Why do people hate me for no reason?
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Could be anything. Money , greed, goodness, badness, sex...Its not why they hate you but how you respond/react.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 4:50am
People hate what they dont have. You have something that they really want and it upsets them that you have it and they dont and they take their anger out on you. They're probably just jealous.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 7:32pm
Sometimes people transfer their negative feelings towards someone who may have hurt them onto a person who has nothing to do with the event. They will normally negatively act out to a person and it can seem to be hate to that person.
Hate is a very powerful word. Just because people don't talk to you or don't treat you like you want, it doesn't mean that they hate you.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2015 8:32am
Maybe they don't even hate you. It could possibly be that they just want to be like you - or you're something that they really wish they were and that isn't your fault, it's there's. Just be kind, content and humble and let other people do what they want.
People will judge you no matter what happen, but it is not okay to feel affected by them. They do not have control over your life, you do, so what someone thinks of you and says of you should not affect you and nor can it be changed, but what you think about yourself can be changed and only that should affect you.
When people ask this question it makes me wonder how can someone hate you?? The majority of the time it's just paranoia speaking. But if by chance that someone does hate you for no reason talk to someone and they'll listen.
people dont hate you! you may think that..but its not true. some times, you might get the wrong impression or maybe they were having a bad day.
They probably don't hate you.
They might just feel deatatched, do you feel like theres anything you can do to get closer?
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 7:24am
Maybe they are jealous of you and that's why they ignore you , if they do that. but i do not think that they all hate you
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 10:10am
They most likely don't hate you. Have you tried talking to anyone about it because if not then maybe thats what needs to be done.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 8:11pm
Because your farts smell and you stink like ass. Learn to wipe it and maybe we will talk then. :)))))
No one hates you for no reason. People who don't know you can't hate you, and I'm sure even if they knew you, they wouldn't hate you. People naturally judge - it's part of our protective system. If you show them your true self, they will realize what kind of a person you really are, and they'll start loving you!
People's vindictiveness can be a way of coping with insecurity, stress or trauma. Or maybe the want to feel powerful by spiting others and some people are just easier targets than others. All I know is that it isn't your fault and that an explanation is no exoneration.
bcoz... they feel unsecure and they hav more of negativity surrounding their mind and their unstable thinking for verythng we do
because they want what you have but.cant get that why peoples get mad or hate on peoples for no reason and they.need to be or stop be judgement
Hate is a very strong word and an even stronger emotion. Nobody has the time to like and socialize with everyone. It could be that people don't infact despise you, just see you as a member of their "out group"
There are people in this world that will love you, like you, lust after you, and yes even hate you. Unfortunately, we may or may never know what the reason behind the hatred is. My suggestion is depending on your relationship with the person who doesn't like you is to kindly ask or write them asking what exactly caused the feelings of negativity. Once that is established, you can decide how to progress with either becoming friends or respectfully be around one another.
Are you sure they hate you? Disliking someone doesn't necessarily mean hating someone. Maybe they just have their own "style" of people, just like you. Or, you can start by knowing yourself more. Write down how you see yourself,and how you think others see you. Then, you can ask a family or a friend to validate these things. Your "I" is how you see yourself. Your "me" is how people sees you.
Often when we feel that people hate us for no reason, it is because they don't really hate us! Sometimes we can be "triggers" of reminders for other people of the difficulties that they face. This might lead them to treat us as though they dislike us but it is more truly because they are dealing with difficulties themselves. It is unfortunate, but we cannot force others to deal with things before they are ready to. Instead, we must stay true to our own self-worth and not allow the feelings of others to determine our own self identity.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2015 5:22pm
Most times, they don't! It's probably anxiety caused by negative thinking. On the other hand, you could be projecting an image of yourself that you aren't aware of. Try to be conscientious of the effect you have on people and understand why.
People can't really hate people for no reason. Somewhere deep down is a reason, however insignificant it is. I think if you feel that it is for no reason, just brush it off. They will come around or they won't.
I don't feel people hate me for no reason. I think that would be a state of mind or way of thinking.
Why do you think people hate you.Do you have a reason why people should hate you or why you think people hate you
It isn't really possible to know if someone hates you but you can look at their behaviors and see that they treat you badly an in ways that are disrespectful, hurtful, mean, etc. Looking at it is this way you can reframe the focus from something being wrong with you to where it should be on the person and something being wrong with them. So, what I am saying is that people hate for their own reasons that have nothing to do with you and everything to do with himself. Steer clear of people like this, and don't look at yourself less just because of how other people treat you, instead look at them and walk away.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 2:09pm
To know so, it's always best to ask people. Sometimes, we might be doing things that we're not aware of.
Because they they want to be just like you so they trying to put you down but never let a person put you down show them that your strong let them talk but you should know they never be like you don't care what people say let it go thru one ear out the other
The don't actually hate you, they have their own underlying issues. The best thing to do is ignore it and feel good about yourself!
Because people are jealous/sad/moody/or even wish to be friends to you but sometimes you have to look back at yourself and revise your actions for you might have hurt any of them unintentionally, it happens often...
Because the world is cruel and people are going to try and destroy anything that doesn't appeal to what they are because humans are animalistic.
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