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When someone gets bullied, why do parents, teachers, and others not help make it stop when they ask for help?

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Last Updated: 07/02/2018 at 8:55pm
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January 14th, 2015 7:06am
If severe and not parents or teachers help is best to talk to some psychologist or even the police.
January 16th, 2015 12:05am
They might be trying to encourage the victim to learn how to defend themselves or handle situations like such due to the fact that you could encounter them again at any given point in life. Or maybe they just don't know how to help because of knowing from experience that bullies tend to be stubborn and not stop..
April 1st, 2015 4:41pm
Nowadays lots of people think bullying is just joking. You have to make clear that those people are actually hurting your feelings and making you feel bad, and they are not your friends teasing you.
April 22nd, 2015 12:59pm
Because they think it's normal getting bullied, like mainstream. They dont exactly feel how getting bullied feels like, they dont know the pain that's why they dont care. They listen to you but actually, they dont care. Thats life I guess.
May 27th, 2015 12:30pm
Because some people are ignorant. We live in a world where unfortunately we have to learn to be strong in ourselves, and sometimes when people at school & home won't help, this site will help you find confidence in yourself, or at least provide someone to talk to for a while.
July 20th, 2015 7:41pm
They may not think it's a big deal. Or what they vision bullying is, may not be what is actually happening. Some parents might not know what to do, or how to handle it, so they brush it off. Teachers might be busy and not have the time to take care of it. Others might also won't know what to do. If the bully doesn't get in trouble often, people might think the victim is lying and not believe what the bully is actually doing. And some people might not care, it depends on the person (that is just a possibility, I don't know the situation or the people)
August 31st, 2015 4:34pm
Find someone you trust and they should be able to help you. I'm sorry you haven't had the support you need!
December 21st, 2015 7:37pm
Because they probably have had little to no experience with bullying so they see it as just kids being kids.
January 4th, 2016 3:17am
When somebody is getting bullied it may seem that the others around them do not help yet they make it worse or make no impact. However teachers and parents do try their hardest to stop the problem. It may not seem it but they also want it to stop as much as the person. They just might not understand how to stop it but they try their hardest because they care about how the person feels. It is very hard to make it stop completely because it is the bully themselves that needs to make it stop. But parents and teachers do try their best however they can not make it disappear.
June 6th, 2016 9:21pm
I think that one reason is because they don't really know what to do to get it to stop. Becasue of that it is easier to ignore it, or say that you will go back to the issue
June 14th, 2016 7:52pm
If you're bullied, you need to tell a trusted adult what's going on so they could best address the situation and deal with the bullying.
July 26th, 2016 8:09am
I think parents, teachers, and others do not help make it stop because they may have other distractions or they think that you can handle it or it will make you grow as a person. However, this is not a given.
December 5th, 2017 8:55pm
Over the course of time I have witnessed incidences of bullying among children ages 13 and younger mostly boys. bullying was a type of control at the time of incident a new toy was a weapon for demonstration. A overnight stay at a friend's was just when boys would rough house with each other. At school picking on the same person in front of others to be tough. Why didn't any adult infer a word or two of compromise. I think that adults choose to listen to situations without interfering because they want the child to resolve the problem on their own similar to turning the other cheek. Just think about the feelings someone is having when they are given a slap or two, an unkind word, teasing and no one understands how to end it. The best thing is to have a safe place to go and have friends who are on your side.
July 2nd, 2018 8:55pm
I believe part of it is because adults don't realise the severity of bullying, and it's consequences on teenagers. Sometimes they "forget" how vulnerable people are at this stage, in addition to the fact that each generation is different with its coping mechanisms. Some may even believe it's a normal part of life or that it builds character.