Why can't I be like the others?

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cupcakesforlife
June 14th, 2015 8:42am
hmm .. Why not think it in the other way round ? :) Why can't others be like you ? Everyone is unique in their own way , and if you're lucky enough to be the different one , don't change ! Your life is going to so much special than others :) Just stay strong till the end and look back at your life with a proud look on your face :)
MelissaElissa17
April 6th, 2015 2:26am
You can't be like others because you are a UNIQUE person, there is only one of them and there is only one of you. Everyone can't be the same, but people can be similar. You don't have to be like others to fit in, it takes time to accept yourself.
worthit97
July 3rd, 2015 7:06pm
I would like to ask: Why would you want to be like others? It is a fact that no matter how hard anyone tries, they will never be like "others". Being who you are is perfectly fine. Being who you are is what makes you special. So stay special. Others may have something you don't, but while you are thinking of that, think about what you have and others don't as well. You should be proud of being yourself. You don't have to be like anyone else to be happy. Being yourself, that's what would make you a happier person. If you constantly try to be someone else, you would never be happy as you would only be living in their shadow.
1musicloverever
May 8th, 2017 3:12pm
There's a reason why everyone isn't exactly like each other. Some people share common things and some don't, but overall, we're different and who we are in our own ways and we shouldn't feel like we need to be like everyone else. Being you is the best you can be, you don't want to be "normal" or perfect or just like everyone else. Be you and you'll be just fine! :)
Dovah
May 2nd, 2015 10:16am
No one is 'normal', I promise you, no two lives in this world will be the same. You'll also find these things you don't view as 'normal' will eventually end up developing you as a person for the better.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2015 11:28am
You can't be like others because the only person you can be is yourself. We often feel the need to conform in order to fit in. This usually comes from a place of not knowing and not appreciating who we really are. Our personalities are like psychological fingerprints. They are bio-metric keys to unlocking true satisfaction in relationships. Get to know yourself, appreciate what makes you different, even if others don't. Love who you are because there is no one else who is exactly like you on this Earth. You are one in 7 Billion. BE PROUD OF THAT!
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2015 9:20pm
Why would you want to be like someone else? The best part about you is you! Only you can be you, no one else. If you don't share the same interests as others, then surround yourself with people who do share those interests. You'll not only feel more comfortable but you'll also have the chance to make new friends!
CandidGrace
June 18th, 2015 11:17am
Being yourself means individualism. Even if you're apart of a crowd you still have to be your own unique self. Don't lose yourself in what other people are doing and make your own choices.
chanelsdaisy
June 22nd, 2015 6:17pm
you do not have to. YOu are perfectly good being different as others. Even if you are strange or something, accept that and take it as your superpower
VitalSigns
June 30th, 2015 4:33am
The fact is you will never be exactly like anyone else in the world. No matter how many things you have in common with a person, you will always find something you do not see eye to eye on. The reason why you cannot be like others is that you are your a unique and beautiful person. What makes everyone beautiful is the fact that they are who they are. Knowing you are not like everyone else is a blessing, not a curse. It shows that you have a unique personality, and should never be downplayed!
Anonymous
July 6th, 2015 7:36am
Honestly Its not good to be like other people...being a own-personality is probably the best thing you'll ever get
neverletlifetakeyourspark
July 21st, 2015 12:07am
You can't be like the others because you are not the others. You are yourself. Everyone is their own person and they are all different. You can't be like everyone. Be yourself and you will be as close to the others as you can be. Don't do things because other people do them. Do things because you want to do them. Don't waste your time trying to be someone else, darling.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2015 9:59pm
Because every one is unique in they're own way. You don't need to be like others just be yourself and you'll be fine! ^.^
greenberyl
September 1st, 2015 2:32pm
Well first off, why would you want to be like everyone else? Being like everyone else is silly, because there's only one you in the world. If you use yourself to try and imitate someone else, isn't that like killing yourself to become a worse copy of someone else? Fitting in is something we all want to do. And I understand that, so here's some help, I guess. Just watch what the people you admire do (but please please try to admire the right people). See how they act around others, how they talk, how they think. And then if you like that behavior, copy it and consciously do it until one day you realize that it's as part of your personality as anything else.
naturalSnowflake39
December 22nd, 2015 7:33am
Be you because you are unique and different and that's what makes you special. Don't try to change for other people
dalya123
December 29th, 2015 8:51am
You were not born to waste your time to be like others. You are amazing the way you are and accept yourself for who you are because life is too short to waste it to be like others
Makayla124
December 30th, 2015 1:56am
Because you are amazing as yourself and shouldn't want to form into society and the norm. Being different is good and others should want to be like you, not the other way around.
RaCat
February 9th, 2016 7:53pm
Because every of us are unique - and that's great. Just try to imagine the world where everyone would be the same, wearing the same and doing the same - it would be really boring. So you should be happy to be different, you make this world better!
Anonymous
May 30th, 2016 8:41pm
You are your own person with many different talents and dreams. You shouldn't want to be like others because you are perfect just the way you are
comfortableWings52
August 2nd, 2016 10:04am
Don't put yourself down because your different from others everyone's unique being different isn't a bad thing
HopieRemi
August 9th, 2016 9:20am
We are all like snowflakes. No one snowflake is the same as the other. This means that we are all different and that's okay. Why would you want to be like the others?
Cheesecake99
October 3rd, 2016 8:36pm
You can't be like the others because you are not. Everyone is their own unique person and no one should have to change to be like another.
Anonymous
October 4th, 2016 7:17pm
Why can't you be like others? Because you are you. You are a strong and amazing human being. You are interesting, with your own story and I know sometimes you want to be like someone else, but what if the person you want to be like, simply wishes they were you?
Anonymous
October 11th, 2016 4:59pm
Religion teaches us that we were all created to be individuals. Biology tells us that genetic variation is the reason we are all different. Whatever your belief whats true is we are different because thats the way it is supposed to be. Rather try to embrace it ;)
itgetsbetteripromise
January 31st, 2017 3:05am
Most people attempt to relate themselves to others and in turn put themselves down for it. Sometimes people completely forget that there is a reason you are not like someone else. Everyone has positives to them that sometimes cannot be taken and given to others. You have a unique strength, do not wish for others but instead, appreciate your own.
CalmWhisper85
June 6th, 2017 5:07pm
Because each and everyone of us is different and brings something unique to the table. If we were all the same, the world would be a very boring place.
xxLittleCheerleaderxx
November 7th, 2017 5:39pm
Nobody is the same. And being just like others will only make the world bland and boring. Nobody wants that. You are amazing just the way you are. I know it may not seem like it, but you were put on earth for a reason and these little bumps in the road...its all a part of YOU and YOU are amazing . Amazing in every way loves. Its more than OKAY to be like the others. Be yourself. BEaUtiful
Thelight1601
December 18th, 2017 4:49pm
Because why should you be like the others? You could follow their positive points and still be you. Everyone have their difference and you're not wrong just because you're different.
Soulfree
February 20th, 2018 1:41am
You don't need to be like others and that's why you can't be like others. Every soul is unique here. Even twin babies cannot think/do same thing.
EspritDuKaren68
April 2nd, 2019 12:33am
Why would you want to be like the others? We are all born with a unique spark. We were not made to fit in, but to stand out and embrace and express our specialness. While it may appear others might have something that you don't, it might be their mask that you are seeing. The worst thing you can do is compare yourself to others. Just focus on yourself and embrace who you are, the dark the light, everything. If you feel alone where you are, you are not. There are so many who feel the same way you do. Just be you and you might attract those in the same boat.