What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?
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Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 3:29pm
Have you talked to someone about this? The support family and friends can offer you is amazing. They will be willing to help you through the tough times.
Personally, although I do not encounter this, I would think positive thoughts about myself as I knew the name I was being called may not be true. The person calling me names could just be wanting to make me upset or lose my self confidence. The person that is calling names or trying to put people down may be experiencing some hard so asking them if they are okay might be a good thing to do.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 11:32am
You are not the only one, you don't have to care about them because nobody is youer than you! You don't have to care about what they think about you! Show that person who you are and show them that you will never care!
I myself had a boyfriend who verbally abused me. It took my a long time to realise what he was doing was verbal abuse. But after a friend helped me realise this I found it a lot easier to realise what damage that person was doing to my self esteem. All they are doing is causing you unhappiness and as soon as they are gone you will he a lot happier. Once you realise this letting them go will be a lot easier
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 3:59am
Know who you are. If you do know your value and appreciate yourself as you are there's no reason to bother with what others are talking about you. There're a lot of trolls and you shouldn't doubt yourself because of them.
I'd talk to my friends and family, they'll give me the boost of support and confidence that I'd need.
Give yourself compliments or put sticky notes all over with positive sayings/quotes about yourself.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 3:14pm
Talk to someone or tell them to stop. If it gets serious get someone to help. You are not alone. Anyone around you who you trust can help.
Jam out to some uplifting music and remind yourself that you are super amazing and there's nobody like you!
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 5:13pm
You ignore them ,tell a parent teacher or grown up,talk to your friends,walk it off,or talk to the person who is calling you names and ask them why are you calling me names?
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 5:54pm
I have been called nasty names by my family and random people on a daily basis, and it's certainly difficult trying to get over it. What I do in mot cases is try to understand the predicament they are in currently and learn 'why' they called me that. Other than that, just brush it off. Hope this helps in the slightest!
Know your worth. Know that you mean way more than that your beautiful. And nobody can destroy unless you let them.
Tell someone. What they are doing is wrong and it should be stopped as soon as possible. Tell an adult, or therapist, or anyone of authority. They aren't worth your time.
What I do is I name all the things that make me happy about myself. If you can't find some, then think of all the positive things in your life
Look in the mirror and call yourself amazing names, until you truly don't believe the nasty ones. :)
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 10:35pm
Try to believe in yourself and know that nobody has the right to call you any unpleasant names. Know that you are an amazing person, and that if someone is trying to tell you that you aren't, it's because they are unhappy and that it is not your fault. If you can help them, that's a brilliant thing to do, but if not, then believe that their words carry no weight.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 11:40pm
Look to someone you trust. Ask them if they want to do something together, like eat dinner and watch a movie. Because the people you trust trust you, and you can safely assume that they believe you are a good person
For me the best way is to just plainly ignore everyone calling you names. What also worked for me was smiling to the ones and saying Hi back. Most people calling you names want to see you get hurt. Don't give them that satisfaction :)
Imagine them saying it in a ridiculous voice while doing something totally hypocritical surrounded by people laughing at them with you
Counteract each insult with a positive trait about yourself. Although mean words make you doubt your self worth, create your own self worth instead.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 11:40pm
Think about what they called you. is it justified? If not then the problem is with them and not you.
Simply ignore them. Your better than calling them nasty names back. Don't waste your breath.
I didnt stay around them long or stay friends with them long.Now if it at school report to someone
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 3:01pm
Just tell yourself they are not true, because they are not. Just pass it as them trying to get your attention.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 4:56pm
Just find people who believe that its not true, sooner or later you'll start to believe that they ARE NOT true :)
The best way to get over someone calling you nasty names is self confidence. Take the time to think about what they are calling you, and describe to yourself all the reasons they are wrong. Not only will it leave you feeling good about yourself, you will have also beaten them at their own game.
Ignore, once you hear it, spit that 'right back at you' term. It's a good one. Other than that, listen to music, in my own opinion, my cure to a lot of things I struggle with, is music.
They best way is to look yourself in the mirrow and repeat as many times as possible in a determined way that you are not that nasty name that person said you were.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 8:05am
When you hear those voices, shut them out by listening to the most important one, your voice. The only opinion that matters is yours. You are the most significant person in your life so only your thoughts matter. Remember that the people who do such things are probably doing it to hurt you but if you fight against that negativity, it is really them who have lost something and that is you.
The best is a mixture of confronting them and avoiding them. Confronting them however doesn't mean fighting back, but realizing that it's their own lack and limitations that are causing their behavior, and simply facing them and acknowledging their pain in your head is enough. And if it persists, you can always use less annoying people in your life!
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