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What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?

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What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?
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MrEthical5241
January 27th, 2016 1:27pm
Ignore them. If that doesn't work, try reporting it to someone you trust. If it's in a school, Talk to a teacher or any staff. If it's at home, talk to your parents. If you don't know anyone you can trust, try to express how you feel.
calmSky44
February 3rd, 2016 3:08am
Ask them politely to stop, and if they do not, immediately disconnect the call, or report the person.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 11:01am
If someone calls you a nasty name, s/he may want to assert that you are "below" him or her, which in itself is a sign of insecurity. Realizing that the issue at hand is actually with the nasty namer might help.
Daniela95
February 3rd, 2016 1:45pm
The best way is to just ignore them. This way they'll se that this doesn't bother you and they wont' have any reason to continue doing it.
SweetTalker
February 5th, 2016 5:19am
Ask for respect in the best way possible, ignore the person also works , but it is always better to talk about what ails you and him, and know why he calls you that way .
GraceFaithAndSummer
September 6th, 2016 8:22pm
This is pretty hard and lists of people go through this at one time or another. So, step number one, your not alone. Step number two, keep your head held high. No matter how much it bothers you. Step three, kill em with kindness as Selena Gomez says. Step four, don't be afraid to tell someone if it gets really bad! Good luck! -Summer
chatterbug
September 8th, 2016 8:37am
Tell someone! Whether its a family member, friend or a trusted teacher tell them. Teachers are always there to help :) I highly recommend not ignoring it, because usually you get to a certain point where you can't take it anymore (been there), so please, talk to someone.
BeautifulOutlaw
September 15th, 2016 9:48am
That's a very hard situation to deal with. Stop all communications with that person. You will feel better in the end.
Anonymous
September 15th, 2016 10:28pm
Please understand that I don't take what you called me personally. I am here to listen, we should treat each other respectfully.
amayacloud10
September 25th, 2016 6:44pm
There are many ways to get over someone calling you those names, you can directly talk to someone about it and get the problem solved which is ultimately one of the best things that you can do in a situation like that!
radiantStrawberry14
October 1st, 2016 7:00am
Don't let negative people be important in your life. If they aren't important enough, whatever they say doesn't matter to you.
Soitgoes43
October 8th, 2016 10:50am
Giving yourself positive affirmations can sometimes help cancel out the horrible words of others. You are the only one who has to like you!
Anonymous
October 10th, 2016 1:46pm
The best way to get over someone calling you nasty names is to ignore them and think that they're doing it because they're jealous of you.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2016 4:02pm
Ask them kindly to stop, if they don't stop, report them to our 7cups support and leave the chat immediately.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2016 3:05am
I would simply ignore they. People like that only say those things to make you mad. If you ignore them they'll get bored and leave you alone.
amazingCloud74
November 18th, 2016 6:19am
I think the best way to get over someone saying horrible things to you is that what they say doesn't matter! You know that you are a good person, and so do your family and friends and that is all the really matters! Don't let the haters get to you! Your amazing in every way!
Here2Hear247
December 10th, 2016 8:12am
The person who called you a nasty name has broken a rule that you can still choose to follow. They judged a person before walking a mile in their shoes. For the sake of your own peace of mind, you can consider that the aggressor might have struggles in their own life which negatively affects their outlook. Being sympathetic to others who may be having a tough go of it is a good exercise in humanity. Sure, it might be beneficial to ask yourself if you had any hand in a negative interaction, but keep your self esteem up and try to understand your fellow man.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2017 2:36pm
In most situations, the best way to get over it is to ignore it. When you ignore it, the people who are calling you these things will notice that you no longer pay attention to them. They'll then know that their opinions don't matter to you, and eventually should stop.
Sunshine201
February 23rd, 2017 3:30pm
Either u become so tough to not even put glance at that person and ignore him completely or you start calling him with funny name ljterally. Take the way that is most appealing and comfortable for you, your goal is your peace of mind, beating this negativity, follow the way which provides you that peace.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2017 1:33am
Ask the person to stop in a polite way and tell her/him that it hurts your feelings. If that person keeps calling you nasty names, stop the connection. No one deserves to feel inferior.
supportiveLove68
March 11th, 2017 7:46am
Remember to love yourself, and that you are perfect and beautiful. No one can make you feel small unless you believe you are. Most likely, they say it because you intimidate them, so they have to make themselves feel good
Anonymous
March 17th, 2017 3:51am
Try your best to avoid them. If you're being bullied in school, report it immediately. If you're being bullied at work, report it as soon as you have a break. The most effective way, is to do your best in avoiding them. If they call you nasty names, and accidentally say something, just follow up with "sure." And just walk away.
Mushu74
March 29th, 2017 4:42pm
Rise above it. Fake it until you make it - don't show them that you are hurt. They are just looking at your flaws and anything they can find they will pick on, take it with a pinch of salt. They are probably feeling either jealous or just crap about themselves.
Meema
April 14th, 2017 12:35pm
I have had to deal with this a lot when I was in high school mostly (and even in my adulthood). One thing that helped me was understanding and knowing myself. If you have a clear understanding of yourself, other people comments and thoughts about you become secondary. Now as an adult I learned to ignor them. Someone also gave me some advice which I will share "people will talk about you, blame you for things, etc. no matter if it's true or not, so you minds well continue to focus on you and try to ignor them. What I took from that person is that people will always have their OWN reasons for not liking you, calling you names, and being mean, but that's them defining themselves. Why others call you names and how negative they feel about you is their problem not yours!
EIise
April 22nd, 2017 4:46pm
You could appropriate those nasty names and make fun about it you know, if those nasty names are supposed to hurt you but instead you're making fun of those names... It won't be humiliating anymore. Otherwise, just ignore them.
TogetherForeverAlways
November 15th, 2017 6:29pm
I don't know if it is the best way, but not letting yourself be down because of it is a good one, showing that you behave superiorly by resisting the temptation of calling back nasty names. This discourages future similar unconfortable situations.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 12:07am
If someone is calling you nasty names and it's affecting you badly, talk to someone like a parent or (If you go to school) a counselor. They will help you feel better and get the person calling you rude things to stop.
blackPeace56
November 18th, 2017 2:19pm
Ignore the name callers and talk to someone who will listen and care how this affects you and can give suggestions to you for resources to assist you.
Pixelynx
November 18th, 2017 4:46pm
To know that you do not deserve that. To know that the person calling you nasty names is a nasty person themselves. They might have a reason for acting like this. But you don't have anything to do with that. You're better than that, know that!
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2017 9:38am
Nasty names hurt and we tend to remember the negative far more than the positive. However there are more positive things about you than negative, and the nasty things people say are more a reflection of them rather than you.