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Why do people hate me for no reason?

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Last Updated: 11/17/2020 at 9:11pm
Why do people hate me for no reason?
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February 4th, 2016 4:45pm
Because they want to be you. They envy the way you are and they have insecurities of their own, and they think that by belittling you, they'll seem better.
June 18th, 2015 8:03pm
I have learned that when people are rude to you or treat you unkindly for no reason that it is a problem within themselves, and not with you. Remember, what people think of you is not your business; it is theirs alone.
July 10th, 2015 2:26am
July 19th, 2015 5:02pm
Jealousy, envy, they don't love them selves to love others, sad about they are as a person. And sometimes they don't know how to love.
August 8th, 2015 9:13pm
If people hate you, try to confront them and ask for a reason. They may point out some aspect in your demeanor that alienates them from you. Keep a diary and write about your day to day emotions. read them later to identify any gaps. Also realize that at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what people think of you. What matters is what you think of yourself
August 9th, 2015 12:27pm
Sometimes people don't know what to make of other and seem to "hate us" when really they're just a little confused by us. I've found that trying to be open and friendly seems to win most people over, but some times we just need to accept that not everyone will like us. Life is all about different experiences.
August 12th, 2015 1:48am
I people hate me in general for no reason because they are jealous of me. I feel that helping people overcome that jealousy it's a big step forward for both parties.
August 13th, 2015 1:25pm
Some people are a bad juge of cartictor and like to assume things without knowing people some people also like the attention so when they haven't got that they seem to dislike the person that does have it
August 13th, 2015 5:06pm
Sometimes people are afraid of what they don't understand, or they're hateful because of assumptions they've made and ingrained prejudices they have. It's best to avoid these people or, if you can't avoid them (because of a school or work or home environment) then to find positive people to surround yourself with as well. 7 Cups has some great support groups and people to reach out to. It's also worth noting that social anxiety can cause fear and perceptions of people hating you even though they may not - be careful not to try to read people's minds. And if you're school age and being bullied, contact your school administration or your parents to deal with the problem.
August 14th, 2015 7:55am
People hate people out of jealously. Love is to hate . Hate is to love :) ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
December 31st, 2015 12:24pm
There will be people that pick on you and others will help help you take another step forward in life. Thoss who do, are your real friends! There will be always be haters, but do know that after every storm there is a rainbow. Someone's opinion of you don't have to be your reality. Your the one that decides, not your friend, bother or sister. Don't let others opinion dictate your life.
January 7th, 2016 4:55pm
They may just be jealous of envious of you. Or.. They may not hate you at all, it may just be the way you see it. They might just dislike you just to be mean. Others just want a reaction, or attention to them.
January 8th, 2016 11:04pm
Endless reasons why, but, its best not to put so much weight into what other people say or think of you because in the end what you think of you is the only thing that matters.
January 27th, 2016 6:56am
They are jealous of you. They have nothing better to do than to make themselves feel better by putting better people like you down because they feel bad about themselves. Or because they have stuff going on in their life that no one knows about and they want to take it out on you.
February 10th, 2016 5:00pm
Hate is a feeling wich every person has and you can not turn it up. You have to ignore the people because they do not earn your attention.
February 11th, 2016 6:46am
Do you know they hate you did they say "i hate you" in their own words? or do you just feel that they hate you for no reason? our minds can be very very powerful. Just because you think someone hates you doesn't mean they do if you think that, ask. If they've told you that to your face don't bother with them anymore nobody has a reason to say i hate you for no reason, as you've said above, "people hate me for no reason" those people shouldn't be in your life. I'm not going to sugar coat anything not everyone is going to love/like you and their are some mean people that do hate others for absolutely NO reason and that is uncalled for and very rude. Just ignore those people. they are the ones with the issue, not you. Just focus on the positive and people who love you :). Best wishes xx
May 2nd, 2015 6:07pm
Unless 'people' have said that they hate you, i doubt that it really is the case but even if it is the case, there may be other reasons for why they are saying that which have nothing to do with you so be patient and wait for the right time to approach this topic with the people/person who has said this to you.
June 18th, 2015 5:44pm
When people's self-esteem is threatened, they are more likely to compare themselves to people they think are worse off than them. They tend to see other people as having more negative traits. They degrade people who aren't members of their groups, and they become more directly aggressive towards people in general.
June 18th, 2015 7:47pm
Because they envy all the beautiful qualities you have. They don't want you to be exposes to them because they know it will make you something"more" something they can't have or can't be.
June 19th, 2015 4:17am
There are a variety reason why people may dislike you and the majority of them may not be your fault in general. They may just be jealous or they may have a negative image of you, but the thing is who cares what people think you cant change their opinion so continue doing you.
June 19th, 2015 5:11pm
Hate is a very strong term, and also a very overwhelming, strong emotion. Therefore it always needs a reason to trigger it. (I, for one, think that hate forms just like love: slowly rooting in someone's soul. Both feelings are hard to build up, but they last for a longer time, and they are constant, somewhat "burning" feelings. ) So it needs a reason - but the reason itself is not always in you. If this hate you feel comes from bulliing, the true reason are the bullies themselves. Some people just need to vent their feelings, their anxiety or low self-esteem through bulliing and spreading hate on others (I was a victim of such a situation back in high school for 3,5 years). It's a form of trolling, and these people should either be avoided or given assistance to overcome their own "demons". But if you constantly feel like being hated, but there is no outter trigger - meaning no buliing or bad acts towards you from others - then it might be a case of depression. Look inside you, and ask yourself some questions : what makes you think that people hate you? How would you describe this "hate" you feel from them? Are there specific situations where you feel like this? If you'd have to write a list of your attributes, would there be something on the list that you'd hate in someone else? Discovering the answer to this specific - and very hard! - question is quite a trip. But the listeners on this site are here to aid you on this journey. You are not alone. And you are definently not hated. If you need help from someone who experienced hate from both sides - bulliing and self-loathing episodes - just message me. I'd gladly listen to your story.
June 20th, 2015 2:32am
People can be jerks. Maybe its problems at THEIR homes, or in THEIR jobs.. You never know what their going through.
June 20th, 2015 6:46am
Because they are close minded. You must be a strong and great individual. People hate what they can't be, just like they want what they cant have. You should walk around with your head held high and a smile on your face. Show them that their hate and negative vibes don't stop you from being You!!
June 21st, 2015 11:57am
People hate me because they have too much time to see how awesome I am and I make them extremely jealous.
June 21st, 2015 6:27pm
they don't hate you. you might think that they do but they most likely don't. sometimes you just have to go up to them and talk to them
June 24th, 2015 11:30am
You're an amazing human being and don't let mean people make you feel hated. People out there care:)
June 24th, 2015 3:48pm
People who do that aren't necessary in your life. Maybe they don't want anything to do with anyone, or maybe they are jealous. We will never know.
June 25th, 2015 5:08am
some people hate you for no reason because they either envy you, or they have nothing to do with their life
June 25th, 2015 6:39pm
people are getting hated so much, that they want others to feel bad too. Trust me, only the people who earn little love, give little love
July 2nd, 2015 6:44am
Hate is a pretty strong word. It might seem like people 'hate' you for no reason. But it's really all in their minds. Often it's not you, it's them. They could be jealous of you; they feel that you are a threat to them in some way. It's really their problem, not yours. Always remember to stand up for yourself.