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Why can't I be myself around people?

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Last Updated: 06/23/2020 at 9:06pm
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Top Rated Answers
October 3rd, 2015 7:36pm
Because you forgot what an amazing and wonderful human you are! You forgot that your uniqueness makes you special, you pay too much importance to what other people think, believe in yourself, love yourself, and others will love you too, maybe not everyone but those who do, will be those who really matter.
October 8th, 2015 11:56am
Because you have fear about other people's opinion and you are hiding your beautiful originality. You think that when you are in a crowd you have to cope up with their likes and dislikes in order to gain respect when in real you must understand that only standing out from the crowd gains you respect. Around us the people can be judgemental, but you have to understand that they are doing this just because they are trying to put you down after knowing that you are unique and they are not ready to accept your success. Put your heads up and lead the crowd they may squeeze your mind, crush your heart but at the end you are the one who will win. 😊
October 23rd, 2015 10:39am
Question yourself , why shouldn't a supercool 😎 person like you be yourself around people ?
October 25th, 2015 2:53pm
Sometimes when a group of people see someone that's "different," they feel like they have a right to frown upon that person. It isn't easy at all when you don't feel accepted in an environment. There will always be other people who will love you for you--screw everyone else who can't accept you! Happiness comes from self-expression
May 15th, 2018 2:11am
It's okay to be yourself around people. It takes time to find your comfort zone. Take the time to get to know your surroundings and others that way it will allow you to shine gradually :)
January 11th, 2015 1:55am
I think as people we are afraid of being different and being judged. Everyone just wants to be accepted and loved.
March 15th, 2015 3:52am
may seem as if you might have some social anxiety its perfectly natural and may take time to adjust.
May 20th, 2015 8:30pm
Because i fear people will judge me and hate me. People opinion is not supose to hurt me but it does
August 4th, 2015 10:48am
I can't be myself around people because i don't trust people enough to know that they are entirely being themselves too. I find it difficult to let people in because i don't really believe you ever know what's someones entirely capable of.
October 24th, 2015 8:12pm
Because you are afraid people won't like you. Don't worry, everyone has mistakes! Just be yourself no matter if it meant for you to show your mistakes, everyone knows everyone has them
October 25th, 2015 5:00pm
I have serious trust issues.... so... what I did was I found a group ( for me, my school's Game Design Club) of people I could hang out with and actually relate to. Most of the people in the GDC have been trough some really bad stuff, so I know that I can share my experiences and utilize my personality around them. In my opinion, it all comes down to who you can trust, and when you're around them, just be you. Other times, when you're not around them, well... what i do is i just sit there, silently, and I mind my own business. Due to my past I've learned not to trust people right of the bat... but... of course there are those people you can tell that you can be you around and they will be perfectly fine with it. It took me till this school year ( I'm a junior in high school) to finally find people I can tell my past to, and that accept me for who I am. It takes some time, and a little searching. Just be you around some people, talk about what you like, you'll eventually find someone who likes the same stuff.
March 28th, 2016 6:35pm
Sometimes it is hard to be yourself around people especially if you don't know them. Why do you think you can't be yourself?
March 28th, 2016 7:03pm
Inhibitions. Start Letting Go of Your Inhibitions Today and Change Yourself. I know it's not easy but then being yourself has never been easy.
June 14th, 2016 2:40am
It's hard for some people to really feel safe or normal around others, which is okay. Everyone is different when it comes to opening up around others.
September 27th, 2016 7:57am
You can. You might feel like you can't. But you can. Do you feel anxious around other people? Maybe it causes to you climb into a shell?
October 3rd, 2016 2:22pm
Maybe because you're scared to let people see the real you and might think that once they see the real you the will start leaving you.
October 25th, 2016 1:28am
Because I'm afraid of what they could think about me. I'm afraid that they just say something like "you're weird".
February 6th, 2017 12:32am
Being yourself around other people can make you feel vulnerable if there are qualities about yourself that you feel insecure about. You can still be yourself around people but act differently with different people. That doesn't make you fake, it makes you a person, and that's OK! Surround yourself with people you like and people that care about you; your true self will come through.
June 18th, 2018 11:40pm
I think it has something to do with meeting society expectations, its our human experience to be accepted by others, so we try to fit in as best we can.
June 23rd, 2020 9:06pm
I do not feel comfortable sometimes when being around people since they may judge me for who I am. Also, I act one way to one group and another way with another group. It is like I created a "persona" in order to "fit in" with a group of people I am with. The only time that I am "truly myself" is when I am alone in the house, room, or anywhere because I know that being myself is when I am true to myself. Knowing that it would also depend on my comfortability towards other people I know as well.