What's the difference between bullying and teasing?

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AJmacklam
October 6th, 2016 10:07pm
Teasing can hurt some-one, push them to their limits, but bullying can throw them past their limits. Personally i think teasing is a form of bullying. The only difference between the two is the severity.
present216
October 30th, 2016 8:57am
I think there is a thin line in my opinion as people's perceptions are different and hence what one person may feel is bullying another may feel is simply teasing. Having taken that into account, bullying could be seen as someone using their influence or strength to sometimes intimidate someone into getting what they want. Whether that be emotional "gratification" or to gain something materially, i.e food or money. Teasing may simply a joke at the other persons expense in a more playful or lighthearted way. Although it is important to recognise that body language,facial expression the tone in which it is said is important and there is a thin line where teasing may be interpreted as bullying.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2016 9:40am
Bullying is something that leaves a scar and it will stay with you for the rest of your life. You can't do anything about it your bully won't listen to you most of the times. If you need help fighting a bully rely on your friends and family always. If that's not working you can seek out professional help. Teasing is more playful and usually if you tell your teaser to stop because it hurts you they won't laugh at you but they will stop and understand your feelings.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2016 11:07am
Teasing is an affectionate action, used to poke fun at something in a way that doesn't hurt the person being teased. Teasing becomes bullying when the person feels victimised or hurt by the comment.
anomalicious
April 29th, 2017 1:33am
Bullying is a hurtful, potentially threatening behavior wherein only one party has control (that being the bully) of where the situation goes. Teasing should be lighthearted fun where both parties feel safe and unthreatened. Bullying is never positive and while teasing can sometimes feel unbalanced or like an ambush, it's not an attack, the way that bullying is.
sweetsagittarius01
June 28th, 2017 12:06am
teasing usually is when someone isnt TRYING to make you feel bad, its just a joke. bullying is TRYING to hurt you.
ChloeKindness81
July 6th, 2017 9:38pm
Generally, teasing is all for fun. Usualy done by close friends who know that it wont be really hurting your feelings. Bullying is when someone wants someone else to feel down and/or bad about themselves.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 6:57am
Teasing is saying something playfully, that is something which is not harsh. Whereas, bullying is sayings things which are directly meant to hurt someone, degrade them or make them feel inferior.
Diogenesthedog
May 31st, 2015 11:30pm
Teasing is related to humor, which usually contains on its caracteristics : incongruity, an unexpected future or a pleasant surprise. Bullying is related to repetitive and humorless quotes or attacks to a person. A lot of the times, the bully is trying to impress others with his alleged humor, but doesn't have the required ability to.
df060601
June 6th, 2015 2:41pm
Bullying is like when someone is hurting you physically ~ and teasing is when someone is just hurting you but mostly from the inside :)
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 7:12pm
Teasing is harmless, playful comments which don't have much effect. Whilst bullying is where it all gets out of hand and can lead to worse things like physical abuse.
Quicksilverrr
July 21st, 2015 4:43pm
Bullying and teasing are very different, and differ because of the intention. Teasing is meant for humor, and usually doesn't have harmful intentions. Bullying, on the other hand, is hostile and is meant to hurt the other person. Usually, when bullying occurs, there happens to be an imbalance of power. The person being teased is perceived as "weaker". Teasing may be funny, but it really isn't when it becomes bullying.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 1:54am
by teasing someone both parties know that it's just a joke, in the middle of the joke or at the end of it. and none feel bad about the tease
RoboStealth
November 23rd, 2015 2:28pm
Bullying is when it is no longer 'just a joke' generally resorting to violence or ganging up on an individual. Bullying can come in a range of different forms and is all has the purpose of making the individual feel useless, teasing on the other hand can be done in a joking manner and won't last long in a general sense.
Emily619
December 7th, 2015 8:26pm
Despite common belief, there is a difference between bullying and teasing. Teasing is simply making fun of another, and bullying is a power imbalence WITH a much more severe form of teasing.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2015 3:50pm
Teasing is something that is much less serious then bullying. Teasing is something that many people do to each other, just to kid around. Bulling, however, is much more serious and usually targets one, or several people.
dalya123
December 28th, 2015 5:27pm
Bullying means hurting people when they have done absolutely nothing physically or verbally. Teasing means making people jealous of you about everything
cristiana33
December 31st, 2015 2:23pm
Teasing has a purpose of making you laugh and have fun together with someone. Bullying is a repeated action towards someone that is obviously hurt by what is being done/said to him.
Anonymous
January 26th, 2016 7:07pm
Teasing is something you can simply laugh off. Bullying is something that will makes you anxious to go out, to simply live your life.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2016 6:11pm
Well, 8 think first you need to understand what is positive teasing. Positive teasing: When the teasing is happening between two people with a strong relationship When it is said in a "joking" tone rather than "aggressive" tone And when the person being teased doesn't look distressed. Although teasing can become bullying when the person being teased is hurt. When the teasing is repetitive When the person teasing the child means to hurt them. And when there is unequal power imbalance. As in the person teasing is more popular than the person being teased.
Baileybug
August 29th, 2016 9:18pm
Bullying- 1.use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants Teasing-.make fun of or attempt to provoke (a person or animal) in a playful way
Fraz
September 14th, 2016 9:11am
Bullying is associated with an act filled with malignant intent aiming to physically or emotionally wound an individual. Teasing is more positive wherein post the act, the person comforts whoever he/she was teasing offering compassion.
Alexisheretohelpyou2
September 14th, 2016 8:29pm
If someone is teasing someone, it shouldn't be anything serious. Like when a friend messes up and their friend says "way to go, you mess up everything!" And then they both laugh. That's playful, fun, teasing. If someone is bullyed, the person being bullied won't laugh, and the stuff they're told is mean, and unnecessary. It hurts the person, and only the bully laughs. The thing is, even with teasing, it can hurt the people you tease. This is why I suggest that you don't tease or bully anyone... It's to hurtful.
kaoticserenity1016
September 18th, 2016 4:34am
Teasing is generally semi-kind and accepted on both sides of the conversation. Bullying is harmful to a person, whether it be physical, mental, and/or emotional. Bullying is not welcome or wanted on both sides of the conversation.
Anonymous
September 24th, 2016 6:00pm
you tease someone you are friends with but bullying is acting in a way that will make others feel uncomfortable.
Anonymous
October 2nd, 2016 5:12am
Teasing would still be considered bullying if it's harmful, unless the person being teased is truly laughing along as well.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2016 4:52am
When someone is bullying someone else, it is usually intentional or coming from an angry or mean place.
OxtailNightmare
November 2nd, 2016 12:17pm
Bullying is a constant abuse, physically and mentally with malicious intent. Teasing is playful, poking fun of someone/at a situation with humorous intent while also not intending a negative or harmful impact to the person being teased.
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2016 2:26pm
Teasing is almost consensual; there's some level of fun in it for both people involved and its a two way street. Bullying goes beyond that, sometimes one person intends to inflict some form pain on the other but often they just haven't reflected on the effect their words are having.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2016 7:31pm
Teasing is lighthearted and normally meant in a good manner. Bullying is a term for making someone feel bad about themselves, and can include physical, mental, and emotional harm.