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Why do people hate me for no reason?

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Why do people hate me for no reason?
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morphinesama
August 8th, 2015 9:13pm
If people hate you, try to confront them and ask for a reason. They may point out some aspect in your demeanor that alienates them from you. Keep a diary and write about your day to day emotions. read them later to identify any gaps. Also realize that at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what people think of you. What matters is what you think of yourself
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 11:37pm
I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe this is meant to make you stronger. We all have a cross to carry. We all have a struggle on the inside,but they don't care about yours because they gave up on their own struggle,if you get me.People who don't love you and respect you,don't love and don't respect themselves either,so you should pity them and keep a good heart while not taking their example.I think that in our days,only those with a good heart can survive unaffected by hate and evil.
calmLove29
December 27th, 2015 11:59pm
they are trying to put you down because you are above them, remember that always! they are just jealous.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 3:32pm
Because they are insecure about themselves, and sometimes because they are jealous. Most of the time it's not your own fault.
limegreenEast6926
July 17th, 2018 5:26pm
All my life I've had to deal with people who hated me without provocation. When people don't know you, you are a blank canvas. And just like any painter they will project their thoughts and feelings on to you. If those thoughts are negative and they begin to associate you with those thoughts, then it becomes very easy for them to hate you even though you've done nothing wrong.
Jacobs777
January 27th, 2016 6:56am
They are jealous of you. They have nothing better to do than to make themselves feel better by putting better people like you down because they feel bad about themselves. Or because they have stuff going on in their life that no one knows about and they want to take it out on you.
choosetobehappy16
January 4th, 2016 12:16am
I don't think they hate you ; I think you need a very strong reason to hate someone so I dont think they dont. They maybe just want to take their own pain away , and the only way they think to do just is by hurting someone else , making their life worse than theirs . I m not saying that it s something they should do , i actually hate it bu dont let them take you down , you are who are , you re an amazing human being like everyone else, and unique in your own way with your flaws like me and everyone. P.s Show love no matter what , I think Love always wins no matter what :) ♥
ArdenSheperdGrey
January 3rd, 2016 3:59pm
people are stupid and ignorant,they never think befor of speaking. keep on being you no matter what people think of you. and if they hate you,just show them a big smile, cause is ever the bestanswer.
MatthewTheMagical
June 8th, 2016 10:55am
You're gonna have some people who hate you. There may be a reason behind it, but there's nothing wrong with you!
Anonymous
March 10th, 2016 1:31am
A lot of times, people are hostile because they try to protect themselves. Many people feel that way too- a lot more than you'd think. It's an emotional protection method, but that doesn't make it right!
Zohaash
March 11th, 2016 4:10pm
Some people in this world are cruel. there will always be haters in your life, but you must ignore them and pay attention to not them but the non-haters.
friendlyNatural39
July 9th, 2015 9:43pm
This depends on what your "problem" is. If you identify as anything other than cisgender and heterosexual, there will always be something for people to have against you. The wrong types of Christians, for example, pay particularly close attention to, and harass, homosexual or bisexual individuals simply because the bible said that it's a sin to lay with someone of the same sex. Some react the same to transgender individuals because the bible said that "no man may wear a woman's clothing" and vice-versa. However, this doesn't mean that they're in the right for hating you. It's simply how those types of people were raised, and they know no other way to behave around you. You are beautiful in any body or any type of clothing. And, quite frankly, it's none of their business what you do with another human being.
dancingSunshine49
August 9th, 2015 12:27pm
Sometimes people don't know what to make of other and seem to "hate us" when really they're just a little confused by us. I've found that trying to be open and friendly seems to win most people over, but some times we just need to accept that not everyone will like us. Life is all about different experiences.
adoredYellow28
January 3rd, 2016 3:18am
They are jealous because you are super amazing and awesome, and they want to be you so much that they will stop at nothing to make you feel like them. You're amazing and they just want to be like you!
