.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2017 11:49am
To just ignore it. It sounds cheesey and your parents probably tell you the same thing but ignoring the bully will make them mad and give you a sense of control. If the bully is being physical then it's time to maybe talk to an adult or teacher about it.
happyhues
December 25th, 2015 7:35am
The best thing is not to retaliate. Let them tire themselves and show them that you are tougher than their words. Everything they say doesn't speak about you anyway, it reflects the kind of person they really are.