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What's the difference between bullying and teasing?

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MaddestHatter
December 13th, 2018 8:58pm
In my opinions there is an incredibly thin thing between what a recipient conceives as playful teasing and bullying. It takes only a second to overstep that line and begin causing emotional/mental harm to that person. Teasing may start out with a "Practically harmless" mindset, but the recipient is the one who gets to decide whether they are feeling bullied or not. Maybe they're being teased over a crush, maybe someone is teasing them because their parent bought the "wrong sneakers". What one person considers teasing could be far worse for a person on the receiving end. This kind of behaviour roots in a lot of mental issues, such as anxiety, depression, withdrawal. Avoid teasing unless you 100% know the person.
pq
March 27th, 2019 10:09pm
This is actually a pretty simple answer. It's interesting, when I was in elementary we went through this whole thing on teasing and taunting. Teasing is playful, taunting is hurtful. Truly, it's as simple as, are you with your friends or not? If you are, oftentimes it is teasing. The problems arise, though, when the teasing doesn't cease, and you end up bullying someone without realizing that's what you're doing. It's a bit of a segue, but most kidnapping doesn't happen by strangers; the same goes with bullying. Typically, they previously know you. The easiest way to distinguish it is to ask, "is it something the person that it is being directed towards could honestly laughed at if it was directed towards someone else, or is it hurtful?"
DragonView2
May 6th, 2019 12:10am
Bullying is systematic: they target the same person, or same group, or same kind of people, over and over again, over a period of time. For example, it is not the same if I call you poopy pants one day because you pooped your pants (teasing), than if I brand you poopy pants for the rest of the school year or the rest of your school life because of that event (bullying). Bullying also includes spreading and maintaining bad rumours about a person or leaving the person out of the social life of the environment on purpose and trying to prevent others from accepting the person, just for sake of power, not because the victim was bad or a threat. The bully will often justify the behavior. Bullies tend to be cowards, since the bully has more power than the victim or makes it seem that way, or tries to make it that way. Teasers may feel empathy for their victims if the victim shows itself as hurt and may stop, but bullies do not.
WarmHeart22
June 7th, 2019 1:37pm
Teasing can be playful and may not be repetitive. On the other hand, bullying is repetitive and intends to cause harm. There has to also be the consideration of that bullying is NOT always teasing. Vice versa, teasing may or may not be bullying, as it depends on the ondoer's intentions. I think teasing comes a lot in the boy's locker rooms, and the early stages of schooling such as secondary and elementary school. But, then again, both can appear anywhere. Bullying also indicates other non-teasing behaviors such as exclusion, shoving, exposure of inappropriate pictures of the person, and beating someone up. I know because I am a victim of child abuse and I was bullied and teased by my aunt after my dad's death.
kindTurtle1217
June 9th, 2019 1:33am
Bullying can be an ongoing and repetitive action, and it can be verbal, physical or emotional. Bullying is targeted, and the person who is bullying might be doing it because they have problems at home, or they aren’t in the best mindset, and they feel the need to let it out on someone weaker than them. Whereas someone who is teasing might be doing it for fun, or might think it is funny or “a joke”. Teasing can be a part of bullying, but they are two completely different things. Teasing between friends is like making jokes, or playing around.
HotChocolate2
June 21st, 2019 5:17pm
Teasing should never be hurtful. Friends who are close with each other can tease one another, as long as they stay within boundaries and don’t play on people’s insecurities. It’s best to reserve teasing for people you’re really close with, in my opinion. This may sound a bit extreme, but people you don’t know all that well will feel uncomfortable telling you when your words are hurtful instead of funny. That means you might become a bully without knowing it. When it comes to bullying, you never know how much your ‘joke’ will actually affect the other person. So always be mindful of what you’re saying, and don’t hesitate to let other people know when they go too far!
TakeMyHand13
June 21st, 2019 7:48pm
It's really more of a perspective kind of thing, I guess. Everyone thinks and feels differently about these things. For me personally, I consider teasing to be amongst friends or loved ones. A playfulness that has no true intention of being harmful or hurtful. However, bullying, in my view, includes purposefully being spiteful towards another person, with the intention of wanting to hurt, humiliate or belittle. If someone says something or does something to you that hurts your feelings, then maybe communicating that to the other person would help clear the air and get reassurance from them. If said person denies or rejects your hurt feelings then that, to me, is bullying. There's no respect there or compassion.
