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Why do I always feel empathy for the person who is bullying me?

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Last Updated: 07/23/2018 at 8:09pm
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tomhardyrockymark99
June 3rd, 2015 8:43pm
That shows the kind of person you are. You're a wonderful human being. We all know that bullies are those who have a lot of insecurities and other issues, and the behave the way they do because of these issues. You don't just look at people, you look through their soul. May god bless you. :)
Anonymous
November 9th, 2015 5:29pm
You probably feel like that bully had a reason that caused him or her to become who he or she is and that there's hope for that person.
Anonymous
May 16th, 2016 10:16am
Because maybe that person who is being the bully probably is going through issues or something that's bothering them and taking it out in a negative manner.
Emma16
May 17th, 2016 7:06am
I think that shows a lot about who you are and the connection that you feel to other people. It shows that you are strong. You don't owe that person anything, including your empathy, but I think your empathy shows strength. It doesn't excuse it at all, but it is true that many bullies are insecure and going through a lot of issues. Otherwise, they wouldn't feel the need to bring other people down.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2016 5:45am
Because you are kind hearted and care for other people. You understand that there are underlying issues in that bully's life that makes them a bully. While they are hurting you, you understand there is more to it than just teasing for no reason.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2017 2:03pm
Because you are a kind person and you feel that what they do is because of the bully's internal frustration. You are empathetic, but even so, do not be as selfless as letting others walk in your life and abuse your rights. You are enough, you will find a solution to get away, even if it will hurt you, but you will not be hurt by others. Never change, and as you already know internally that he is doing everything out of his personal pain and suffering, basically making others feel nad because he is feeling miserable, you will be compasionate ans can even help him realise what he is doing wrong, if this is nit risky and do not give tou additional harm.
GrantC2001
January 1st, 2018 6:29am
Sometimes, you feel pity for bullies because of how they are treated at home or somewhere else. Bullies are bullies because they were probably treated poorly at a young age.
Hotchocolate7
January 16th, 2015 1:47am
1. Forgive them with compassion and love - www.wellbeingalignment.com/how-to-forgive.html 2. Finish it off by sending them love energy - http://www.erinpavlina.com/blog/2008/07/casting-love-at-people/
ruedabega13
April 10th, 2018 10:08pm
Because you are a good person. You have goodness and empathy in your heart. Unfortunately, that isn't something that people have much of anymore. Keep strong and keep your kindness!
Anonymous
May 28th, 2018 6:29am
I find that I have even found empathy for a past abuser, and it was because I know it must be difficult to feel such an emptiness that they have to chip away at their humanity.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 7:16pm
Because i see person that lack of self confidence in them. People that have confidence never makes a joke about other people to look more good.
EmmaJayLoves
July 23rd, 2018 8:09pm
It means that you see the positivity in anyone even those who are doing wrong to you. You understand that everyone does something for a reason and they obviously have a reason for bullying which no one knows about and the fact you can see that means you are very caring and understanding :)