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Why do people hate me for no reason?

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Why do people hate me for no reason?
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Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 6:39am
No one can hate anyone for no reason. Most likely you think they hate you but I am sure they don't. Sometimes we will think negatively of ourselves which will affect how we believe others to see us,
Anonymous
March 30th, 2016 10:58pm
Sometimes we think people view us a certain way, when in reality, they do not view us that way. Perhaps talking to whomever you think feels that way about you could help :)
Anonymous
August 16th, 2015 1:00pm
If people hate you for no reason that means that somebody is jealous of you, they wish they had something like you that they like so they might be jealous of you
Anonymous
March 10th, 2016 1:31am
A lot of times, people are hostile because they try to protect themselves. Many people feel that way too- a lot more than you'd think. It's an emotional protection method, but that doesn't make it right!
HelpWisely
June 4th, 2016 7:44am
It is impossible for anyone to hate without a reason, it's just illogical. You may not know the reason but it is there. In life everything exists for a certain reason even if we do not understand or comprehend it.
brightHorizon87
June 19th, 2015 7:39pm
A question here is what evidence do I have that people are actually hating me in the first place? Could it be that my subjective interpretation of a situation is faulty and that if one would ask the other person what he thought of me, one would get an answer that doesn't match with my negative belief? And let's say that a person really hates me for no reason? Lets say that this is a fact! Could I still continue to live and be seemingly happy and prosperous in my life even though some people hate me for no reason, or do all people have to love men in order for me to be happy? "What other people think of me is none of my business"
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 3:39pm
There is many reasons why someone can hate you, it can be that you have something they don't, that they think you don't deserve it, that they don't want to lose to you, because they have nothing else to do, because they need attention....
heycrysteezy
June 21st, 2015 10:55pm
I ask this question all the time. Why do people hate me for no reason? But we can also ask ourselves why we randomly don't like someone else, without getting to know them. People just have their opinions, and for whatever reason they can assume something about someone that isn't true. The important thing to realize is that their approval isn't needed.
Ambrosia1
July 12th, 2015 11:08am
Firstly, I'd want to know why you'd feel that about yourself. People have various reasons behind what they feel about themself. First of , tell me do you hate yourself? If you do, start with loving yourself. People don't care sometimes, they're ignorant, insensitive and ..bad. You'll find someone who'll love you. give it time?
choosetobehappy16
January 4th, 2016 12:16am
I don't think they hate you ; I think you need a very strong reason to hate someone so I dont think they dont. They maybe just want to take their own pain away , and the only way they think to do just is by hurting someone else , making their life worse than theirs . I m not saying that it s something they should do , i actually hate it bu dont let them take you down , you are who are , you re an amazing human being like everyone else, and unique in your own way with your flaws like me and everyone. P.s Show love no matter what , I think Love always wins no matter what :) ♥
GhostInTheAttic
June 20th, 2015 6:55am
Because you rock. they suck. you're amazing. They suck. You're perfect. they suck. jealous people hate on others whom they see as better. Their hate is a compliment, my friend :) enjoy it :D
Anonymous
August 1st, 2015 2:26am
Some people may not hate 'you' personally but may express hateful feelings and emotions towards you due to their own anger and frustration for other factors. This could include low self esteem or trust issues.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 8:36am
People hate others for no reason when they are uncomfortable with or don't like something about themselves.
limegreenEast6926
July 17th, 2018 5:26pm
All my life I've had to deal with people who hated me without provocation. When people don't know you, you are a blank canvas. And just like any painter they will project their thoughts and feelings on to you. If those thoughts are negative and they begin to associate you with those thoughts, then it becomes very easy for them to hate you even though you've done nothing wrong.
MathewTheBull
July 10th, 2015 7:10am
Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.
butterflykisses27
July 11th, 2015 5:47am
Some people hate other people because they are so unhappy in themselves they like to take it out on other people who they perceive to be vulnerable or whom they think might not fight back. Its not you. Its actually a reflection of the hater.
trisjlistens
August 1st, 2015 3:20pm
There might be reasons that you do not know. You might be being annoying, unconsciously. Everything has a reason.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 11:37pm
I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe this is meant to make you stronger. We all have a cross to carry. We all have a struggle on the inside,but they don't care about yours because they gave up on their own struggle,if you get me.People who don't love you and respect you,don't love and don't respect themselves either,so you should pity them and keep a good heart while not taking their example.I think that in our days,only those with a good heart can survive unaffected by hate and evil.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 5:30am
Never swallow part of yourself for somebody's sake... there happiness isn't defined by you being a certain type of way. There the bigot while you get to smile at them and say I am who I am. It's a matter of accepting yourself... if they have an issue, its there issue not yours. Hence Being offended is fucking bullshit and further more makes respect a void concept
smeegles2015
December 19th, 2015 12:58pm
people don't hate anyone they just feel a strong dislike for that person but it doesn't matter what they think as long as you love yourself
calmLove29
December 27th, 2015 11:59pm
they are trying to put you down because you are above them, remember that always! they are just jealous.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 8:43pm
It is unfortunate, but not all parts of the world are as sheltered from hatred, unkindness, unfriendliness, and rudeness as 7 Cups of Tea is. And when we live for long periods of time in a world where we are constantly being insulted, bullied, teased, or treated unkindly, that 'hardens' some people, which may cause them to inflict the same kind of negative energy they feel themselves onto other people. 'Hatred' is sometimes also stemmed from jealousy- when someone is jealous of you, they may or may not hate you also.
adoredYellow28
January 3rd, 2016 3:18am
They are jealous because you are super amazing and awesome, and they want to be you so much that they will stop at nothing to make you feel like them. You're amazing and they just want to be like you!
Anonymous
January 5th, 2016 12:32am
Nobody is for everybody, be happy with yourself regardless of others and then you won't care who hates you or who does not.
Pr0blemFree423
January 6th, 2016 12:09am
A person may think they are being hated when in reality, they are misjudging others' feelings. You need to put yourself in the other person's shoes and see what other feelings might they have for you but do not know how to show them.
Dananas
January 7th, 2016 11:04pm
Sometimes people dont understand you, because their education for exemple is so different. ANd people are so scared of the difference and what they dont know
GrowthMindset17
January 10th, 2016 3:33am
Don't worry about them. They hate you because they can't be like you. They envy the fact that you have what they don't so keep doing better than them !
pelizzijojo13
January 13th, 2016 10:58pm
Sometimes your personality, or person reminds them of a past they they miss terribly. They could also feel worthless because Cowards run away from big goals then seek cheap victories to feel good about themselves. and Brave people (like you) set goals and achieve them. Also sometimes a person might dislike you because he/she thinks that you are a threat. Cowards and weak people automatically dislike anybody who might threaten their position ( Steal their friends, get a share of the attention they are getting, get the job they are applying for ...etc)
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 3:32pm
Because they are insecure about themselves, and sometimes because they are jealous. Most of the time it's not your own fault.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2016 8:14pm
People don't hate you for no reason. Often people are jealous of you and actually want what you have. This often provokes them to say mean things or be spiteful.