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Why can't people just be nice?

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Last Updated: 08/13/2018 at 6:29am
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March 2nd, 2015 1:32am
Sadly people are not raised to be nice or accept kind actions without compensation. Often we forget that we're one big family and share the earth and lose sight of what is important. But just because kindness is dwindling doesn't mean all hope is lost. Try to influence people with being kind even the smallest of actions help and hopefully kindness can once again become the norm.
May 31st, 2016 8:50am
Everyone must and will have a disagreement on something. That is how people of this world are. As to Which obviously gets people angry at one and other and both sides usually attempt to hurt each other. You can allow that to hurt you, offend you or simply accepts that and move on. If you accepts that and you still is easily offended and or sensitive. Then you should stop searching for people to make you happy and make yourself happy. If you allow people of this world to hurt and offend you. Well.... 7cups is here for you. Remember, however you feel in this world that won't add a few more days to your or my time on this earth.
March 16th, 2016 10:19pm
I believe some people are actually unhappy with their own selves so they're mean to make themselves feel better which is awful
March 22nd, 2015 12:06am
Being nice takes effort. People are always looking for a quick way for just about anything. Being nice has its rewards, but it takes effort and patience.
August 4th, 2015 10:54am
Sadly, not everyone has a correct or fair moral. We can only hope to find amazing and open-minded people and hang onto those.
February 16th, 2016 10:32am
For the same reason others are nice. Simply because we're human. We have both positives and negatives. People who experience pain more than happiness, usually behave in a more negative manner. Maybe, because they're going through something bad and distrusts everyone. Maybe they're pushing you away so they won't hurt anyone. There's good in everyone. In darkness, there's light, it might just be a little weak and dim that's all. If you know someone like this, help them out. You might get a friend in someone, and so will they.
April 19th, 2015 4:04am
When a bully comes up to you and says that your stupid and whatever they say t i you, dont listen tell them to back ofd and to leave you alone. Also if you have lots of friends who support you they will help. Tell them about it and the bully should back down. If neither works tell a trusted adult and they will take care of it.
June 14th, 2015 7:19pm
I am not defending people who are not nice but some people just do not know how to be nice. They were either never raised to have manners and to be considerate of others and therefore come across as rude, some people were raised to be considerate but might have low self esteem issues and their way of dealing with it is by being mean to people or hurting others as it makes them feel better about themselves. There are also people who are just simply mean to try and fit in with a certain group of people. There are many reasons people tend to be mean but just ignore those people when you find they are not being nice:)
April 5th, 2016 3:27pm
I'm sorry that people aren't the nicest to you. Sometimes they don't realize that what they are doing is wrong. Other times they just don't care. Either way, you can't let it get to you. Some people just won't change. As long as you are doing the right thing, then you will be just fine. Spread your positivity, and hope that will rub off on others.
May 14th, 2015 6:16pm
People can't be nice. This is a requirement of being a human. People are selfish and just think about themselves. You, just you can have a big impact on the world. So be different. Be nice to people.
June 17th, 2015 11:33am
I know its a world of ups and downs like a roller coaster. But its because not everyone is the same. Everyone is different. Its something that we all have to accept, that not everyone is nice.
October 27th, 2015 3:27am
because anyone have their life and one people to others aren't same, so if anyone wanted to change the others, the object must has their self-belief to change him/herselves
December 22nd, 2015 10:26am
Because some people are dealing with hard situations that make it harder for them to sympathise with others
March 14th, 2016 10:17pm
sometimes people feel frustrated and express emotions in an abrasive way. They may also be experiencing difficulties in their own life so, it is important to understand every person's own personal issues can effect them. If someone persistently is bothering you, you may want to speak with them privately or with a trusted friend.
June 27th, 2016 9:29pm
Sometimes people don't realize they're not being nice unless you point it out. There's also always going to be jerks in the world, and there's not much you can do to change everyone. The only thing you can do is try your best to remove all the negative people from your life.
June 6th, 2017 11:55pm
We will never be able to please everyone. Sometimes it is there in securities in their own life they've still needing to heal. We we need to just focus on us. And do one random act of kindness at a time.
December 12th, 2017 6:37pm
I think every person is nice its just the situations that make a person behave in a manner that even he never predicted he'd react in , if someone has hurt you please don't hesitate in telling them how they've hurt you but do it with love.
July 16th, 2018 8:52am
Sometimes people may have deep rooted issues and may be struggling to deal with these and displace their frustration out on others. Alternatively; they could just be a mean person at heart
January 4th, 2016 6:34pm
well, there is so many people in this world and not everyone can be nice, we all have different personalities. Some people are cold and they are not nice, but it is not because they dont want to be it's just because how they are. They are cold and not warm.
April 6th, 2016 4:16pm
Here's my theory for why people bully one another. The first reason is they are naturally insecure of themselves so by bullying others they feel like they are something they feel like they are worth something. 2: they feel empowered by bullying others because they don't feel good about themselves ; so by bullying others they feel more empowered; like it's a power thing for them. 3: maybe they grew up in a very bad environment maybe their parents were bullies maybe they were bullied themselves circumstances for whatever reasons they may be maybe that's why people bully. I wish people were nicer though. 4 someday I do hope there's more acceptance because bullies should not be tolerated and people should not bully one another
May 17th, 2016 11:05pm
Some people will not respect others because they may get bullied or disrespected. They may also be depressed.
July 5th, 2016 12:06am
Because people are afraid to be hurt, so they build a wall to not get hurt by others. Everyone has become afraid.
July 25th, 2016 3:44pm
People can be nice, sometimes people just have their on way going about things, so they can come off mean to you.
January 23rd, 2017 7:33pm
Instead of thinking someone is rude or an a** to me and others, tell yourself that there must be something going on with them that we do not know, even if it is someone you think that you are close too. We do not know everything that happens in others lives. So don't be mad at them, understand that they are having an issue that they don't know how to deal with. Not pity but sympathy and empathy.
September 4th, 2017 2:34pm
Because some people just don't know the meaning of nice. It's nothing anybody can really do about that. Thats life through out life there is going to be people who are rude, people who may not like you, people who just sucks cause of how mean they are. But you just got to ignore them people & keep doing you! Or they will get to you! Keep on doing what you love & stay positve!
August 13th, 2018 6:29am
sometimes people get in bad moods, and that affects their behavior, they become snappy and sometimes rude.