Why can't we forget bullying experience?
Last Updated: 06/23/2020 at 7:57pm
Evelyn Coker, MSW, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
I am down to earth and enjoy working with all clients. I have a special passion to support teen girls and women. My work is nonjudgmental and provides a safe space to grow.
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Bullying leaves a deep scar, I know first hand. I have noticed that we tend to remember more of the bad than the good as well. The pain will always be there but accepting that is the first step to healing and coming out from behind that wall we put up. I am still hurt myself and certain words trigger my emotions, but I've learned that putting up a wall and hiding from the world doesn't do anything. You have to put yourself out there even if you might get hurt, because you never know if your missing out on finding true friends or not.
Because we live in a society where we are constantly reminded of the bad things instead of the good achievements in life.
because it happened to you already. there is nothing that can erase that from your mind, but you have to try not to make it destroy you as a person
unfortunately, some experiences we just can't forget. but don't let it ruin your life, don't let the past make your future decisions.
You can't forget bullying experiences because it makes us who we are. All experiences, good or bad, contribute to who are are as a person and how we behave.
as Barbara de Angelis once said the more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving the present. bullying is traumatic and It's tragic, how much a bully can affect our lives, even years after the abuse but you cant undo the past. Now is the time to let go and embrace the present. now is the time to empower yourself . Talk to a parent, counsellor, coach, religious leader, trusted friend, or even the listeners at 7 cups of tea, Expressing what you’re going through or what you have been through can make a big impact on the way you feel, even if it doesn’t change the situation and most importantly don’t beat yourself up. Don’t make a bullying incident worse by dwelling on it or replaying it over and over in your head. Instead, focus on positive experiences you’ve had and what you are going to have. you deserve to be happy. we are always here to help you if you need us. :)
Traumatizing experiences are the hardest to forget. They are etched into our brains. They come back when we think that we are okay and eventually you just have to learn mind over matter.
Bullying can affect us psychologically for years. The way others talk to us, especially peers, family, and friends, impacts our views of ourselves. So if you constantly are focusing on the negative things you've had in your life your self criticism is like continuously bulling yourself. However, such negative views can be hard to forget, the best thing to do, is understand that having a positive opinion of yourself out weighs others negative opinions by a tenfold.
because believe it or not bully's have a lot of affect on us. they make us believe things about ourselves that aren't true and that sticks with us.. sometimes for the rest of our lives.
Experiences like bullying can do so much damage, therefore emotionally, and sometimes scarring you for life. And as you know, scars don't fade...
We don't forget, because even when they're gone, the thing flash through your mind. The words echo in your head.
Because it usually happens in the formative years of a person, and hence shapes their whole personality
Because it makes you feel inferior and humiliated .it can directly affect your emotions and leaves in you pain no matter who you are
Bullying hurts us to very core and for many happens during our formative years. The experiences we have growing up and into early adulthood stick with us. Many, many time bullies attack us for things beyond our control and make us feel worthless or hated. These are very, very powerful emotions to have to face, but it is possible to use bullying experiences to grow. I was bullied all through elementary and high school, which left emotional scars that took years to heal. Now, while those experiences are still in my mind, I look at them as moments that made me stronger, moments that made me able to be here to help others.
Bullying can cause a lot of trauma to a person depending on how much they are able to take and how it happened. The individual themselves have their personal weaknesses and strengths that allow them or don't allow them to forget. Bullying is never a good thing and sometimes whatever the bully did can stick with a person for a long period of time just because it was painful. Just like people remember good experiences, we remember some bad ones as well.
We can't forget the bullying experiences because it made a huge impact on you to move on or even going back to understanding why they would even try to start bullying.
Because someone has betrayed you and it hurts. People who bully project their own flaws onto others because most of the time they hate themselves. We shouldn't forget but learn from the pain how to be stronger if it happens again
because our brains are annoying and wont let us forget it but they will let us learn from the experience and use it as an advatnage
I personally think that this is a part of human instincts. We retain bad experiences to help avoid them in the future. But this can be bad for you and you should talk to a professional
We don't need to forget our bullying experience, but to change our perspective over the way things happened. We may not be able to change the past or forget some painful moments, but we can try to avoid certain situations. In order to do that, we have to accept what happened to us and look for positive outcomes as we haven't been what we are today if bullying wasn't part of our past.
It's a bad experience that we have, and now all those actions have been embedded in our memories. Sadly, it's hard to get over or accept what has happened. It feels unfair and sometimes a certain thing will bring back memories that will make us very upset or even angry.
Sometimes we have trouble forgetting bullying experiences because it was such a traumatic part of our child hood.
Bulling effects our daily lives what we feel in general what happens to us the causes and there outcomes it takes time but it happens try putting out what you feel in writing or drawing
Because it has been traumatizing in one way or another, so it doesn't just get wiped off your memory easily
Because sometimes it hurts us more to know that another person would hurt us, than actually being hurt.
Because they destroy self confidence.when everyone bullies you,you will lose the value upon you.you feel like everything hates them.
I think it's because of how much it affects us emotionally. And it also plays a huge part in who we become.
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