What's the difference between bullying and teasing?

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FlowerxChild
June 14th, 2016 3:23am
Bullying is saying mean things with harmful intent. Teasing is just poking fun at something or someone.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2016 9:46am
teasing is a mutual thing, both people understand the joke and are happy to be participating. Someone who is being bullied is not happy, they do not want what is happening and the situation makes them feel uncomfortable.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2016 8:31pm
Teasing is more innocent. Like something you'd laugh of yourself. Some jokes here and there. Bullying however, hurts you. Bullying is intentional and more serious. If you say 'I'm hurt' and they say 'oh no! I'm sorry' I think tehy were teasing.
avocadoallyson
February 4th, 2017 9:49pm
Bullying is repeated and done with malicious intent, but teasing is not done with malicious intent and often has a friendly intent.
lovelySophie99
February 15th, 2017 12:18pm
if it is done continuously and it is done repeatedly as a way being hurtful or threatening then it is bullying.
Smyl
February 15th, 2017 2:05pm
Teasing is making fun of a person in a non-harmful/ playful way whereas Bullying provokes a person with an intention to hurt or bring a person down.
SlightBreeze
March 15th, 2017 1:15am
A person that bullies ignores boundaries and pushes for whatever they want out of you. A person who teases understands where the boundaries lie, and with the permission of the other person, tests the boundaries to allow both parties to know where their boundaries lie.
realmpr
March 15th, 2017 7:22pm
Basically the intention of the acts. Teasing will never be intended to make a person feel bad about themselves, but bullying will, it is important to know that teasing always ends with a laugh and knowledge that you were not serious about it, while bullying ends with a feeling of loneliness and no regret for whatever the acts were.
lovelyWillow47
March 15th, 2017 11:38pm
There is pretty much no difference they both still hurt feelings. Coming from one who has been bullied many times. You never know what sentence (straw) will break the camels back
Anonymous
March 22nd, 2017 5:02am
Bullying is something which person intends to physically or emotionally hurt you while a person who is teasing doesn't intend to harm you in any way, a form of cheeky social response.
AnonymousSplat
March 23rd, 2017 2:58pm
Both are not okay. Teasing can be a part of bullying but it is more innocent than actual bullying. It depends on how the teasing is done. Bullying is done purposely to hurt someone's feelings and a lot of the time, bullies 'bully' because they have their own problems ie they have been bullied before, they're lonely etc. Teasing can be taken two ways. Say for example your friend has a new phone and they're teasing you with it. Sure, it's not so nice but it's not done to purposely hurt you, it's playful, and it is most likely a one off. Now let's say you have a visible wart. You are self-conscious and teased about it constantly. That's bullying.
sweetdancer14
April 14th, 2017 8:20pm
Teasing is a social exchange that is sometimes positive or negative it isn't meant to hurt anyone while bullying is to harm someone either physically or emotionally and the goal is to embarsse the victim or make the bulley look better
HeyImGwen
April 14th, 2017 8:38pm
Bullying is meant to tear one down or to personally attack them; it is also constant and repetitive. Teasing is more meant to poke fun at a friend, or to show annoyance; it is not often repetitive or meant to personally attack a person.
JackieNW
April 20th, 2017 8:28am
teasing can be portrayed as affectionate and can help to strengthen the relationship between two or more people. Bullying occurs when the mood changes from affection to hostile, with the intention to hurt someone emotionally or physically.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2017 12:54pm
Bullying could be identified as an act of personally attack someone with the intent of emotionally or physically hurting someone, while teasing can be identified as more of friendly banter with no ill intention. Although too much teasing could lead to bullying.
CupOfChai123
May 10th, 2017 11:44pm
Bullying is done maliciously, whereas teasing is done with both parties' consent. Bullying is also a lot harsher than teasing. Teasing often comes from friends, although it could be done with no malicious intent by a third party. Bullying is usually from someone you aren't close with. If you feel uncomfortable about teasing, tell whoever is teasing you. If they don't stop, it is probably bullying.
Daretoberare91
May 12th, 2017 4:48pm
The difference between bullying and teasing is that bullying is saying something to put someone down (i.e. "Oh Joe, you are nothing and shouldn't have friends" or "Hey Sam, how is your mom doing? Oh, that's right she's dead.") where teasing is making jokes among friends, (i.e. "Now Bob, don't get angry, remember what happened with the tree?"), To make it simple bullying is bringing someone down and teasing is joking about someone's past or current actions.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2017 9:37am
teasing is initial state of bullying. if teasing occur continuously/regularly by same group with rude face it becomes bullying. teasing is done by anonymous people with just physical appearance.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2017 6:07am
Bullying is repeated, unwanted and there is an imbalance of power. Where as teasing is predominantly unwanted.
TranquilFera33
June 16th, 2017 7:35am
Bullying is a series of actions that may hurt other individuals whether it's on physical level or psychological level. It is done with the intention to hurt someone or to gain superiority over an individual or a group of people. Teasing on the other hand, is an act on which a person makes jokes on someone with the intentions not to hurt but to simply create laughter. Although, teasing may be considered bullying when used inappropriately.
Starcatcher3742
June 27th, 2017 4:47am
Bullying is repeated derogatory actions or comments meant to put down or hurt another person emotionally or physically while teasing occurs once or twice in a joking manner, not intended to insult.
AstroZombie236
July 1st, 2017 12:56pm
Bullying is when you are being repeatedly abused and being made fun in a non-funny manner and is done genuinely trying to hurt you. Teasing is when you're being made fun of in a cheeky manner, and isn't repeatedly to hurt you.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2017 11:43am
Bullying is differentiated from teasing because of intention. Those who bully actually intend to do harm, whereas teasing is supposed to be a ‘no harm’ game.
empathicSunset87
July 12th, 2017 9:10pm
Honestly it depends on the individual being bullied or teased. There's a thin line between the two. I used to think they were different but little teasing can make a person change how they see themselves because of what others say. I've witnessed it among friends. Friends tease each other but what you say can have an impact on your friends more than you know.
Anonymous
July 27th, 2017 1:29am
It is very common to confuse teasing for bullying, and that's a bit problematic when it comes to taking bullying seriously. Bullying is repeated teasing, over time, teasing is usually single episodes
Anonymous
August 6th, 2017 2:44pm
Bullying is when you harass someone and pick on him. Teasing can be between friends too, and may not be serious.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2017 9:36pm
Ok bullying is when a person hurt another person physically, socially,and mentally that they culd self harm themselves , teasing Is when someone use hurtful words towards another person or , call them nicknames
Anonymous
August 9th, 2017 1:46pm
Bullying carrys on for a long time, whereas teasing is only suppose to happen once. Teasing can also be associated as bullying if it's constant.
ImaginationIsKey
August 10th, 2017 3:07pm
It's a very fine line. Bullying is deliberately putting someone down, usually continuously. Teasing is just having fun and usually funny but needs to be kept to a minimum. The less you do it the less likely chance you have of hurting someone's feelings.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2017 6:34pm
Teasing is done by people who are close to you and know you like friends and family and involves light hearted jokes with no intention to hurt anyone. Bullying is done by individuals who wish to spread fear and involves making rude and insensitive comments intended to hurt someone.