Why do I always get flashbacks of bullying, even though it's been 5-6 years since I was last bullied?
Last Updated: 03/15/2021 at 10:52pm
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Bullying can be very traumatic and getting flashbacks are normal. You might be upset that it happened and/or afraid that it might happen again. If thats the case, then flashbacks are to remind you to be careful around people, so you don't get hurt again.
You may be getting these flashbacks because you can still feel the pain. Some things will never go away and the pain will stick with you forever.
You may have PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). Bullying can be traumatic and have a serious effect on you later on. You may possibly be getting the flashbacks when you run into something that reminds you of the bullying experience--either a feeling of stress or something about the environment like a smell or a sound or something that looks similar. It might help to see a therapist to get evaluated for PTSD and to get some general support about your experiences.
They were thoughts because they were so traumatic and it drastically effected your life. It is say bullying is so real but thats the reason i can come up with. They are etched in your mind because of their effects. But you are who you are. You got this.
Bullying is always a rough experience to go through and it causes PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) in some cases, often haunting victims and possibly harms the victims lives in certain ways because they can never let go of the memories. Usually seeing a counselor or therapist always helps improve lives for and helps victims move forward with their lives and from the memories of bullying through exercises and many other solutions.
Sometimes brief times of uneasiness and/or suffering can have long-lasting effects. Try to focus on positive things that have happened rather than dwelling on the negative. I know its easier said than done - to just "let go"... but you've gotta try, try, try. Its great that that time is behind you, but remember: if you're still getting upset about it, they still have the power. Take it back!!!
being bullied is different for everyone; some may swish it away and have it not bother them, and for others, it can linger on. This is often referred to as trauma. This happens when our minds haven't quite let go of what's happened to us which is why you're getting flashbacks even though it was so long ago. The best way for you to manage this is to be able to talk about it. Even though it can seem ironic bringing up these memories and flashbacks, it will help you manage them better.
Because it is a trauma you have experienced. and no matter when that trauma was, your subconsciousnes remembers what happened pretty well even if you don't. so when certain things happen you get triggered and you relive those moments. Those triggers dont have to do anything with bullying, it can be everything actually It can also mean that you have not yet healed completely. that there are still open wounds inside you that need time to heal and maybe reliving al of those traumas is a way of your soul trying to get you to work on what is hurting you. but i am not really sure about that.
It had a large impact on your life. It has effected you in a serious way, but don't worry, these are common, and natural.
Because those memories that you where broken down by those kids sometime you see them and the memories come back
That can be because you're suffering a trauma from the time when you were. Maybe you're scared of it happening again, thus you're constantly reminded?
Because it still affects you. Even if something happened long ago doesn't mean you got past it, or that it got easier. You probably need to work through it and the emotions around it to get them to go away. It takes a little bit of work but we all have our battles right?
I believe that you have flash backs because once something bad happens it stays in your mind forever. Just think of happy thoughts and the future nit the past
It's something that has really affected you, even if quite some time has passed. I believe that bullying makes you stronger, you've been through it, and take comfort that you are no longer in that situation. Take it as it's your past and maybe try to talk to a friend or family member, bullying unfortunately is quite common, but the more time passes the better you'll feel. It brings anxiety because you fear it happening again, but you are doing well to acknowledge how it makes you feel, and many people have been through the same thing as you.
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