Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?

310 Answers
Last Updated: 07/06/2020 at 11:07pm
What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?
1 Tip to Feel Better
United States
Moderated by

Hisham Tawfik, M.S.W.

Counselor

Counseling and psychological services are my passion more than my work, It is all about love, and love is the only real value.

Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
September 6th, 2017 1:26am
The best way for me personally is to stay away from them and forgive them for being the way they are. We all face people with negative attitudes in life we just have to be the strong one and move forward.
eliaphant
February 21st, 2018 2:50am
Honestly, talk back! Stand up for yourself and don't shrink down or try to change because of what they said. Stand up for yourself!
hollyliz35
April 15th, 2018 6:25am
Nasty names are tough, I would probably push it out of my head and then do some things to make myself feel better.
TheCup5893
April 27th, 2018 9:02pm
Do not trust anyone elses judgement except for your own and your own peoples'. Please. You know you are a good person. What they've said reflects their unkindness, not your character. :)
isaetoilerina
May 10th, 2018 12:20am
I laugh, and say, "I know myself." The sting will fade, the words are nothing compared to the strength that lies within you because you are amazing.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2019 1:26am
Take a deep breath and explain to yourself why you don't fall under the category of that nasty name. Likely, if someone calls you a nasty name, they're the ones who fall under that category. Just take a deep breath and ignoring them works too! Sometimes it's just best not to give into their nonsense. If their name calling continues, maybe try to avoid them all together. Just remember to not go down to their level! The harassment will continue if you give into them! If the name calling ever gets to you, maybe put the negative mood into something productive? Writing and drawing are two of many ways!
CherryBlossom360
October 6th, 2019 7:04pm
I would just block them out and do my best to Ignore them if I was in your situation. The more you react.... the worse it'll get---If you react then you are only going to make them want to continue doing what they are doing and acting in the way that they are acting towards you. If you are want then you could always try talking to them (in a calm manner) and telling them that their behavior is not ok and that you don't appreciate it. If it continues and if they continue to call you nasty names then you can either ignore it or get someone else involved.
empathicDreamer65
December 11th, 2015 1:24pm
Know that ALL behavior is communication. Yes, they are verbally communicating hurtful words, but it is really communicating that they have a void filled with insecurities within them, and that terrifies them. Lashing out at others and hurting them with words, as harmful and mean as they can be to the recipient, ends up being harder on the one who says the hurtful things. Knowing their hateful words are rooted in their own internal pain and have absolutely NOTHING to do with their target may open up the possibility to respond with compassion. Compassion for the misery they must endure that brings them to the point of cruelty in their effort to protect their own vulnerabilities. People make bad decisions when mad, sad, or stressed. Try loving them by seeing their words for what they are. A cry for help they may not even accept they need. Know you are beautiful and wonderful just as you are; their words reflect how they feel inside about themselves, and that is a sad dynamic for all.
OceanWaves23
December 11th, 2015 2:04pm
The best way to get over someone calling you a nasty name is to think of their motives, i would bet they are doing it to detract attention away from their own insecurities or to try try to make other people around them laugh, again if they need to do this then they are not confident in their own personality. You ARE better than them already, be strong, ignore them and rise above their level.
clh2os
December 17th, 2015 6:30am
Often nasty names hurt because we try to associate some truth to it. We question whether or not we deserve those harmful words--and if we have self doubt, those words can damage our hearts. Write down the word. Figure out why it makes you feel so awful. Remove the emotional charge from the word...Then, discover where the venom from the individual is coming from. Hurt people hurt people. Find comfort and validation from your own heart and remove the sting of someone's sharp tongue by ignoring them--or take it a step further, and see if maybe they have some issues that they are unable to resolve.
Shikamaru42
December 23rd, 2015 12:29pm
That depends on you and your situation. I think there's two general ways to do it. Firstly, you can try to simply ignore that person through calmness and ease of mind. Secondly, you can listen to the insults and use them to feed your motivation, basically turning the negative stuff being thrown at you into positive energy. Both ways require lots of practice but they are likely to pay off in the end.
Rayofhope10
