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Why am I a target for bullying?

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Last Updated: 03/26/2018 at 9:26pm
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jillianjuxtaposed14
July 28th, 2015 8:12pm
I was bullied by one specific person relentlessly through high school and it even followed me into college. At the time I thought I did everything right- I told teachers and school staff, I told my parents, I told my friends, I tried to get anyone around me to help me stand up for myself. But I still couldn't escape my bully. I had to be very honest with myself when I looked back on the experience and realize I was doing some things wrong. I kept trying to make my bully like me and have her realize I wasn't as bad as she wanted to make me feel. And I still hung out with people that were attached to her, which kept me too close to the situation. From my experience, I realized that I shouldn't have responded at all and I should have tried to find ways to remove myself from situations involving her all together. It is never your fault that someone is harassing you, but there are ways to make sure you are safe. And don't let anyone make you feel anything less than wonderful!
Anonymous
May 17th, 2016 10:54pm
I'm different from my other classmates. I'm quiet and self-conscious, and I don't have many friends.
colorfulGrace98
June 23rd, 2015 3:23am
cause weak people tends to want to bully people who havent found their stengths yet to put them down first so that they would have a lesser threat in the future.
Anonymous
April 18th, 2015 6:42am
Usually the most brightest, funniest and most talented people are targeted. You know why, because they want to see you fail and fall . They are jealous, and there number one thing they want to do is get an reaction
Anonymous
May 30th, 2015 1:14am
I'm sorry to hear you're being bullied. People can sure be mean. But what those bullies don't reflect on you, it reflects on the bully. I know we can't change the bullies, but we can change how we react to them. So why are you the target? Well there are lots of possibilities. Bullies are mainly jealous of you; maybe you are friendly or athletic or a high achiever. They will do all they can to bring you down, to make you feel less than yourself. They may also be doing it because you may stand out (in a good way) and the bullies want to take that spotlight away from you. No way at all should you change to stop these bullies! Stay the way you are my friend, you're blessed with such great gifts and no one should be able to bring you down for having that specific gift. Stay Strong! :)
ingeniousForest65
July 20th, 2015 2:24am
You might be shy and quiet or the so called geek that everyone wants to pick on. Bullies see kids that are easy targets like shy kids, nerds , they might look weak. Bullies pick on kids to take the embarrassment of them and go to other person. Bullies are cruel and think they are tough but in reality they are struggling with something just like everyone else. Be kind to everyone.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2015 4:48pm
Anyone can become a target for bullying. However, it is important to stay strong in the face of bullying and not accepting the bullying behavior. Be brave and draw the boundary. Sometimes, it's good to just walk away. However, there are times when you need to be assertive so that the bullying will not repeat. Tell the person what specifically they are doing is not acceptable and politely request them to stop the behavior. Remember, neither you nor anyone deserves to be bullied. Do not quietly accept the bullying. If you can't face the bullying yourself, talk to someone and get someone to help. Please do not suffer in silence.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 4:23am
Because I suck at everything I do and everyone hates me and I'm different...Like seriously it sucks but what am I gonna do about it?
LoveEveryone
June 6th, 2016 12:52am
Bullies usually target those whom they are envious of, it stems from their own self hatred you may be a target because you're too kind to fight back or simply because they feel in superior to you this maybe in terms of physical, emotional or intellectual strength.
Fraz
January 16th, 2017 5:52am
In a nutshell, it's because you're "different". You might be more competent than other people, just nice to everyone, perhaps the quiet one in the corner... It doesn't matter. If you stand out, they want to pick on you. Why? It's to compensate for their own weakness and frustration.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2017 8:14pm
I might come across weak to others because I belong to a small group of friends and I am extremely quiet
Anonymous
August 31st, 2015 10:16pm
well i think you make yourself look weak if you make yourself strong than i dont think anybody's gonna bully you
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 5:27pm
I am a target for bullying because of my disabilities, and my mental issues. I struggle far too much in school and with friends, and I get backlash for it.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 11:43pm
Anyone can be a target for bullying, you personally are probably not doing anything wrong.
Donutgirl68
April 10th, 2017 10:04pm
You are not a target at all. It's always the people that think they can pick on the "weak" ones. No one is weak. And maybe the ones that do bully others have some issues. Ask them why they are messing with you.
KendallNichole
February 22nd, 2015 11:38pm
There could be multiple reasons why someone chose to bully you, but either way, getting bullied is not and never will be your fault!
LondonGirl22
April 7th, 2015 6:57pm
Understand that this isn't your fault and you haven't brought it upon yourself. Bullying is a vicious cycle and it could very will be that the person who's bullying you has been bullied themselves in the past (or even at home at the moment). This doesn't excuse them from bullying you though.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2015 10:21am
because when i was younger i was shy didn't know how to talk to people so i didn't have friends and people felt free to abuse me
Elenachan
December 4th, 2017 12:07am
Most bullies target someone who is weaker than them or just seems weaker. People are also targeted because they have a nice quality, such as they are in a band, or they are smart. Bullies would also pick at a flaw that someone has, such as they have glasses or they have ance.
Brittney1503
March 26th, 2018 9:26pm
Bullies target people for all different reasons, it can be hard to know exactly why and sometimes there is no reason, bullies can and do pick random targets! Sometimes bullies are jealous (hard to believe, but true!), might be feeling low and insecure themselves, want to feel incontrol and powerful, so pick a target that looks "easy", often the most vulnerable individuals.