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Why do people hate me for no reason?

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Why do people hate me for no reason?
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August 9th, 2015 2:07am
No one hates you, hate is a very strong word! Always remember not everyone is understood. With that being said you are diffrent, original. Sometimes people can't handle it! Be proud
March 19th, 2016 1:27pm
Your just surrounded by the people who don't appreciate you, the problem is with people around you, not you
March 25th, 2016 4:46am
Pee are closed minded. They hate people who think differently because they arent as smart. People who unjustly hate people are sheep.
March 28th, 2016 12:00am
Most people don't really hate you specific or on purpose. They are unhappy with themselves and try to lower their own pain or lack of confidence by degrading others.
June 5th, 2016 1:00am
People will act like they hate you and mistreat you because they themselves have self hatred and/or self esteem issues. When they find someone seemingly content, but perhaps vulnerable, they will unleash the ugliness they feel. They wish they were more like the person they are preying on.
November 6th, 2017 7:50pm
Everyone hates me to be honest. I have no friends, and you would think people would bully me for being overweight but they bully me for no reason. Here's your answer: If someone hates you, its probably because you are good in their eyes and they want to make themselves better than you.
February 11th, 2016 2:58pm
You cannot please everyone in this world. People may hate you, judge you and say bad things towards you without even enough proof and enough reason. Always remember that, there are 8 Billion people in this world. 7, 999, 999, 999 people may hate you but there is always ONE who will always be there to protect and love you.
June 10th, 2016 1:42am
I believe there's always a reason for why people hate you. Maybe they don't hate you at all. At times, some people envy you or are jealous because of your looks or because of something you own. If you want to get to the bottom of it, you can ask them, or do some investigating.
March 24th, 2016 5:03am
People don't hate you, I promise. People are cruel to those they don't understand, or think are standoffish. If people are bullying you, let someone know or stand up for yourself. You can do it! :) ~J
May 6th, 2016 2:57pm
may be You just asserted your power over him. You didn't do it on purpose. But you did it anyway, and it's the sort of thing we accidentally do all the time.......
June 5th, 2016 12:40am
People don't generally hate others for 'no reason'. There's almost always a reason, and it may not be something they're aware of themselves. It could be anything from the way you look, to something you've said.
April 26th, 2017 3:42am
People bully people beacuse they see something that they like and want and don't have and try to take it from you. Jealousy is the worst type of bullying. But please stand up for yourself and for others and tell a teacher it hurts to be bullied I would know I am still bullied today and no one stands up for me and trust me it hurts.
March 25th, 2016 7:34pm
There is actually a lot of reasons people hate other people for no reason. Jealousy is a big factor. For example, somebody may be awful to you, but its only because they saw that your mom drove you to school and their mom passed away when they were young. It's still not okay to hate people for no reason, but for some people it's how they deal with their emotions. They just need to redirect their hardships and emotions on something more positive then taking it out on you. For some people it is because they don't know something or don't understand it so they judge it for being different. There are a lot of reasons, but its important that you know that it's not your fault. Their just working through their own feelings and opinions in, sadly, a negative way.
April 3rd, 2016 12:12am
Try and be a positive influenceto people, you treat everyone the way you would like to be treated !!
September 19th, 2016 6:57pm
There is always a reason but it doesn't involve you. Hate isn't a feeling based on a person but based on the previous experiences that person had.
March 13th, 2016 11:40pm
Some people think being disrespectful is a way to make things better or trying to say the others don't like them but truly they are hurting you and themselves for saying that.
March 16th, 2016 10:20pm
I'm sorry love I wish I could actually know but I guess some people envy you and that's why they hate you
March 25th, 2016 7:35am
This is a very common feeling to feel, and while I don't know the details of your situation, often people "hate" somebody for little to no reason out of having a low self-esteem themselves, or out of pure jealousy. However, I can't say that people hate you in general, as most people certainly don't hate you. I am not sure if you have ever been bullied or not, but if so, it may be easy to assume that people "hate" you from past experiences, leading to misinterpretations of the actions of others that make you feel as if they dislike you. It can be a choice of words taken the wrong way, a misread facial expression, or other actions that may make you feel as if you're being rejected. Humans don't always think before they speak or act. I can understand how you are feeling, and the feeling of being rejected by seemingly everyone can just lead you to feeling lonely, as well as anxious when it comes to being in social situations; but I can assure you that not everyone you meet is going to hate you for no reason.
June 9th, 2016 6:10pm
I'm sure that they don't hate you for no reason. Some people are jeaulous or are misunderstanding of the situation.
August 2nd, 2015 3:13am
They don't, they are just jealous of you. They probably want something that you have or they are made fun of and want to take their anger out on someone else.
February 12th, 2016 8:32am
Because they're filled with jelousy or hate and have no understanding or concept of other's feelings or wellbeing.
March 19th, 2016 4:56am
It's the case that many of us paint the world - and the people in it - with whatever thoughts and feelings we are experiencing in the moment. Whatever we truly feel and think about ourselves, we project that outwards and frequently have a hard time looking past the filter we've unconsciously created. It's very important, then, to constantly ask ourselves why we believe what we do, about ourselves and others. Where do these ideas come from? What do they mean about where we are in our lives? What are their roots? By doing this, we can better introspect and discover the sources of our thoughts and feelings - and doing this gives us the power to make positive change.
March 31st, 2016 11:02am
Because im doing what is right which is contrary to being te modern and cool 'it' kid they all admire
June 8th, 2016 10:55am
You're gonna have some people who hate you. There may be a reason behind it, but there's nothing wrong with you!
April 2nd, 2016 11:08am
Because they want to feel more secure about their own feelings and they might be afraid to face their own feelings.
September 27th, 2016 4:24pm
people don't hate's our mind who forces us to think about it :) please don't think about useless things until a person comes and tell the thing in front of you.
May 6th, 2017 1:40am
I'm sorry to hear that, I know that feeling too. Makes you feel sensitive about yourself and confused on what you did wrong to that person. I wouldn't say they hate you, though. They don't understand you. Because they barely know you, they're just assuming how you are in their point of view, right off the bat. Don't take it personal. They either don't like themselves or have life problems, taking it on people they barely know. I know life's unfair, but it could be more unfair to the person who dislikes you for no reason.
July 10th, 2015 11:17pm
Because some people could be jealous of who you are or they are just really mean people who like making a lot people feel bad to make themselves feel good
January 3rd, 2016 11:46pm
There is a big difference between people hating you and simply not interacting with you. If you feel like people hate you first try to find people you bond with, if that fails, maybe try looking for friends in other places? The truth is, there are always people who get along, and people who don't. You just have to look for the right people :)
March 11th, 2016 4:10pm
Some people in this world are cruel. there will always be haters in your life, but you must ignore them and pay attention to not them but the non-haters.