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Why do people hate me for no reason?

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Why do people hate me for no reason?
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December 28th, 2014 6:15pm
It is actually rare for anyone to hate you. Hate is a strong word. To hate someone for no reason is even more rare. Always remember that everything we think and every opinion we formulate in our heads is all the product of our own perceptions and experiences. However, sometimes, people are just mean and do not know how to handle their emotions or how to express them in a dignified manner, which leads to people getting hurt.
December 18th, 2015 1:23am
Sometimes people are just unusually cruel. This can be because they have a bad home life, or their own insecurity or mental health problems.
July 29th, 2015 6:18am
People often look for something or in this case someone who is either doing better or worse than them to direct their anger towards. When they pick on someone who is better than them it might be so that, that person can see their point of view. They pick on someone who's doing worse than them to up their own self esteem and make the other person feel horrible.
July 24th, 2015 8:25pm
They may be jealous of you or they just don't like you because of who you hangout with or because you get attention from someone they like.
June 21st, 2015 3:25pm
I don't think people hate you. Sometimes, people say things they don't really mean. Sometimes, you may misinterpret things. If you want that feeling to go, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how awesome you are. Some people will hate you. It's normal, its natural. But you don't wake up every morning to impress them. Everyone is different and if they can't see how amazing you are, they don't deserve a place in your life.
June 10th, 2016 12:22pm
You're more attractive than them (Jealousy) You have an attribute in your character that they admire because they do not have (jealousy) Miscommunication People might not like you because of their own prejudice They don't like themselves. They don't like you because you are comfortable being you.
July 12th, 2015 12:27pm
A lot of people hate other because they are smarter,prettier or nicer. So I think they are jealous. ;)
July 29th, 2015 5:05pm
Some people hate other people because of their feelings towards them self. Such as if they see a part of you they dislike about them self then that could lead them showing that anger towards you, Or if they see a part of you that they wish they could be they may also show anger towards you because they are angry at them self for not being a certain way. I guess you could say this is a form of Jealousy and self-hate on their behalf.
June 20th, 2015 10:19pm
There are three possible answers to this: 1) They don't hate you, they're just shy or thinking about their own problems. 2) They hate you because you remind them of something they don't like about themselves, or something they're afraid they might become if they don't try hard and stay vigilant. 3) It's not for no reason--you're doing something really obnoxious or treating them badly.
July 31st, 2015 2:50am
Sometimes people are jealous of you or something you have. It's also possible that they were bullied.
July 11th, 2015 12:43pm
People need to exploit flaws of others to make them feel better about themselves. They will be mean whenever they can.
January 24th, 2016 6:12pm
People are fickle. They invent impossible standards for you to live up to because it helps them feel better about their own insecurities. You don't have to earn their superficial praise and appreciation, because you are enough. Be yourself, love who you are because it's unique and important - and the more you love and value yourself, the more others will love and value you in return. In time, you'll find people who love you for who you are as well, and they're the only friends worth having.
April 10th, 2018 6:56pm
It is always hard to feel like people hate you, but that feeling can be increased if you are depressed or anxious. Try to step back and be objective about the situation; do these people actually hate you, or is it just in your head?
March 12th, 2016 11:14pm
It might not be that people hate you, you're just a common outlet for misdirected anger. Sometimes a group of people will consider someone an easy target for hatred and will use you to release their negativity without even considering your feelings.
August 7th, 2015 3:54pm
people don't hate you, it's themselves they have a problem with, and so they take it out on you. There is nothing wrong with you.
March 13th, 2016 11:01pm
I think there's always a reason, it's just that the reason can sometimes be silly. Remember to be yourself no matter what though, and stick to your principles. Sometimes it can be hard to be yourself when people don't understand you/your personality, but continue on being yourself, even if no one understands.
March 20th, 2016 12:23pm
Because you aren't like them. If someone hates you and you haven't done anything wrong, it will be because people think you have to be exactly like them because they're "are cool" and you're not, but hey! guess what? It's your life so live it however you want ;)
June 19th, 2015 9:32pm
Most of the time, how you perceive people feeling about you does not reflect on how things actually are. We are usually much more critical of ourselves than others. Remember, everyone has their own lives - usually hating other people, especially for no reason, is not something people have time for! You have a perception of how people view yourself. However, you cannot control how others feel about you. The only thing you can control is how you feel. Do not let other peoples' opinions on yourself change the way you view yourself.
August 13th, 2015 6:42pm
We misconstrue hate for lack of knowledge of a person. What appears as no reason to one, may be some reason to another. But then again, some people just have a natural knack to hate and that is not a reflection of you, it's a reflection of a hatred within one's own person that causes them to "hate everything and everyone".
March 17th, 2016 6:20am
if people hates.. thats their problem.. because they have enough time to waste thinking and dis-appreciating you... you should concentrate in cherishing yourself.. stop bothering people's review
March 17th, 2016 9:43pm
Some times people could be jealous of you or your situation. Other times they might feel threatened by you.
June 4th, 2016 11:46pm
Because we are human beings and we all have haters. We cant make everyone happy and we dont need to, we are not responsible for everyone. We all have flaws and maybe some people dont like that but that is there problem. Trying to get better is not the solution just dont live to make others happy. That is it.
March 19th, 2016 8:39am
People often hate others because of their own insecurities, they might envy you and who you are. That person wants to be like you but cannot, so they resort to hating on you. They could be going through a tough time in their live and have to need to take out their anger on someone.
March 24th, 2016 9:49am
Usually there is a reason. It can be appearance, how you say things, how others have been talking about you, violating social norms, or being expressively different.
March 31st, 2016 2:30am
The people that hate you for no reason for matter, I've had loads of people not liking me! Smile at them, make them see you're not bothered
May 9th, 2016 1:26pm
because you are better than tem in every possible way and they cant be who you are
February 11th, 2016 12:15pm
I belong to 'people' too but I dont hate you. People hatred is just reasonless on case of bullying. Bullying you would just make them 'better' than you but the truth is it doesn't. They are either jealous or crave attention that desperate enough to make a person suffer. I love you and so do many others out there. Think of your family, your friends and those who'd just love to be with you. Dont feel that people hate you, they just know you're better and can't handle it :)
August 2nd, 2015 5:44am
They could be jealous of who I am as a person! They might of even heard untrue gossip that turned the against me
August 14th, 2015 1:27am
People in general fear what they dont understand. Therefore their misunderstanding can seem like hatred when it's really more like a reaction to fear.
May 7th, 2017 2:50am
I feel the same as you. I can't explain why happens that, but it's real. I found majority does it, while a minority does not. That minority it's highly supportive and highly lovable with me, they are people with a golden heart. I always laugh and smile and my personality is cheerful (in spite of all the painfully experiences I've lived), and seems like some people really hate that, seems like those people lost that innocence -because painful experiences- and they resent that fact (and they have grudges), so their wound/scar is touched when they meet a person with it, and react rejecting it or trying to shutting down that light. Because innocence makes you bright (look at children). Of course it's my explanation. for what happens to me.