Why can't I react to bullying in an assertive way?
Last Updated: 07/23/2018 at 2:48am
Jennifer Patterson, LMFT, ATR-BC
Life can be messy. Sometimes you need a little support to make your way through it. I love to help guide people through their challenges & to find the beauty in our messes.
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Bullying is a rough subject. Sometimes being assertive in those situations can be super duper hard. My recommendation is to tell the person you trust the most... also let them know that you find it hard to do so and allow them to handle it themselves! Hope this helps! xoxo
You can't react to bullying in an assertive way because then they know it bugs/annoys you when they do that. Then they will just keep doing it. Just remember it is better to ignore them. Remember they aren't worth it.
Although they do these things to you, doing the things back to them doesn't make it right. By this I mean that you may feel like you don't want to do to them what they do to you because perhaps you don't want others to go through what you are, even if it is those who are making you feel this way.
its not worth your feedback... you can handle the things with better way. focus on your carrier... if they will see you are not having any problem by their bullying they will have no fun in it and they will stop it
Some people are generally more relaxed then others. You may feel intimidated by the bully. Just remember that you have nothing to be afraid of! :)
I have told a bully that they were wrong, and told them I was happy about my flaws. I told them I felt bad for them because there must be something upsetting them, or they wouldnt be trying to hurt me.
Probably because you are afraid of what will happen if you tell someone or you are scared of what they will do next. Just ignore the haters. You can't let them change you.
It could be a matter of self-confidence. If you have low self-esteem, you are likely to let yourself be walked all over by those who treat you badly. By building up confidence in yourself and learning to love and care for yourself, you are more likely to feel comfortable standing up for yourself.
Maybe you deal with things passively, and taking affirmative action takes some time to get used to.
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