Anonymous
July 27th, 2019 11:14am
This can be a fine line in some cases, but intent and respect to stop when asked are two big signs for whether its bullying or not. To me teasing is something that both parties can laugh at, and isn't touching on any deep issues or insecurities. It's something that happens between friends casually, and if the friend accidentally is too harsh, they will stop and apologize immediately. Bullying is a joke that only the bullies laugh at, and is repeatingly targeting insecurities or differences about the other person. A bully won't stop when they realize they are hurting someones feelings.
riv3rrr
August 4th, 2019 3:58am
Teasing is usually light hearted and typically has no malicious intent behind it, where as bullying is intentional, repetitive, and malicious. However, repetitive teasing can easily turn into bullying. It really depends on the situation. An example of teasing might be a friend saying “Your hair kind of reminds me of a pineapple today” with a little laugh. It’s meant to be a one time joke. An example of bullying would be someone (a “friend” or not) coming up to you in the hallway every single day and saying “You should burn that ugly outfit” or “I would hate myself if I had your hair” because that is repetitive and obviously said intentionally.
optimisticCaramel72
August 7th, 2019 11:59pm
Bullying is considered to be Several Times On Purpose. (STOP) it is a deliberate act. Teasing is to make fun of someone in either playful or malicious ways. sometimes it is done or considered a friend to friend activity of jokes are the main aspect to the teasing. Bullying maybe verbal as well as physical. It is used to intimidate other people often everyday through physical or verbal communication. Bullies will not stop when asked to however, teasing when asked the person should stop. Bullies tend to continue. Bullying is meant to hurt either physically or mentally. SEVERAL TIMES ON PURPOSE
MissLisa
August 22nd, 2019 2:27pm
Bullying is intentional words, actions or behaviour which is intended to cause harm. Teasing is when everyone feels comfortable and understand it to be a joke and understands that no harm is caused or intended. However there is a very fine line and this differs from one person to another. What one person sees as a joke might harm another and that would constitute as bullying. If in doubt dont say or do it. Also be mindful that if you are experiencing what you define as bullying, speak out as nothing gets resolved by wishing it away, there are always people out there that want to listen or help.
yancore
October 2nd, 2019 6:06pm
it's actually quite easy to tell. teasing is when people usually say a comment about anything once or twice; it doesn't progress after that. when on the other hand, bullying is a behavior that persists almost everyday. of course, both may make you feel bad, but bullying is usually caused by someone who has struggles themselves. if you are being bullied, it's strongly recommended by all parties to seek a trusted adult to combat the situation. another possible way is to befriend the bully; they could be just as scared as you are. i hoped this paragraph was able to help you out! -Yan
Anonymous
October 4th, 2019 1:06am
Teasing is typically something without any malicious intent. They are often forms of jokes that a friend or family member will play on you. Bullying however, always holds malicious intent. It not only serves to harm the person, emotionally or physically, but damages them in some way. Examples of teasing include: "Aw you're yellow hat makes you look like a cute little duck!" Examples of bullying can include: "Your yellow hat makes you look stupid." Intent is key to deciding whether it is malicious or not, teasing or bullying. In my opinion, bullying is never okay, while teasing can be harmless.
asukal
October 27th, 2019 9:24pm
The difference between bullying and teasing is bully is when it's personally attacking and pushing boundaries that shouldn't be. When it comes to a time that it's consistent and personal and making you uncomfortable, that's when it's not teasing anymore. Playful teasing is completely fine, as long as you both have an understanding or a boundary and aware of what is too 'far' for you, which by then you should let that person know that it made you uncomfortable if they continue to persistently make you uncomfortable then it's no longer teasing as teasing requires a level of trust and place of feeling comfortable.
