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Why do people hate me for no reason?

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Why do people hate me for no reason?
★ This question about Bullying was starred by a moderator on 5/12/2016.
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Top Rated Answers
AlexHart
March 25th, 2016 4:46am
Pee are closed minded. They hate people who think differently because they arent as smart. People who unjustly hate people are sheep.
MeanBuster
March 24th, 2016 9:49am
Usually there is a reason. It can be appearance, how you say things, how others have been talking about you, violating social norms, or being expressively different.
quiescentvibes
August 9th, 2015 2:07am
No one hates you, hate is a very strong word! Always remember not everyone is understood. With that being said you are diffrent, original. Sometimes people can't handle it! Be proud
Georgiebronte
August 2nd, 2015 5:44am
They could be jealous of who I am as a person! They might of even heard untrue gossip that turned the against me
Anonymous
May 7th, 2017 2:50am
I feel the same as you. I can't explain why happens that, but it's real. I found majority does it, while a minority does not. That minority it's highly supportive and highly lovable with me, they are people with a golden heart. I always laugh and smile and my personality is cheerful (in spite of all the painfully experiences I've lived), and seems like some people really hate that, seems like those people lost that innocence -because painful experiences- and they resent that fact (and they have grudges), so their wound/scar is touched when they meet a person with it, and react rejecting it or trying to shutting down that light. Because innocence makes you bright (look at children). Of course it's my explanation. for what happens to me.
JoyfulForestRain
March 25th, 2016 7:34pm
There is actually a lot of reasons people hate other people for no reason. Jealousy is a big factor. For example, somebody may be awful to you, but its only because they saw that your mom drove you to school and their mom passed away when they were young. It's still not okay to hate people for no reason, but for some people it's how they deal with their emotions. They just need to redirect their hardships and emotions on something more positive then taking it out on you. For some people it is because they don't know something or don't understand it so they judge it for being different. There are a lot of reasons, but its important that you know that it's not your fault. Their just working through their own feelings and opinions in, sadly, a negative way.
Anonymous
June 19th, 2015 9:32pm
Most of the time, how you perceive people feeling about you does not reflect on how things actually are. We are usually much more critical of ourselves than others. Remember, everyone has their own lives - usually hating other people, especially for no reason, is not something people have time for! You have a perception of how people view yourself. However, you cannot control how others feel about you. The only thing you can control is how you feel. Do not let other peoples' opinions on yourself change the way you view yourself.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 1:27am
People in general fear what they dont understand. Therefore their misunderstanding can seem like hatred when it's really more like a reaction to fear.
JaketheTransguyFTM
June 9th, 2016 6:10pm
I'm sure that they don't hate you for no reason. Some people are jeaulous or are misunderstanding of the situation.
butterflykisses27
July 11th, 2015 5:47am
Some people hate other people because they are so unhappy in themselves they like to take it out on other people who they perceive to be vulnerable or whom they think might not fight back. Its not you. Its actually a reflection of the hater.
Abbeyy
March 16th, 2016 10:20pm
I'm sorry love I wish I could actually know but I guess some people envy you and that's why they hate you
GhostInTheAttic
June 20th, 2015 6:55am
Because you rock. they suck. you're amazing. They suck. You're perfect. they suck. jealous people hate on others whom they see as better. Their hate is a compliment, my friend :) enjoy it :D
keepitrealbri
June 20th, 2015 6:46am
Because they are close minded. You must be a strong and great individual. People hate what they can't be, just like they want what they cant have. You should walk around with your head held high and a smile on your face. Show them that their hate and negative vibes don't stop you from being You!!
afriendlystranger
March 24th, 2016 5:03am
People don't hate you, I promise. People are cruel to those they don't understand, or think are standoffish. If people are bullying you, let someone know or stand up for yourself. You can do it! :) ~J
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 8:36am
People hate others for no reason when they are uncomfortable with or don't like something about themselves.
reeyseelbeel05
February 11th, 2016 2:58pm
You cannot please everyone in this world. People may hate you, judge you and say bad things towards you without even enough proof and enough reason. Always remember that, there are 8 Billion people in this world. 7, 999, 999, 999 people may hate you but there is always ONE who will always be there to protect and love you.
lipsticklez
April 3rd, 2016 12:12am
Try and be a positive influenceto people, you treat everyone the way you would like to be treated !!
CK927
February 12th, 2016 8:32am
Because they're filled with jelousy or hate and have no understanding or concept of other's feelings or wellbeing.
KatherineKitten
March 25th, 2016 7:35am
This is a very common feeling to feel, and while I don't know the details of your situation, often people "hate" somebody for little to no reason out of having a low self-esteem themselves, or out of pure jealousy. However, I can't say that people hate you in general, as most people certainly don't hate you. I am not sure if you have ever been bullied or not, but if so, it may be easy to assume that people "hate" you from past experiences, leading to misinterpretations of the actions of others that make you feel as if they dislike you. It can be a choice of words taken the wrong way, a misread facial expression, or other actions that may make you feel as if you're being rejected. Humans don't always think before they speak or act. I can understand how you are feeling, and the feeling of being rejected by seemingly everyone can just lead you to feeling lonely, as well as anxious when it comes to being in social situations; but I can assure you that not everyone you meet is going to hate you for no reason.
Anonymous
May 6th, 2017 1:40am
I'm sorry to hear that, I know that feeling too. Makes you feel sensitive about yourself and confused on what you did wrong to that person. I wouldn't say they hate you, though. They don't understand you. Because they barely know you, they're just assuming how you are in their point of view, right off the bat. Don't take it personal. They either don't like themselves or have life problems, taking it on people they barely know. I know life's unfair, but it could be more unfair to the person who dislikes you for no reason.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 1:42am
I believe there's always a reason for why people hate you. Maybe they don't hate you at all. At times, some people envy you or are jealous because of your looks or because of something you own. If you want to get to the bottom of it, you can ask them, or do some investigating.
BlossomKitten
September 19th, 2016 6:57pm
There is always a reason but it doesn't involve you. Hate isn't a feeling based on a person but based on the previous experiences that person had.
VirtualVirgo
June 5th, 2016 12:40am
People don't generally hate others for 'no reason'. There's almost always a reason, and it may not be something they're aware of themselves. It could be anything from the way you look, to something you've said.
Jamielynnxx
June 18th, 2015 8:03pm
I have learned that when people are rude to you or treat you unkindly for no reason that it is a problem within themselves, and not with you. Remember, what people think of you is not your business; it is theirs alone.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2016 11:02am
Because im doing what is right which is contrary to being te modern and cool 'it' kid they all admire
Ambrosia1
July 12th, 2015 11:08am
Firstly, I'd want to know why you'd feel that about yourself. People have various reasons behind what they feel about themself. First of , tell me do you hate yourself? If you do, start with loving yourself. People don't care sometimes, they're ignorant, insensitive and ..bad. You'll find someone who'll love you. give it time?
Anonymous
May 6th, 2016 2:57pm
may be You just asserted your power over him. You didn't do it on purpose. But you did it anyway, and it's the sort of thing we accidentally do all the time.......
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 11:40pm
Some people think being disrespectful is a way to make things better or trying to say the others don't like them but truly they are hurting you and themselves for saying that.
endearingCandy76
July 10th, 2015 11:17pm
Because some people could be jealous of who you are or they are just really mean people who like making a lot people feel bad to make themselves feel good
beautifulCandy40
August 2nd, 2015 3:13am
They don't, they are just jealous of you. They probably want something that you have or they are made fun of and want to take their anger out on someone else.