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Why can't I be like them so they stop bullying me?

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Last Updated: 09/15/2020 at 12:33pm
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Anonymous
March 8th, 2015 8:34am
Bullies are sometimes insecure people themselves and they bully to make themselves feel big..so may I ask would you want to be like them?
girlwholovestheworld
March 26th, 2015 6:38pm
Word of advice from somone who has dealt with bullying- don't. Don't be like the, they hurt people, don't hate yourself becuase someone is cruel. (You can't please everyone- someone will always be hateful.) Don't change yourself to be someone that isn't you. You can't be like them becuase you are you! :) Don't be a second rate anyone, be a first rate you!
Aleespli21
August 17th, 2015 4:19pm
Being like them, as in being like the bullies, is not something anyone should decide to do. It only let's them win and you would then be doing the wrong to others by joining their side. You need to stick up for yourself, fight for your dignity, and tell many people along the way which can help you.
ListenLady
August 31st, 2015 10:38pm
As much as you may want to be like them, you don't want to be like a bully. You are your own person and should be proud of being you. The bullies are the ones who are wrong and need to change. In my experience bullies are the way they are because they have had to be tough due to something that has happened to them, or the way they we're brought up. That is their issue not yours. Stand tall and be proud to be you.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2015 5:52pm
You shouldn't feel like you have to change to fit someone elses taste, people that judge others based on their looks or personality, without knowing that one person personally, are close minded fools. You should never let anyone else make you feel like you're not good enough for them, because you are. And being yourself is what makes you special and unique. If a group of people don't get along with you simply because you're different, then they don't even deserve your company in the first place. Find friends that actually make you feel good about yourself.
Shikaa
April 3rd, 2015 9:54pm
You don't have to be like anyone else. Be you, that's the best part about yourself. Stand out from the crowd, that's what makes you special.
therapinto
April 22nd, 2015 9:07am
Wishing to be like a bully is the worst thing to pray for. Bullies and gossipers are like pests in our society. Just ignore and avoid whatever they say to you. Tell an adult about it. Chill.
Funfloor
June 10th, 2015 7:14pm
You, don't have to be like them. They bully you, that is very Inhuman behavior on their part. If you would be like them, then you would bully other people, and them some one else will ask this question, The cycle repeated. I Hope you get, to know, Why you should not, make them your role model.
GracefulDuck
June 29th, 2015 7:34pm
Why would you want to be like them when they bully people as great as you are? It's cheesey, but I think it's important to always be yourself
playfulDreamer93
August 17th, 2015 6:07am
You are made to be you don't let some bullys get in your way shoiw them you don't care what they think next time they bully you say who cares and walk away or just plain walk away it is not worth you time to stand there and let them pick on you
Anonymous
August 17th, 2015 8:02pm
You don t want to follow in their footsteps, two wrongs don't make a right. Remember that in life there are people that are always going to be jealous, so forget them. Be the bigger person youll thank yourself much more
Bornfreehypnotherapy
November 3rd, 2015 11:22am
Being bullied might not be a reflection on yourself,Bullying is often an underlying issue within the bully himself.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2015 11:43pm
Because everyone is unique. This is, indeed, a very common response, but you are and you shouldn't feel that you need to be like them so they stop bullying you. Keep being who you are and I know you'll get somewhere quickly. Never try to conform to how they are because it may only stifle your true colors.
Anonymous
December 4th, 2015 5:51am
Everyone who bullies isn't cool
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 4:36pm
you dont need to be like them because they have there own problems just like every other person. honestly they arent the type of people you want to be around if they are bullying you because even though i dont know you, you are a beautiful person and i care so much about you i have been bullied since i was 9 and yeah it hurts but you are better then any of them so you do you and dont let them rain on your parade
thatsorachel
December 15th, 2015 3:23am
At the end of the day, when you get away from school or work or wherever you're being bullied, you'll be glad you weren't like them. If you were like them, you would be a bully! People who bully others are usually insecure themselves or they're just following the leader. It may look glamorous and great to be part of the "popular" crowd, but let me tell you this- and I speak from experience- Those who follow the crowd, usually get no further than the crowd. That'll probably be the highlight of their life- being popular in school or wherever. But a person who has their own beliefs and who is different and who is kind to people will get so much further than them. Why would you want to be like them, when you're already BETTER than them?
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 2:23am
No no no, you don't have to be like them so that they stop bullying you, you don't have to change yourself for people who don't feel good about themselves. Life is too short to spend it on changing yourself for useless people that are never going to change
Anonymous
February 15th, 2016 10:08am
If people are bullying you, you don't need to change yourself to be more like them. Look at them. They're bullies. They're dirt on the bottom of your shoe. You are superior. If anything, they should be more like you. Never shape yourself for anyone, especially a bully. You're perfect the way you are.
Winter41
March 8th, 2016 4:19pm
You don't have to be like then , you have to be like you . Never be ashamed of who you are , they bully you because they wish they were you . Own what your mama gave you and kill them with your smile .
Anonymous
May 31st, 2016 6:58pm
Have you ever heard of "stooping to their level"? If you decide to change yourself, you're inevitably letting them win by having so much influence on you.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2016 12:26pm
You can't be like them as you're not pathetic. If they bully you , they probably have unresolved issues with themselves , feel threatened by you or you're an interesting person.
StayStrong152
June 28th, 2016 10:24pm
Being like a bully will not stop them from tormenting you. If anything, getting closer to the bully makes it easier for them to bully you because you are closer to them. They do it to harm you because it makes them feel better about themselves. It makes them feel like they have some sort of power over you, which makes them feel bigger. The best way to avoid getting bullied is to ignore them and not give them the feeling that they can overpower you and have an effect on you.
Anonymous
September 12th, 2016 7:39am
Don't copy other, be yourself. That's what I have to say, you should not need to be ashamed of who you are. You're perfect the way you are. Bullies just drag others down to feel better themselves.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2017 12:21am
Uniqueness is a wonderful trait. I suggest you speak to someone regarding this major issue. Every person deserves to live free of fear and taking the necessary steps to prevent future bullying is vital. You got this!
Anonymous
March 6th, 2018 12:41am
You can't be like them to have them stop bullying you because you are experiencing it through a different perspective as well as you don't know the reasons behind the bullies in why they took this action to cause a threat upon you or others.
MerriGoRound
March 10th, 2020 7:38pm
If you wanted to be like them, that'd mean you'd be a bully aswell and the cycle would never end. Standing out as an individual is a brave move, and it's going to get targeted. Though, bravery can lead to strength, and strength can lead to perseverance. Being someone that people target could also mean envy, some people are afraid to stand out so they join in with that negative crowd.
AmarahSofia
September 15th, 2020 12:33pm
We are unique in our own ways. We do not have to be like them in order for people to accept us. Bullying is a serious issues that badly needed to be address. No one deserves to be make fun by the way they look, they speak, or the way they move. I do believe those bullies are not happy with their lives instead they are envy because they see something in you that they cannot have and tries to bring you down. Do not listen to them. If you feel you can make yourself better, then do it. Change for yourself not for others. We are all valuable and worthy. There will be some people in our lives that wants us down, but stand strong and show them that you know yourself and you they cannot take you down.