Sagettarius
November 6th, 2019 5:24pm
To my mind, teasing is something that is done affectionately, and with the (tacit) consent of the person being teased. It's a recognition of their quirks or possibly shortcomings, but it's done in good spirit. There is no real evil intent in teasing. While it may make the person being teased a figure of fun for a short while teasing is ultimately benign. Bullying is like the dark side of teasing. It's done with malicious intent, highlighting a person's failings, shortcomings or weaknesses. The intent with bullying is to hurt and demean the victim, in their own eyes and in the eyes of others. Bullying is often designed to make the bully feel better about themselves, to mask their own feelings of inadequacy.
siameselover05
November 23rd, 2019 10:27am
Bullying is when someone or a group of people pick, harm, make fun of or tease someone on purpose for "fun". Teasing isn't much different but you don't harm people on purpose. Teasing is more of a major form of joking with someone but not doing it with the intention of hurting someone. Bullying can last forever or a long time and cause depression and anxiety is most people while teasing is only playful banter. If bullying isn't resolved it could also lead to social anxiety and loneliness if not handled and most tend to stay quite due to "consequences" from the bully. If you are being bullied, please seek help immediately.
sereneFlower7644
December 1st, 2019 10:59am
Teasing is it is once but Bullying is a continuing and intentional misuse of power in relationships through the reoccurrence of verbal, physical and social behavior that purposely causes physical/social and psychological damage. It could be an individual or a group of people using this perceived “power” Over one or more humankind who feel the inability to stop this act from happening. But there are many types of bullying including cyberbullying which is simply online bullying when people are using a social media platform to harass you or make you feel weak, upset and vulnerable. Plus I understand where your coming from I’ve been bullied for 5 years so it can be confusing sometimes
realPeigi
December 4th, 2019 7:27pm
The intention. Teasing comes from playfulness and fondness. Bullying comes from deep insecurities, with the intention to harm others.
jimmybuk33
December 27th, 2019 11:16pm
Bullying a specific and often repeated harassment, this can be a protected characteristic or unwanted negative actions which makes person feel stressed, alone and victimized. Teasing is a often mutual light hearted fun comments which don't cause offence and accepted by the receiver and peers. If a person is concerned or upset by comments or actions that teasing is then a bullying situation. When a person is bulled it is often when singled out amongst his or her friends, family or work colleagues. The challenge is people who are teasing in their belief are actually bullying in their behavior and unaware until it is made clear.
MistyMagic
February 27th, 2020 2:51pm
To me it is a simple answer :- Bullying comes from hatred and negative emotions. It hurts and can be physical as well as emotional or financial and the effects can scar and last for years sometimes causing PTSD or the need for counselling or therapy. Teasing is usually done by a loved one or friend, it usually comes from love and positive fun filled emotions. It can still hurt but the effects are usually short lasting and forgiven quickly. But, please think twice about either, as teasing can easily turn into something more and although sometimes it may feel flattering that someone is showing you attention, it can still hurt!
compassionate95
March 21st, 2020 4:47pm
when you tease someone you do not intentionally have the motive to shame them or make them feel shallow. all you have in mind is to have a laugh in a healthy way. sometimes even to make someone smile you tease them but on the other hand bullying is to steep to a whole new level where u aim to just shame and embarrass a person. that person can take it to their heart and it can make them do really crazy things. also damage their self esteem and confidence for the rest of their lives. and no body deserves that.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2020 6:49am
Bullying can be the result of menace, when someone delibrately physically or mentally hurts someone and ridicules them, and doesn't stop when the victim gives verbal or non verbal clues that they are being hurt by their action. In bullying, the victim feels threatened and the exchange is not on a level ground, one person or group of people are in most cases repetitively taunted or assaulted. Teasing on the other hand is a playful and equal exchange between two people, and there is an established boundary. Remarks made are innocuous and don't refer to a person's sore spots, instead maybe an innocuous remark for example referkng to a stupid childhood crush or a silly anecdote.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2020 12:41pm
Teasing is fun, playful, and can strengthen a bond. You tease people you love and care about, people you have a crush on maybe, or a sibling. It's fun and is not meant to hurt a person. Bullying is a lot different. Bullying is meant to hurt. Taunting, name calling, harassment, sexual harassment, etc. With teasing the person will usually stop if you ask or if you seem like you're upset. It's not repeated and it should be fairly obvious. Bullying is repeated, it's meant to cause distress, and there is a power imbalance. If you think you're being bullied, reach out to someone you trust. If you think you're being the bully, stop doing what you're doing and apologize to the person you're causing distress. If you feel as if a close friend or family member is teasing too harshly, talk to them about it.