December 25th, 2015 8:10am
Just ignore them.Stop takng personal.They are wasting their own time so you dont waste your time :)
outgoingPlum171
December 25th, 2015 7:14pm
People will say rude, mean, nasty things towards you. Everyone gets them. Remember that people can say terrible things. Unbearable things about you. And they will have nothing to do with you. They will have nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves.
SilveryBlueSkies
December 30th, 2015 3:19pm
It can take you a while to understand that someone who has to resort to calling you nasty names doesn't have enough creativity to come up with something better to do with their time. they are also closed minded. these types of people often end up sitting at home on unemployment in the future wishing they had 5 more $ for a bag of chips to go with their small fuzzy television set playing some old timey movie. People who have sucessful futures are those who have creativity to be innovative and are open minded.
Cosmiclover01
December 30th, 2015 3:32pm
Just don't take it personal and try to brush it off. In reality, who cares what they're saying. Most of the time, those individuals just have their own hangups, therefore, they choose to pick on someone else to make themselves feel better. Do your best to ignore it and don't give them the satisfaction of gaining a reaction from you.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 5:35am
Ignore them! if someone doesn't like you, thats not your problem, its theirs! People only call you names to make themselves feel superior
Chinchillin
January 1st, 2016 6:11am
If it were as easy as just saying the right thing, or doing one thing, we all would have learned it a long time ago. Instead, what you really need to focus on are the principles that cause someone to do that. Basically, people behave that way because they know that it bothers the other person - in that sense, they get a feeling of power and superiority by getting a rise out of you.So the way to get them to stop is to show that it doesn't bother you, to demonstrate that their opinion of you does not matter, that you are above their taunts, or their insults. Begin by asking yourself why their words bother you, and then analyze it, consider it, and figure out the truth of the matter, your own truth, how you see it. And then, when they call you those names, you'll no longer be bothered because you'll understand their motivations, and you'll know your own truth. And with that, those words will stop bothering you, and they will no longer have any reason to call you names.
AD20
January 1st, 2016 8:12am
You can confront them about it, or you an surround yourself with people who appreciate you and love you.
warmRainbows36
January 1st, 2016 2:15pm
Ignore them. I always tell myself shift+delete(i.e permanently delete) memories which don't add value to me.
IBelieveInYouHannahh
January 3rd, 2016 8:11am
The best way I think, from experience, is knowing that what they are saying is abosolutly not true. Most people try to put others down because they're jealous. Don't let anyone tear you down. Your amazing just the way you are.💕
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 5:16pm
NEVER retaliate, ignore. ignore and walk away and pretend they do not exist, that's how i personally did it.
IAmGladUCame
January 6th, 2016 5:57pm
Not paying attention. Saying that there's no need for all of that, and that conversation is not healthy at all.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 10:30pm
Just think to yourself your better than getting emotional over stupid evil people and your better than them!always remember your not the only one going through this,we can all help you and alot of people care about you x
wonderfulWaterfall86
January 13th, 2016 3:15pm
Ignore them. It doesn't matter what people call you. You know who you are. You know what you have done. You are the expert on you. No one else.
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 2:37pm
Ignore it .They will stop it because they will become tired while you becomes stronger.Be ready to see them becoming weak after seeing that you are not affected.
Jazyjeff
January 21st, 2016 9:35pm
Ignore them, they aren't worth it, what they really want is a reaction don't give them that satisfaction
lovelyGrace43
February 5th, 2016 12:40pm
Ignore it. That's the best you can do. It doesn't' matter what they think of you. When people tried to insult me I knew that God is on my side. Also it doesn't matter what anyone thinks of me.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2016 2:36pm
The people who call you names, they don't care about you. What they say is downright mean, and though it hurts, know that those people are just being mean and that it's not your fault they targeted you.
HummingWisdom179
October 1st, 2016 5:50am
Filter those nasty names; an insult is a compliment wrapped in spikes. Don't fight fire with fire, though, as you don't know what they could be going through!
CandyMandie1391
October 14th, 2016 12:47pm
Know your self-worth, if you know who you really are, those words have nothing on you, I know it is not easy but rather focus on your succes, people calling you names are usually jealose