Why do people hate me for no reason?
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Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 10:21am
They might be jealous of you like you have something they dont, the talents that they dont have. Or they just want some attention and they have nothing better to do in life.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2015 7:21pm
People probably don't hate you as much as you think they do. It could be that you're just anxious about what people think, and you draw the wrong conclusions.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2015 12:19pm
I'm sure people don't hate you. Hate is a very strong word! I'm sure there are even more people who love and care for you :)
That's not usually the case. Many people feel that other people hate them when the reality is that most people simple don't hate others for no reason. Insecurities and low self esteem can make you feel like everyone hates you but unless you actively DO something really awful to someone, they don't hate you.
You feel that people hate you for no reason. Has something happened recently to make you feel this way?
People always find something to bring others down. You can never please anyone. Someone's opinions change constantly. So I learned the best thing to do is just to be you. Don't try hard to get everyone to like you. The best people to have around you are the people who like you just for you. :) Be you! Stay true! It's one small step to finding yourself. Love you all! Remember you are never alone. *Hugs*
In my honest opinion, you can't hate a person for no reason and for there to be a reason, you'd have to know the person. In life, you can't always please everyone, everyone has different ways of thinking and perhaps your views may clash. It's okay. If you believe in what you do, continue. Someone hating you does not make you a bad person. Not everyone you meet will love you and it's okay to accept that. Remember that many others do love you for plenty of reasons!
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 7:47pm
I'm sure they don't hate you without a reason. Maybe they're just jealous of how you look or how smart you are. :)
Anonymous
August 15th, 2015 6:34pm
For no reason? I don´t think people hate you. It´s maybe just the point of view. We often forget that everybody else is dealing with a lot of problems and sometimes we think they being busy with their own stress and not taking care of us is hate, but when we put ourselves in their shoes we would probably act exactly the same way and we still wouldn´t hate NOBODY
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 5:37am
People may not hate you, you just may think that they hate you. If you are walking in school and someone just gives you a bad state ignore it you are better then those people hate them right back done even egnolgege them
Anonymous
December 11th, 2015 1:07pm
im sure they dont hate, hate is a very strong word. can you think of any time or reason you could have given them to dislike you? it may just be that you dont get along with them in general
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 1:01am
Ask them. That's honestly the only way you will get an answer. Ask them in a way that's not attacking but that shows you sincerely want to hear their opinion and want to grow from what they have to say.
If they're hating you for no reason,this could be a jealousy issue.Be proud of yourself even more you have what they don't have! :)
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 3:20pm
In life, we should never assume and never expect about things. How sure are you that people really hate you? And if really they are, for what reason? Everything in the world exists for a reason. Those who doesn't care also doesn't matter :)
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 7:26pm
They simply might be jealous, or there might be a reason that they hate you but you cant understand what it is. I remember some people disliked me because i never had will power and always seemed not bothered about the world but I never knew that that was the reason people disliked me. Yet again, they simply just might be jealous because they have their own insecurities
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 10:19pm
Mostly, people don't just hate you for no reason dear.they hate you for a reason that you do not know. Sometimes people are able to see that you are destined for greater things and to them you become a threat then they hate you.sometimes you find that there is a rumour going around your area, people get to think what others say about you is true.sometimes people see a good thing in you and they just choose to dislike you.those are just demons darling don't let them get to you.instead be motivated and do much more better in life for their hatred brings blessings to you.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 9:48am
They dont. No one hates you. It's as simple as that. This is an internal feeling and has nothing to do with those around you. Try asking people for small favors and giving small unexpected favors to them. Also try imagining that everyone you interact with is a long lost friend and talk to them with the warmth and attention you would give to a long lost friend. You will find that no one hates you, and if there is one or two people that do dislike you, it's probably something that is inside them, so don't let it bother you, we're all just human after all.
They may be jealous of a certain aspect of your life, or dislike your personallity. the best way to resolve it is by disconnecting yourself from them.
I think that's only what It seems like to you. Im sure not everyone hates you, that could be just ur mind responding to how people act towards you.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 2:19am
Most likely they dont hate you more dislike you It may be because of maybe some attitude or somthing of that nature
Hate is such a strong word. Generally people don't hate others - they may misunderstand, make assumptions, adapt other's attitudes, or may be projecting self loathing onto others. Be the bigger person and try to be polite and just ignore their poor behavior as a sign of their own personal issues.
People hate what they don't know . You may be the nicest person ever but when you are an introvert person , someone who avoid talking to people , they will start to think that you are arrogant , that you don't talk to them because you think you are better than them . they are wrong and being introvert isn't wrong either but , you can't help it , there will always be someone hating you so ,, only care about what your close people think .
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 1:12am
why on earth do you think people hate you for no reason? are you perfect? think of one person you hate without a reason, is there one? huh?
We are sometimes very quick to make note of how people think about us. This is usually through the observing of the people around us and a lot of times we come up with the conclusion that people hate us and we start thinking about where we went wrong but find nothing. That is because they probably don't hate us, maybe they are having a bad day or they don't know you so well yet. Some people have a tendency to act cold towards people they still don't know well. However, if said people really do hate you for no reason don't interact with them, you don't need that kind of negativity and attitude in your life.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 2:58am
Because they are either jealous of you, hate themselves for not being like you or feel threatened by you. It's okay to receive hate, you can't please everyone in the world, that's impossible. Don't mind people who hate you, they are on a lower level than you, so, don't let them get to you!!
Stay awesome!
There's always a reason. The reason may not be clear but wait a few months or even years and you'll realise. It maybe a simple as you said something they didn't like once or it may just be jealousy, but there is ALWAYS a reason
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 8:43am
A person may act like they hate you but they are probably jealous of the person you are cause if they hate you for no reason then they can't really hate you cause they have nothing against you.
no one hates you..it's just you don't trust yourself and you kinda hate yourself ... just try to be confident
People might not hate you, its just might be the way you're perceiving things , because I use to be the same way,
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 10:25am
Sometimes it's not the people who hate us but we, who are overthinking things. If they hate us, There must be some weakness in us which we have to deal with and make those 'weaknesses' our 'strong' points. People also have personal reasons to hate. I would just end my answer by saying, People hate.. Even the nicest people do. It's we ourselves who are important. If we think positive about our life, we would get positive outcomes from people too.
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