MonicaQu
April 11th, 2020 9:19pm
Bullying is something which people use who are insecure and feel good when others are put down. For example, bullying can cause problems such as depression and even suicide so it is something to take seriously. I guess teasing is something that isn't so big as bullying as it is something that you make fun of about someone's personality. It can be taken as a joke or seriously or even an offense depending on the person. Although both involve being care what leaves your mouth because both can hurt feelings. Teasing can also mean a sign of affection like when someone likes you things like that. I guess both are different because of the person behind who does it.
Mya000
April 12th, 2020 11:29am
The difference is that teasing is friendly and positive and bullying is harmful and negative. However, this question can be complicated to answer, because the limit can be difficult to perceive. We can notice that it is teasing when : -It takes place between two people with a solid bond and for whom teasing is an affectionate game. -The person who teases does it with a smile and a happy atmosphere (and not aggressively). -The person who is teased does not seem to suffer from it. We can notice that teasing becomes bullying when : -Teasing and affectionate remarks slip into hostile remarks. -The balance of power is unequal : the one who teases has more power than the person who is teased. -The teasing is repetitive. -The person who teases seeks to injure or offend the other. -The person who is teased is hurt or afflicted by these comments.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2020 1:42pm
Bullying is differentiated from teasing because of intention. Those who bully actually intend to do harm, whereas teasing is supposed to be a ‘no harm’ game. There is a problem with this logic though is that if a child is being ‘teased’ and they don’t like it, the motivation of the teaser is irrelevant. The teasing has become bullying. They are victims of another person’s unkind behaviour toward them, however innocent. A child who is teased day after day, week after week, will eventually begin to become dispirited – or worse. Teasing can be as harmful as bullying, and while theoretically different, the two are easily perceived by a child to be exactly the same thing.
charmingUnicorns51
April 26th, 2020 9:56am
The difference between bullying and teasing is that when someone teases you, it is often in a friendship or some sort of relationship where they truly mean no harm, will stop when it is asked for them to stop, and normally it's supposed to be funny, bullying is a repetitive action where they physically harm you or intimidate you or insult you in a way that attacks who you are as a person and they don't stop when you ask them to. Bullying truly takes things to the extreme and it very hateful and is intended to do harm to the victim.
adorableFreedom487
May 9th, 2020 4:37am
I think teasing is good-natured "ribbing". It is done with humor and not meant to hurt feelings. Bullying, on the other hand, I think is often cruel and uncaring. Teasing is usually brief whereas bullying doesn't stop when the "victim" asks it to be stopped. A teaser will often apologize and then move on from the teasing. A bully will often not stopped until stopped by the target or someone else. Good-natured teasing can be funny - especially if it's from an inside joke between the teaser and the "teas-ee". Bullying is something that should be avoided and if a person is being bullied, then should either report it, if possible.
CheerfulCheese
May 31st, 2020 2:47am
Bullying is ongoing, while teasing is just making a friendly joke one or two times. When a person is being mean to another person they might tell them to stop. If they don't stop after the targeted person already told them to more than once, that is bullying. Teasing, however is just like joking around. Person A might make a joke about Person B's clothing, for example. Then Person B might stop the next day. This is teasing. So in conclusion, bullying is when the targeted person is being harmed even after they told the mean person to stop. Hope this helps! :)
AnthonyNW29
June 21st, 2020 1:33pm
There is a very fine line between the two - sometimes teasing is harmless and playful. Other times it can be used to hurt others. And even playful teasing can hit raw nerves or be misinterpreted, especially if struggle with social skills. Essentially teasing is a type of communication, good-natured teasing is a way for people to communicate with each other. It’s a social exchange. Bullying on the other hand is intentionally geared to hurt the person it is aimed at, it can either be as a deflection of insecurities from the attacker to the intended or it can develop as a result of good-natured teasing going 'one step too far'.