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2016 11:08am
Because they want to feel more secure about their own feelings and they might be afraid to face their own feelings.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 5:30am
Never swallow part of yourself for somebody's sake... there happiness isn't defined by you being a certain type of way. There the bigot while you get to smile at them and say I am who I am. It's a matter of accepting yourself... if they have an issue, its there issue not yours. Hence Being offended is fucking bullshit and further more makes respect a void concept
VickieLynn
June 20th, 2015 2:32am
People can be jerks. Maybe its problems at THEIR homes, or in THEIR jobs.. You never know what their going through.
Caed
March 19th, 2016 4:56am
It's the case that many of us paint the world - and the people in it - with whatever thoughts and feelings we are experiencing in the moment. Whatever we truly feel and think about ourselves, we project that outwards and frequently have a hard time looking past the filter we've unconsciously created. It's very important, then, to constantly ask ourselves why we believe what we do, about ourselves and others. Where do these ideas come from? What do they mean about where we are in our lives? What are their roots? By doing this, we can better introspect and discover the sources of our thoughts and feelings - and doing this gives us the power to make positive change.
luiggyneyra96
December 31st, 2015 12:24pm
There will be people that pick on you and others will help help you take another step forward in life. Thoss who do, are your real friends! There will be always be haters, but do know that after every storm there is a rainbow. Someone's opinion of you don't have to be your reality. Your the one that decides, not your friend, bother or sister. Don't let others opinion dictate your life.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2015 1:00pm
If people hate you for no reason that means that somebody is jealous of you, they wish they had something like you that they like so they might be jealous of you
SincerelyMe15
February 4th, 2016 4:45pm
Because they want to be you. They envy the way you are and they have insecurities of their own, and they think that by belittling you, they'll seem better.
TransMan1115
June 26th, 2015 5:58pm
I don't hate you, if you are actually nice and not being mean to anyone, then I don't get why anyone would be mean, they are probably just jealous of your fabulousness
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 3:39pm
There is many reasons why someone can hate you, it can be that you have something they don't, that they think you don't deserve it, that they don't want to lose to you, because they have nothing else to do, because they need attention....
caringturtle91
August 12th, 2015 1:48am
I people hate me in general for no reason because they are jealous of me. I feel that helping people overcome that jealousy it's a big step forward for both parties.
Anonymous
September 27th, 2016 4:24pm
people don't hate you..it's our mind who forces us to think about it :) please don't think about useless things until a person comes and tell the thing in front of you.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 6:39am
No one can hate anyone for no reason. Most likely you think they hate you but I am sure they don't. Sometimes we will think negatively of ourselves which will affect how we believe others to see us,
Ashley2k18
July 23rd, 2015 1:45am
People will hate you for the smallest things. It could be that you're doing so much better than them and they're jealous from that.
niceDreamer34
January 8th, 2016 7:12am
The reason most people "hate you" is because they're jealous of something you have. You may not think so but that is almost always the reason, no one hates someone for no reason.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 11:46pm
There is a big difference between people hating you and simply not interacting with you. If you feel like people hate you first try to find people you bond with, if that fails, maybe try looking for friends in other places? The truth is, there are always people who get along, and people who don't. You just have to look for the right people :)
RachelRae777
February 11th, 2016 6:46am
Do you know they hate you did they say "i hate you" in their own words? or do you just feel that they hate you for no reason? our minds can be very very powerful. Just because you think someone hates you doesn't mean they do if you think that, ask. If they've told you that to your face don't bother with them anymore nobody has a reason to say i hate you for no reason, as you've said above, "people hate me for no reason" those people shouldn't be in your life. I'm not going to sugar coat anything not everyone is going to love/like you and their are some mean people that do hate others for absolutely NO reason and that is uncalled for and very rude. Just ignore those people. they are the ones with the issue, not you. Just focus on the positive and people who love you :). Best wishes xx