Why can I never be what they want? Is there something wrong with me? Or are my communications with others crossed, and do I need to revise the way I I treat with others?

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uniqueHeart20
March 6th, 2015 1:57am
There is nothing wrong with you! When it comes to communication with people there's always room for improvement but that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you!
JapanCounselor
April 24th, 2015 11:40am
Sometimes just expressing that you feel hurt, unloved, judged, rejected, or inferior to someone who is making you feel that way is enough to make them take note of their behavior and stop. Most people just aren't prepared for that level of honesty and openness. It's hard to talk about, or even acknowledge emotions sometimes. On the other hand, you also have to be receptive to criticism if you feel it may be valid once all the anger and hurt is stripped away.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2015 12:45am
No, people spects things from you but every time there'll be something you cant fit in, that's because you are who you are, you aren't what people wants you to be, and it is okay. You don't have to change anything if you don't want to, just get used to fail people and people to fail you. I hope this helps you :) Keep in mind that no one is perfect, no one could ever fit perfectly in someone else's spectatives..
Anonymous
May 9th, 2015 4:54pm
People always have had expectations from other people,when in fact,we should have expectation only from ourselves. Expecting someone to be live we want to it's equal with judging,which is wrong. There is nothing wrong with you. You might have your differences with people,but that doesen't mean you need to change the way you are. Sure,you can be better for your sake,but whoever deserves you in their life,will accept you as you are.
youarebeautifull
May 22nd, 2015 8:16am
All I have learnt form personal Experience is that you will never be what everyone want because you are to special to fit in there regular boring mould you are amazing in you own way. And what people say about you doesn't say anything about you it's a reflection of them.
Waterbear
August 4th, 2015 1:20am
You don't have an obligation to be what other people want you to be, and more importantly you CAN'T always be what they want, whether you want to or not. You are a unique person and you can't help what other people project onto you. I don't know if you need to change the way you communicate with others, because I don't know what you're already doing.
NyxCain
November 30th, 2015 11:20pm
It depends. If you feel as though you treat others harshly, then maybe it's time to reevaluate and reach out to those you might feel like you hurt. It might not necessarily be something which is your fault. Others treat people the way they feel like they should be treated, so their high expectations and cruel treatment of you might just be them, not you.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 7:50am
No, you don't have to be what people want you to be, there is nothing wrong with you, be what you want to be you were not born to be what they want you to be,nobody is YOUER THAN YOJ
Laalvezz3
August 16th, 2016 8:14pm
People are going to want you to be something and you are going to feel like you are doing something wrong or that you are wrong. You are not wrong, the people are not even wrong, its this idea that we as people need to fit into the mould the world has for us. For me, as a human in this world, trying to be forced into things I do not want to do or be, I make sure I am clear with my words and my intentions, and if I fall short I own up to my mistakes but always go to bed with self love and kind words for myself. I wish for everyone to find peace and balance within themselves.
LittleScottieDog
May 2nd, 2017 12:35am
You don't have to change anything about you. If people don't accept what you are, then they're not your people. Keep searching, you'll find someone eventually.
NoNegativeVibes
July 2nd, 2018 10:23am
You just need to be yourself, and if they can't accept you so be it, you being you is enough for most people, f you don't have to add on anything, just if you are not enough for them, than they are the one being ungrateful